With my stress level mounting I just want to scream. Information pours in left and right and it is good information that I should be soaking up like a sponge, but its all the horrible stories and the negativity from DH and my mom umoung others that is just leaving me feeling, well, tired.
My mother has been trying to undermine me alot lately. Ivybeth never took to a binky, which I was perfectly ok with bc I don't like them anyway. Just my personal opinion. When she was 3 weeks old mom got her hooked for like a week and we got it away from her. She is now almost 10 months and all I hear when she gets fussy is give her a binky. To humor my mom DH gives her one and she doesn't use it anyway! She chews on the side of it. I am so glad that I kept it from her. It is such a hard habit to break. I don't want Juliet to have one either, but I know she will end up with one, especially if my mom will have her for more than a day or two. I worry that with this new baby a binky will cause issues with latch and stuff. A binky is not shaped like the human nipple last time I checked.
Once I get the things I need I might feel more at easy. I don't get out much at all so the public thing may not be as hard as I am worrying about. The biggest thing is doing it around my family. My dad, mom, brothers, and DH are all making it into one uncomfortable boob joke after another. Its just akward if that makes any sense at all.
The research that I have done so far says that I should be able to BF right after the c-section because although some of the meds I am taking may get into the breast milk and make the baby sleepy they won't do any harm as long as I am under dosage supervision.
I am pretty ok with that considering I still have a huge lack of feeling in my stomac and pelvic regions from my c-section. So I suppose the only question that I really can't google an answer for is, if I decide to get my tubes tied (I really don't want to, but don't want any more kids) I have heard it is far more painful. Will breastfeeding make this better or worse and how much extra time is added to a c-section?
The second part to that I probably will google, but only moms who have been threw this can really answer the first part. Thanks again for all the support and help.
P.S. ange84 very true on the skanky teenager comment. My mother would have locked me away in my room if I went out wearing some of the things I see on 12 year old girls in my town.
My OB listens to me about as good as my infant daughter. They are just in it for the pay check. Very annoyed by it. What I say goes in her ear and out the other or she passes what I say off to someone else.
After all of my c-sections I had morphine right after surgery and percocet after that wore off (about 12 hrs later I think?) every 4 hours. Both were fine to take and I didn't notice any difference in my babies. My first was really sleepy, but the others weren't so I think it was because of the labor before maybe.
Paci's don't matter much. They CAN make a difference in latch, etc, but only if you use them more often than you nurse. I gave all of mine paci's by the third day. None of them took to them. The first two gave them up by 4 months and the youngest isn't a fan at all but will use one in a pinch.
I didn't get my tubes tied, but I've heard it's the same recovery as a c-section recovery. It shouldn't be more painful, and I think it's just an extra 15 minutes or so. But I could be totally wrong with the time it takes.
I agree with the PP about the mindset. That's the main reason I was successful with #1. I was NOT going to fail. It was not an option. The mindset you have is one of your strongest weapons. That's why it's important to have a strong support system. Or to be able to ignore or tell off the naysayers.
Oh, and don't just look for LC, look for peer groups. Like a local LLL meeting. Most hospitals have a group that meets as well.
Legally, you are allowed to BF your baby anywhere you are legally allowed to be. I never nursed my first in public. My second I did a couple times. My third is a month old and I've already nursed him in public most every time we've left the house. It's no big deal. I was nursing the baby in my carrier talking to my husband and he didn't even realize I was doing it. Most people aren't even going to pay any attention if it's something you need to do.
Taking care of other kids and BFing is just something you do. My husband went back to work a week after I had the baby this time and I have 2 other kids. He worked nights 12 hours a day 6 days a week, so I was taking care of the kids entirely by myself. They're 3 and 1, and they either wait when they need something, or I nurse while I help them. It's not a big deal really and you adapt.
http://www.kellymom.com/index.html This is a great site for breastfeeding information. Sounds like they are ignorant about the subject. Hang in there!
Thanks. As far as a lactation group around the hospital that is still a huge drive seeing as the closest hospital is atleast 45 mins away. I can show my mom facts and statistics until I turn blue, she just don't care. DH thinks I will be an embarrassment whipping out a boob in public.
The medications mentioned above are fairly similar to the ones that I was given with Ivybeth, so if all went well with that then I don't see a problem.
In another board I remember reading that pain was a little worse with a tubal because more stuff is moved and cut, but I wasn't sure if it was true or not.
I give great credit to moms who care for more than one child. I honestly don't know how well I will be able to do it. I am very skeptical. Thinking at least one of them will have to spend a lil time away from home til I really get into the swing of things.
I really wish all the wonderful women that I met here could just come sit in my livingroom once a week and give me support, but that seems like it would be highly unlikely. LOL
If I lived close I would come sit in your living room and support you. Even online support is helpful, it's where most of mine came from once I left hospital. Hubby is supportive but not home a lot, MIL was a PITA, my Mum was all about doing wjhat I thought best and my friends don't have kids.
Tonight I brought up my decision to bf at my mothers house. Didn't go well when I asked my mom for help in making nursing covers to try to save some money. She said why waste time on something that I probably won't stick with. Thanks mom, thanks for the support.
I am not a very outspoken kind of person either so I never say anything back for fear of starting an argument or causing anger. I just simply ate my dinner. Tomorrow DH's sister is supposed to be taking me to a WIC appointment where I am hoping to get at least some support, but I will still ask them about formula for supplementing just in case my supply doesn't come in well or anything as the horror stories say (LOL).