Tips for new moms! (Please contribute)

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Tips for new moms! (Please contribute)

Please give new moms tips about anything you are finding helpful these first 6 weeks. (Or if you're kids are older, please say what you found helpful with them).

1. Always make sure you have a cup of water BEFORE you sit down to nurse!

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2. To avoid sore nipples make sure you are positioning your baby properly and you have the nipple well into his/her mouth so that his/her mouth is covering at least 1/2" from the base of your nipple. The baby doesn't really suck on your nipple, but on the areola.

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3. To avoid "scratched boobies" tuck one of babies hands between you and baby and hold other hand ( they love the comfort finger holding while nursing)

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4. Be sure to read "the Womanly Art of Breastfeeding" before the baby is born.

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5. Save your back (arms, shoulders). Invest in a breastfeeding pillow (or have one made) to aid in proper positioning.

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6. Learn the side laying nurse position.

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7. Wear soothies (I think that's what they're called) for the first couple of weeks. They are little jelly-like pads that give a nice cooling sensation. They will make your breasts feel MUCH better!

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8. When the baby latches on make sure their lower lip is rolled out and that they aren't sucking on that as well. The method is described in Dr. Sears "The Birth Book". This will help you avoid a lot of soreness.

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9. When it gets tough (and it probably will at some point or another) remember why you decided to breastfeed and have someone else help you remember why it means so much to you Smile That way when you're crying at 3:00 am and that stupid sample can of formula is downstairs you aren't tempted to get it. I kept mine until she was about 3.5 months old until I finally had faith in myself that I could do it and got rid of them!

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When the baby falls asleep, tickle the feet for change the diaper.

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11. just keep with it... one of these days, you won't even have to think about "ok, how do i hold the baby again? is the latch correct? can i hear him swallowing? does he seem satisfied after eating? is he having enough wet/soiled diapers?"... it'll all eventually get soooo easy. you won't even think about those things anymore. JUST STICK WITH IT! YOU CAN DO IT!

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12. Trust your body. You will constantly wonder if you are making enough milk. If weight gain and wet/poopy diapers are on target, relax! You are making plenty!!

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13. Buy some "Lansinoh" BEFORE the baby is born if possible! Put it on the second you get sore, dont wait until it really hurts until you use it!

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Thank you very much for these tip's I am thinking of gathering them all together and making myself a BFing support poster on my PC so that I can put it on the wall and get encouragement while I try nursing.

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ONE MONTH....If you can hang in there for one month, you will have the hard part behind you. It is all downhill from that point.....

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14) Pay attention to your diet! You body is producing milk and needs extra heathly calories. Avoid caffine. My little one was gassy and when I finally cut out milk in my own diet it made a BUG difference! Watch your sugar intake too!

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Experiment with new position to breastfeed in, especially as your baby grows. You'll find as their size changes, you can change the ways you position them. Being in the same position all the time can get pretty uncomfortable. The more ways you can change positions and continue feeding, the better off you'll be in the long run, especially for nighttime feedings.

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Make a breastfeeding station. I put together a basket that had a few diapers and a few wipes, lanisinoh cream, a couple bottled waters, a few little snacks, a book and the remote. Then all I had to do was grab baby and sit down. Of course, you can change the items in your station.

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The other things to add to your nursing stationand house in general are small pocket flash lights. DH found a 6 pack for me and I had 1 in the bathroom, the living room, the bedroom, the changing table ect. Theya re great for peaking around in the dark (especially to check that latch) and they are small enough to hold in your mouth while your hands are busy trying to get your fussing newborn on the breast! It was a life saver!

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Make sure you go to the bathroom before you start! With all the water you'll be drinking you'll need to go a lot and there is nothing worse than feeding a newborn (they can take a while but they get more efficient as they grow) when you need to pee the whole time.

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Don't worry if you are hungry enough to eat a horse. Two for that matter. Your body is working hard, and breastfeeding takes calories. Try to eat nutritious foods, but recognize that your body is asking for more with good reason.

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Vitamin E in the gel caps bit open and squeezed on the breast is a natural and works as well and Lanisoh and it is not harmful to the baby...it is easily digested even in a newborn.

