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This is getting to be very frustrating for me. I work full-time so I can't try to nurse her during the daytime like I'd wish to. Pumping all of the time doesn't seem to be working for me either. Yesterday I got 1 oz. Today not nearly as much. I don't want to go back to that crazy LC on the 28th. Maybe I should just throw in the towel. It's my own fault for not insisting on bfing her when she was in the NICU. DH is also beginning to work my nerves.

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when you're home with her try to pump shortly after you feed her. maybe that will help boost your supply. it's normal also to not get as much as she eats from you directly when you pump. pumps are not as good as the baby at getting the milk out, even the really expensive pump. average for a pump session is 2-4oz total. maybe some fenugreek as well(at gnc). there's a supplement pill and they also have a hot tea form that doesn't taste too terrible.

ultimately, if you do decide to throw in the towel it's ok. if it causes you too much stress worrying about pumping at work that will also effect your supply. you gotta do what is best for both of you. good luck

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Kim, I know how hard you have been trying. I wouldn't throw in the towel all together. Any amount of BM you can give Poetrie is good. Just because you can't give her all BM doesn't mean you can't give her some.

My best advise is to pump twice at work and nurse her at home and then give her formula. I'd add in pumping at home when you feel like it but don't stress over it. Stressing over it is only going to make things worse for you and for her. I would give her what you can of your milk and do formula the rest.

You have worked so hard and have done a great job at relactating. Most women wouldn't have even tried that. I applaud you for doing that! But I think you're being too hard on yourself. Any amount of BM you can give her is awesome. If it were me, I'd stop trying so hard and stressing about it and do what I could and get her the BM I could without stressing myself out. The stress probably has a lot to do with it also. If your stressed then you may not let down, baby will sense your stressed and it's jsut a bad cycle all around.

Like I said, I'd pump at work twice and try to get in pumping at home but don't stress about it and latch her every hour or 2 hours.

HUGS!

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My frustration is that this is very important to me and no one else seems to understand. I have a 16 y.o. that always has to ask what's for dinner or is it go for yourself tonite instead of saying Hey Mom I cooked dinner for you and I have a DH that understands the importance of it and wants me to do it but hasn't made it easy for me since the last time he pitched in. I wish I could afford to stay home because everyone is gone during the day. Also there is no where for me to pump at work and even if there were it's a stressful environment so I know I would get good results.

Also I want to do this without having to take the Reglan prescription that I have. I have been taking fenugreek and I've drank Mother's milk tea in the past. I haven't seen much of a difference and I know that I can produce more BM because it has increased. Just not on a regular basis.

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:bigarmhug: Just working and having a baby is stressful enough, I understand you must feel overwhelmed. If it's really important to you, hang in there. I think the previous post that mentioned it doesn't have to be all or nothing was a great sentiment. If you can get her to nurse from you, even just once or twice a day, that would be a huge accomplishment. I also agree that if you decide it's just too much - that's okay too! I worked and pumped and it was really hard even with a supportive work environment.

:bigarmhug: you've done a great job - and hang in there if you still want to do it. Another great piece of advice I got is "Never quit on your worst day." If you're super super stressed, hang in there a few more days and see if things calm down. Like all things baby - nursing/pumping goes in cycles, some times are good, some times are bad.

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It is so tough to pump at work. You may not have much support at home, but you have plenty here! Smile Like PP mentioend, it's not an all or nothing approach. My DS would never ever latch even after working on it for months, plus I think I had PPD at the time. I ended up esclusively pumping and had to supplement because I couldn't pump enough, so I totally understand the frustration. Eventually I went to all formula because it was making my relationship with DS terrible, I was always resentful. Sometimes it is okay to stop, but like PP said, don't quit on the worst day, wait until the next day so that you can make an actual decision. Whatever you decide, don't kick yourself down. You have done a wonderful job and are an amazing mom for even trying to relactate! Great job mommy! Biggrin

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Oh :bighug:

I know how hard it is. I agree with pp - don't quit on your worst day!

BTW - if your work place has more than 50 employees they are required by law to provide you a private space and enough time to pump your breast milk. It's your right.

Keep trying. Add oatmeal to your diet. Pump after a nursing session. Use the reglan if you need it.

You've worked so hard and no matter what you should be darn proud of yourself!!!

KUP and GL with lots of hugs your way.

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i forget if you already mentioned this or not, but do you have access to a supplemental nursing system? i know she isn't latching on great for you, but if you can get her to learn how to latch and give her incentive to stay on the breast by giving her formula via the SNS that would be more breast stimulation and more practice at the breast. i forget if you already have this/tried this...forgive me if you did this already.

i agree with "don't quit on your worst day" keep up the work...i agree with whoever said that any BM you give her is beneficial. :bigarmhug:

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Have you tried pumping one side while she is latched on the other?

Im a pump non-responder to the point that with Brayden, I actually quit work to stay home and nurse (he wouldnt take a bottle anyway) and this time, Im making arrangements to have DH bring Cassandra to my work (we live 2 miles away).

BUT, if I pump on one side while she's latched on the other, I can get 2-3 oz in a session. Granted, I am a one-boob feeder per session, so it works pretty well for me, but I do know some other ladies that are 2 boob feeders and do the same thing. It would also help boost your supply.

It takes a little coordination and getting used to (football hold makes it better) but since you're letting down for the BABY, it really helps output, IMO.

Star

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"carg0612" wrote:

Oh :bighug:

I know how hard it is. I agree with pp - don't quit on your worst day!

BTW - if your work place has more than 50 employees they are required by law to provide you a private space and enough time to pump your breast milk. It's your right.

Keep trying. Add oatmeal to your diet. Pump after a nursing session. Use the reglan if you need it.

You've worked so hard and no matter what you should be darn proud of yourself!!!

KUP and GL with lots of hugs your way.

I decided to use the Reglan(DH is gonna blow a gasket when he finds out). Don't know how much of an impact it has had yet as I just started yesterday.

Thanks ladies for all of the support. It means so much to me.

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"gdsgft007" wrote:

I decided to use the Reglan(DH is gonna blow a gasket when he finds out). Don't know how much of an impact it has had yet as I just started yesterday.

Thanks ladies for all of the support. It means so much to me.

If you get side effects of it, I don't think they start till later on. You're not supposed to be taking it for a long time I think and when you decide to stop it you're supposed to gradually taper it down. I've never taken it though I'm just going off what I've heard and read about it.

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I think youve gotten some wonderful advice. I just wanted to post to give you ((hugs))

:bigarmhug::bigarmhug::bigarmhug:

I know how hard it is trying to establish bfing after NICU and bottle feeding. You're doing a great job mama!

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Update on my progress

The Reglan has been working wonders for me and I still take the Fenugreek from time to time. But the biggest, most wonderful news is that Poetrie actually nursed and when I thought she was about to fuss I stopped. But she cried for more. WOOHOO!!!!!! So the nurse in is on again for tomorrow.