This is cross-posted to the Everything Breastfeeding area.
So, I have Mastitis for the FOURTH time. Sigh... I'm sure it's because I was sick Monday, then my daughter was sick Monday night/Tuesday, so I didn't get great sleep or as much liquid intake as I should have, entirely beyond my control. I hate having to take antibiotics so much! This is my 6th time since little man was born. (I had bronchitis at his birth, and then got a bladder infection a while ago, so that with the four bouts of mastitis makes six.) I cannot keep taking antibiotics, it's not good for me I know. So I think I have to start weaning him.
I have been nursing my little guy just first thing in the morning and right before bed. He is almost 18 months old now, so I do feel very proud of accomplishing that length of time. But stopping is going to be tough on both of us. That nurse first thing in the morning wakes him up and seems to perk him up. The one before bed means I can lay him down awake and happy in his crib, and I don't hear a peep out of him generally, right through until morning. He sleeps about 11 hours straight. I don't think the length of time will really change, but the happy boy going to bed will! It will break my heart to hear him ask for 'num-nums?' and have to say no...
Does anyone have any advice as to the best way to do this? One thought I had was to try first to change the order of his bedtime routine so that I nurse him first but in our room, and then either one of us reads him some stories in his chair where we usually nurse in his room. For nap time the routine is a couple of stories in his chair and bed, which is why I think it might work. My hope is that he'll then associate the books with bed instead of the nurse, and then dropping the nurse won't be so traumatic...but I don't know.
My daughter has an attachment toy that is very important to her, but she never really nursed, I had to EP (and managed to get enough milk for her for a year). With her we just had to cut out a bottle before bed, but she had her Lion, so I think that helped. Little man has no attachment toy. I am worried his comfort is me, and without it...I don't know. Emotional Mom here!! Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!!
I'm a little late to this one. Weaning may have been easier for me because I was pregnant and had no milk left so he was just comfort nursing, but I knew with my previous preterm labor issues I wanted him weaned before I got too far along. The morning nursing was easy to cut out for us. We're so busy in the morning I'd just get him out of his crib and bring him straight into the kitchen for milk and breakfast with his big sisters. We had a few tough nights but it really wasn't as bad as I had been expecting since we had been slowly cutting back anyways. I knew the night before we stopped that that would be the last time I offered (3/17) and so I really soaked it up, but we didn't have that hard of a time. Hope it went/goes smoothly for you too.
DD1- July 2004
DD2- April 2006
DS1- December 2009
DS2- August 2011
Well...I haven't stopped at all, lol, still nursing twice a day. He went through a tough time with sleeping - - I think it was a developmental stage or something - - where he would cry after I put him down to bed at night, which he hadn't done for months. This went on for a couple of months, and only in the last week or so has he FINALLY gone back to letting me leave the room at night without any fuss. I had read that the best thing to do for getting through these stages was to keep the bedtime routine the same...so I didn't want to change anything.
Anyway, I'm back to where I was. Getting rid of the morning session would be easier if I didn't have to get him up so early before I go to work. The morning nurse helps him wake up slowly and happily - - kind of like his own morning coffee, lol. Sometimes he seems to nurse less, so maybe he is on his way to stopping on his own. For now I am back to playing it by ear.
Liz, I'd love it if you could keep me posted via this thread about what you do, especially since we're at the same point with little ones the same age. It would help me a lot to keep in contact with someone going through the same thing. If you end up dropping a session, I'd love to know which one and how it goes! I'll keep this thread updated when I make any changes too.
Hang in there ladies With my son, I went back and forth so many times. Trust me, you'll know when you're ready to cut back or be done. If you're still feeling wishy washy about it, keep at it. Once you feel totally worn out - that's when it will be worth it to you to do the tough job of cutting back. I'm glad you guys are still going!! Yay for you.
Katie - April 2010 . . . Drew - May 2007
Carrie - It's funny - I think I want to stop, but I don't know if I really do, quite yet.
We just sold our house yesterday and are now in corporate housing for the next 30+ days, until we move to our new house - I'm thinking with so much going on, I should just keep at it for now and re-evaluate once we get settled!
Ontario Gal (Stephanie) - lets definitely keep in touch via this thread...
oh darn, i was hoping for some magic tidbit in this thread that would tell me what to do with my nursing toddler!
DD is 27 months old and i'm tandem nursing her and baby brother who is 11 weeks old.
personally, i'm totally ok with her continuing to nurse for however long.... BUT her latch is getting bad. i'd say half the times she wants to nurse (and i NEVER offer anymore she always asks) i have to stop her because it hurts! usually she'll ask for the other side, so i reposition her and hope that its just an angle thing, but its not. Whats really funny is that DS sleeps in his crib, in the kids room, 9 hrs straight most nights. DD still sleeps with us, and wakes about twice a night. just shows you how different these 2 are!
i've noticed that the more full/engorged i am, the worse her latch is and the more it hurts. and when she does nurse, i'd say a good half the time she's trying NOT to really get milk, just wants to suck.
i hope that she is ready to wean soon because i'm getting sick of telling her NO in the middle of the night when i'm full (but she's going back to sleep with less fight lately!) and even more sick of making her stop once she's tried both sides and is still hurting me