Wanting to BF this time.
I am really wanting to attempt to BF this time around. So I am going to tend to lurk around her and get tips and ask questions here and there. Just wanted to introduce myself here so that you learn who exactly is posting or asking the questions.
My name is Courtney and I was married 12-18-2010 to DH Jeffrey. I have a wonderful step-son that we don't often see, Jacob. Jeff is not the father of Ivybeth Louise born 02-09-2011 by c-section, but he is the best father he can be to her. We are expecting Juliet Anistasia in March via c-section.
We have no pets and I am a dedicated couponer. It helps to keep our budget in balance. We use disposable diapers and with Ivybeth we formula fed due to issues, but I am really wanting to try to BF this time.
I really hope to get to know some BF mommies!
Hi! My name is Ashly! I want to try and breast feed this time too! This is baby #5 and well we either had feeding problems, nicu stays or formula issues but I have a 30 day goal! I want to do it for 30 days! It's nice to know there is someone else that is kind of in the same boat!
I'm Wendy and have been nursing my little dude for nearly 14 months. My tips are, Get a good support network, hubby, family and/ or professionals or organisations. I understand things can be a bit different there but here breastfeeding is so heavily supported from the first feed or was at my local hospital. Support is key though. Also commit to a goal and then keep increasing on that. The first few weeks/ months (for some) can be difficult and keep that in your mind. Also some people find that not having formula in the house works as well, if it's not there you aren't tempted to use it.
Thanks Ashly our isssue was a NICU stay with Ivybeth. We are hoping that this is our last child because I am not healthy enough to continue to be a pregnant mommy any more times.
Wendy your tips are very good and thanks for sharing. My support system is non-existant currently. I can't even get the LC at the local hospital to return my calls. My family and DH are not very supportive, but they are letting me do what I want.
I was going to keep some formula handy simply because there are times early in Juliet's life where I will be away from her for a few days. Yes, I will be pumping while she is gone but that early I want to have some formula to supplement just in case while she is staying with my mom.
The no formula thing works for some people which is why I threw it in there. If you wanted to keep it away from temptation you could ask your Mum to bring it around when she watched Juliet.
Look into local groups to support you as well, I think it's LLL over there and keep calling the LC. When you are in hospital also tell them you want to see the LC and if they still won't come let them know you will make a complaint.
Hearing stuff like that makes me love my local hospital more, breastfeeding was a part of antenatal classes and normal antenatal care, we actually had a scheduled appointment with an LC in our general care as well as knowledgeable midwives who would come and check how you were going on their normal rounds as part of post partum care.
My OB actually told me that I should wait and talk to the Ped. after the baby is born about BF after I brought up the idea. That upset me a little bc like I have said on another board I don't think that it a wait and see kind of topic.
My mom will have Juliet and Ivybeth for about a week within the first two months bc I need to have oral surgery and I know I can't care for the two of them while being miserable.
In my area there is really nothing local. Everything centers around the two cities with hospitals, both of which are a good 45 minute drive. I have heard rumors of in home support after the baby is born but no one will give me any information when I ask for it. The only answers I get are the wait til the baby is born kind.
I'm sorry you're having a rough time getting some answers from the professionals.
I'm going to say some stuff not to discourage you (I really and truly wish EVERYONE would nurse their babies), but just some stuff to think about.
I have 3 kids. My oldest is almost 4 and she nursed for 33 months. My second will be 2 in March and she nursed for 14 months. My third is just a month old, and obviously still nursing. ;)
I had c-sections with all 3 of them. My first was an unplanned section. I was induced at 39 weeks, 3 days because of pre-eclampsia and after 22 hours of labor my blood pressure went too high, I had a fever,and was failure to progress. My second and third c-sections were planned repeat sections.