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With both my children I found that propping them on a pillow and using the football hold in the begining...gave me a better grasp on what they were doing...if they were positioned well...if their lips were position correctly...a bird's eye view...if you will!

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It is now safe to take Advil...and do sooo in the begining...it is sore but it will pass!

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Give yourself short-term goals! Start by saying that you will breastfeed for 6 weeks. After 6 weeks, try to go for 3 months, then 6 months, then 9 months... by that point, you will be so confident that going 1 year will be well within reach and you'll save so much money not having to buy formula!

~Wendy

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Tips for Breastfeeding

I don't know if anyone posted this one yet, but here it is:

When you put the baby on the breast, shove their face into it. I know it sounds horrible and I looked at the Dr. like she was crazy when she told me, but it works. If the baby can't feel your nipple in their mouth, they don't latch on right away & can get really frustrated (especially if they're really hungry). I started doing this w/ my daughter and it's been great since then!

Good luck,

Erin

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If you are experiencing problems with your milk flow, especially in the beginning, it's helpful to put a warm compress on your breasts just prior to nursing. Running some HOT water over a baby's diaper and applying it to your breasts will help speed the letdown. Feels HEAVENLY too when your nipples are traumatized.

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Before you leave the hospital, request a nipple shield. Who knows, you might never need it, but if you do, it's sure nice to have one handy! It was great for me in the beginning when we were both learning how to do this and my nipples were traumatized.

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If you don't want to wear a bra at night, keep a cloth diaper nearby and place it across the breast you aren't using to catch any leakage.

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Don't hesitate to call a lactation consultant if you have any problems! If your hospital has them, they may be free if you delivered there. If not, call your local La Leche League and ask them to recommend one.

Something that helped me, also, was to keep in mind that we are designed to breastfeed, and women in 3rd world countries have no option to choose formula- they *have* to breastfeed, and they make it work! You can too!

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Just survive throught the first 2-3 weeks. I thought the first 2 weeks were absolute hell--but if you can get through that, you can get through anything!!!

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After nursing express a couple drops of the milk and rub it gently on the nipple and let it air dry, it is a natural remedy for sore nipples.

Place cabbage leaves on breasts a day or two after birth when they become swollen. For some odd reason, the swelling will reduce. (I have not tried this one yet, but plan to on this pregnancy. My friend just told me about it last week. When she was in the hospital and complained about being swollen the Dr. prescribed a tray of cabbage leaves and she said that it really worked. )

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Be prepared for changes -- your baby will go through growth spurts and nurse all the time; being prepared and accepting that it will happen makes it easier to deal with. Your baby may go on a nursing strike, which makes nursing a pain and tough to deal with it. Knowing it might happen helps you cope with it. I think nursing is like a roller coaster with its ups and downs -- I wasn't prepared for the downs because I thought once we got it down, it would be smooth sailing but it hasn't. I also really like the idea of breaking it down into small goals -- BF for 6 weeks, then 3 months, then 6 mos, etc. b/c saying 1 year seems so daunting.

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A method that i found to be very helpful is the sandwich.all u have to do is smash ur areola (thumb on bottom index finger on top) and put inot babys' mouth. and i found that rubbing the babys' bottom lip or cheeck makes them open wide.

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KEEP AT IT!!!!!!!!!!! I pumped for 5 weeks and fed Caroline BM in a bottle. I kept trying, but got really discouraged. I had pretty much accepted that I would be a long time pumper. All of a sudden at 5 weeks she LATCHED, and we have been going pretty strong ever since. For the first few days I had to "lure" her on with a syringe of BM ("shooting" it in her mouth as she tried to latch would get her interested), but now she looks for the breast!!!! I was really sore too, got AF, supply plummetted, and got a plugged duct. Keep going...stay positive...and seek support--an LC, this board, doctor, etc...

KEEP TRYING...it is never too late to get him/her latched on!!!!!

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If you are pumping and see that the milk has stopped coming after a few minutes, take the pump away from your breast for a minute and then try pumping again and you'll get milk coming out in full force. Knowing this has made a huge difference to me. I got so frustrated that I could only pump 1oz at a time, until a friend told me this, now I pump 4oz in one session...

