Hey girls....I'm curious about your opinions...heres some history
I've exclusively bf all my babies until at least 7 months old and then continued nursing with few solids until they're over a year (only stopped because I lose my milk a few months into my next pregnancy) I nurse on demand and allow them to make the schedule. My first two didn't STTN until 18 months old (I consider sttn when they sleep from bedtime until a decent morning hour My mensus returned at 9 months pp with the first and 10 months with the second. I was preggers immediately and they are 18 months apart. There's 19 months between #2 and #3. #3 wanted to STTN but I would wake her at 11pm every night to nurse before I went to bed. I got my cycle back at 8 months pp with her but had a defective LP then a miscarriage. There's 22 months between #3 and #4. #4 is a huge baby. He's 3 months old now and weighs about 18lbs. He was 9lbs at birth (10 days early ) and is a great nurser. He nursed every hour or two at night for the first 10 weeks or so....we put him in the nursery at 3 months and he suddenly found his thumb and started STTN! As in, down at 6 or 7pm and sleeping until 7 or 8am. I've never had a baby do this and never encouraged a baby to do so. He's happy as a bedbug and has so much fat on him, I don't feel like he's missing anything by allowing him to sleep. I'm curious what you think my body will do? Should I expect my period to show? If so, about how long if he keeps this schedule up? Like I said, I've never had a baby do this to me before. Might be time to pull out my charting again perhaps? How many hours without nursing at night usually forces the cycle back?
If you're relying on BFing as birth control then I'd definitely work on the assumption that AF is coming soon. Since she has returned prior to weaning with your previous children its likely she will return soon. Sorry. But hey, my DD is almost a year, hasn't ever STTN (I use the same definition you do ) and I'd gladly take AF back if it meant she would!
I felt your pain with my first two So I sympathize. I'm torn about getting my cycle back. I'm dying for it to return so I can chart and have another. On the other hand, in the past, my milk has dried up about 3 months into my pregnancy (I get horrible morning sickness.) It's extremely important to me to nurse past a year and give the current baby everything I can to start out his life. I guess I should start charting as we average about 4ish times DTD a week so yeah...ahem. Might be a good idea to keep an eye on what's going on. Hope your precious little one gives you some rest soon!
My baby #3 did the same thing your is! He was happy as a lark STTN right around the same age and he was a chunker!!
It's hard to say really on the af thing.
With my DS#1 I nursed him for 9 months regularly then dropped down to 2 bf's per day. within 3 weeks of that I got af back.
With DS#2 I bf'd him until 14 months but I dropped down to 3 bf's per day around 9 1/2 months. As soon as I did that I got af back.
I think if you have times where you have a gap of more than 6 hours (ish) the liklihood of your cycle returning is pretty high. That's just a guess though!
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The magic number as far as I know is 5 hours. And of course there are always people who break those rules, but, that is the general, applies to MOST of the population rule. Then again, I finally got my period back when my DD was 15 mos, but, she still hasn't slept a 5 hour stretch- and I'd say hasn't ever gone 5 hours without nursing. So yeah.... But I'd say your period is on it's way back and SOON!
Mara & Joel, 2009
You need to consider yourself fertile and address that according to your personal philosophy.
In Breastfeeding: A Guide for the Medical Profession, Dr. Ruth Lawrence explains that that it's important that mothers don't expect casual breastfeeding to limit their fertility. She writes:A significant distinction should be made between token breastfeeding with early solids and more rigid feeding schedules and the ad lib breastfeeding around the clock with no solids until the infant is six months old. The amount and frequency of sucking are closely related to the continued amenorrhea in most women. When a totally breastfed infant sleeps through the night at an early age, requiring no suckling for six hours or more at night, the suppressive effect on menses diminishes. It has also been shown that if the infant uses a pacifier rather than receiving nonnutritive sucking at the breast, the suppression of ovulation is diminished.
Homebirthing, breastfeeding, sling wearing, cloth diapering momma to 3 girls ages 7 and 6 year old twins and peanut #4 due sometime in late September
Thank you ladies! You'd think that after 4 babies, I'd have this figured out. BUt, I don't I've never had a baby do this and like I said, I'm the type of mama that allows baby to set his/her own schedule and am more than happy to rise at night to supply whatever he/she needs. I thought for sure this one was going to be another needy baby and nurse constantly at night (and that could still be the case and this just be a growth spurt?) like he had since birth. It's just so odd and I'm torn between enjoying it and being worried over it.
Well isn't this thread a bummer
With my first I was exclusively pumping, I think about 3 months pp af returned very irreguarly until she was a year old and I was pregnant with #2
#2 exclusively breastfed (no bottles), solids at 5 months, didn't sleep through the night until she was almost 2, af came back at 16 months pp pretty much 2 weeks exactly after she didn't nurse for a full 24 hours
#3 exclusively breastfed, solids about 5 months again (maybe closer to 6? can't remember honestly), didn't sleep through the night until about 16 months...never got af back! I got pregnant right about 12 months pp so it would have been that. I still haven't figured out exactly what triggered ovulation. My guess is the holidays and things were super busy so he wasn't nursing quite as much but he was still waking at night.
#4 is also exclusively breastfed though I am pumping once a day/every other day and he's had 2 bottles (hoping he'll take one a week or so) and he's sleeping through the night already! Minimum 5 hours...so I'm curious as to what will happen this time, I'm hoping af stays away a while because he's the last baby so I want this af free time to drag out as long as possible not that I'm complaining about sleep! I'll take sleep over being af-free
DD1- July 2004
DD2- April 2006
DS1- December 2009
DS2- August 2011