You need to read yourself and educate yourself the best you can since you aren't getting any answers. I wouldn't expect the OB (or even the ped) to be much help in my experience. I was truly lucky that my mom breastfed my brother and I and worked as a nursery nurse back in the 80s so she was a great help. If you can find SOMEONE anyone in your life that has successfully breastfed, that's going to be your best resource. With a little bit of googling from your location I see there is at least one LLL group with a website that is fairly close to you. I would contact them. http://www.llli.org/web/pennsylvania.html
kellymom.com is a GREAT website for learning more about breastfeeding also.
I'm going to let you know it's going to be tough for you just by what I've read already. 1) You know you need to use SOME formula. If you're determined, the easiest way (as someone already said) is not to use formula at all. Plus, every time you feed with formula, you need to pump to keep your supply up. Plus you might need to pump extra. Pumps don't stimulate the breast to make milk the way a baby will. 2) The main support people in your life aren't terribly supportive. Your DH (and your mom) NEED to get on board with you. Breastfeeding is hard and when you get to a rough patch and complain, you need a cheerleader, not someone telling you how much easier formula is.
As for when you're in the hospital, you need to tell every nurse, doctor, etc. that you see that you are breastfeeding. I think most hospitals are really supportive of breastfeeding, you just have to know how to talk to them about it and what you need. You need to nurse the baby as soon as you can. I think with all 3 of mine I was nursing them within 2 hours of their birth. You need to nurse EVERY two hours the first few days (You can go 3 at night) while you're in the hospital. For at least 15 minutes, but I would try to get to 10-15 minutes then let the baby nurse until they were no longer interested.
The starting of nursing is the important part. If you can make it the first 6 weeks, it gets easier. :)
I went to that site. The nearest LC is still in Johnstown, near the hospital, which is 45 mins to an hour drive. I only know one person who bf their child. She lives in my town, but i don't see her much. I plan on quitting after teeth come in. I am just wanting to do this for bonding and to help boost a poor immune system issue in my family.
My family isn't going to get on board and the more I am reading and hearing the less I am really seeing this work for me. I was told by several people that it is not ok to do it in public no matter how much people say it is and that it is very uncomfortable to try to do it in public.
My husband is little to no help with Ivybeth so not formula feeding will make it very hard when I have to take care of both kids. I am thinking it might be very hard to be in the middle of bf Juliet and jump up because Ivybeth smacked her head off of something trying to learn to walk.
This is where alot of my concerns lay. I am willing to give anything a try but I think that I may be more likely to give up.
Feeding in public is a personal choice, I did it because for me I had to get out or else I would have gone crazy. I had no issue (and still don't if I have to, but now he is older he can wait a bit) whipping a boob out. It is very discreet once you get it down pat, before that many people choose to use a cover of some kind, I used a muslin wrap. When I am nursing in piblic you see less than you do with the skany teenagers walking down the street with their boobs half hanging out.
Originally Posted by motorjunkie89
Sucessful breastfeeding is often accomplished with mindset. If you tell yourself you ARE going to breastfeed no matter what, you will. You have to be dedicated to it and not give yourself an out. You can very easily exclusively BF even if you are going to be away from your baby. For me personally, I pumped at the beginning after almost every daytime feeding because I had so much milk. I did this for 2 weeks and it gave me a good milk store to use if I needed to. A good electric pump would really help you. Like pp poster said, you will need to pump after your surgery (even if it is pumping and dumping until you are off meds) to keep up supply. This is WELL worth it to be able to BF your baby. You mentioned your family has immunity issues. This should motivate you to breastfeed. I know you have had problems with contacting LCs, but don't let it stop you.
As far as having another little one. You can have special toys at nursing time. Planning ahead and confining all of you to an area will help. It is not that big of a deal to stop in the middle of a nursing session once in a while. With 3 kids, I had to every now and then to help one of my other kids and the baby just picked up where she left off when we started again. Also you become very good at nursing and walking around :D
I didn't have a problem nursing in public. I just covered with a blanket. That is a personal choice however.
You can do it if you put your mind to it :D