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HANG IN THERE!

The first week or two is soooooooo hard..you are sore, you are worried he/she isn't getting enough, it takes a long time, etc. But I swear..It gets MUCH easier!

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Don't stress!!! It only makes things harder.

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ITA with the sandwich method. once sandwiched, i also then press the nipple against the roof of her mouth. that way she feels it in there and grabs right on.

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If you've had a surgical birth or anything else that requires the use of antibiotics for you or your baby, take an acidopholus supplement (or eat live culture yogurt) to help prevent thrush.

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If you have flat or inverted nipples, get a pair of breast shells! Blum 3 They are a hard plastic (but very comfortable) and they help break the adhesions that keep your nipples from protuding properly. My baby couldn't latch on to my flat nipples, even with a nipple shield (soft rubber) but after an hour wearing the shells, she latched on without a problem! Blum 3

http://www.selfexpressions.com/mehobrsh.html

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1. Buy a plastic-flannel pad. They are for toddler beds under the sheets in case they have an accident. They are 2 for ten dollars I think. Anyway, they are just perfect to lay down on your own bed under your chest. Now you wont leak all over the place when you fall asleep nursing at night! Even if you roll around they are long enough you wont roll off of them.

2. When pumping, try pumping one breast at a time. When you pump one side and it runs out go to the other side. You can do this forever! While one is being pumped the other is dropping down more milk. Also you have a hand free to massage the breast as you pump. I can get soooooo much milk out doing this.----- Pump before you feed (just a bit). Your nipples will get pulled out and have the milk pulled down already and your baby wont have troubles latching on.

3. Baby diapers. They are the greatst nursing pad ever invented. hands down. I had a bunch of newborn size given to me in individual packages. My baby was born to big for them. I got the idea to use them as pads when nothing worked (not even period pads cut in half). I can soak a newborn size diaper. Plus if you lay on it at night you aren't going to soak your bra.

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The best way to nurse your baby is the way they teach you at the hospital, I am sure. However, I could not do this. My wrists are so weak from previous breaking, that the football hold, cross over hold etc were so uncomfortable. Since day one, I did so much better with the cradle hold. Nurses and Lactation consultants constantly insisted that I needed to do the football hold etc, but as soon as they left the room, I went back to what was comfortable for me, and obviously to my baby.

The point being, sometimes no matter what the nurses/books insist on, or what you read, you know what feels best to you. If it works, why not follow through with it?

My little one is a chubby little 7 month old, and he is still nursing like a champ. Now we cradle hold, sit up and nurse while I lie down (so cute), and lie down and nurse. He knows what is comfortable and so do I. I am sooo glad that I stuck with the breastfeeding. It is incredible!!!

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My best advice if you are planning on exclusively BF is to leave the free formula at the hospital and not have any in your house. That way, if and when you have one of those I can't do it moments, you will have to truly think about going out and buying formula before offering it.

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Be patient

The first few weeks can be difficult and you might get discouraged, but the biggest thing that I did was to be patient, it is so worth it. I remember reading other women telling me to stick with it and glad i listened.

Lorie

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Learn the lying down position, especially if you are comfortable co-sleeping!!

My DD would always fall asleep on the breast and when I moved her to put her down somewhere, she would wake right up again. Once I started feeding my DD (she was about 7 weeks old) lying down in my bed, I would just move away when she was done and we have been STTN since then.

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When you're feeling discouraged, DON'T complain to non-supportive people! Get some close nursing buddies and call on them. A MIL who never nursed is not the one to talk to!

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If you are in the UK you can get lanisoh cream free on perscrption if you ask the dr. it's worth it at £10 a tube.

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Have your baby close to you when you pump. Something about having him/her close to your body while pumping helps you to pump more milk out.

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Supply Problems - check out this website http://www.mobimotherhood.org/MM/article-diet.aspx

It has helped me sooooooooo much.

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My best advice is to pass on your research to a support person. Or even better- have someone there who's BFed successfully before. When I was fresh from my emergency c-section and kind of loopy- I was so glad I'd made DH learn what a good latch looks like. He could check for me when I couldn't function.

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