Hi, my name is krista and I have been bfing my twins for 14 months. My question is a "what would you do?" situation.
So, bfing has been going great for us and even with my return to work my supply is still great and I'm still getting 3-4 nurses each but...I have one baby who LOVES boobie! He is a great feeder. He isn't easily distracted and lays still and is focused on the task at hand. His sister, on the other hand, is the polar opposite. She is so easily distracted (to the point I have to leave the room and go somewhere quiet so I'll get a somewhat decent feed) and she flips and flops all over (TMI and sometimes tries to stand up with my nipple still in her mouth). So I'll start to think she's ready to wean but them she'll wake at night and I'll get an excellent feed out of her. I love nursing and I want to continue feeding both but I sometimes feel like I'm pushing the nursing on her. So frustrated.
So my question is this : do I continue feeding both (no matter how frustrating she can be ) and wait till she weans herself? Or do I wean her now and just feed her brother (which i honestly think I'd feel guilty about). I dunno.I really do want to continue nursing her soaube someone has dealt with this has a suggestion to continue (anyone?! Please!). Help!!! What would you do?
Thanks and sorry for the novel!
Way to go Krista! What an accomplishment to be BFing them still!
At 13 months I switched over to only nursing my son when he asked for it. I didn't push sessions on him. But I was feeling over touched and done with how much he was BFing (and the toddler gymnastics did NOT help! lol). He's gone through times of barely nursing (even 3 weeks this past summer where he didn't nurse at all!), but always comes back to nursing (he's nursed 6 times today - yikes!). If YOU are okay with it maybe switch over to just nursing when she wants it. She might come back around in time. At this point your supply can easily handle this. I don't think you have to take a wean or continue as much as a really wait till she wants to nurse and to accept it if a session is super short. Have you done any baby signing? Maybe teach them both the sign for milk? That helped a lot here!
I feel that this is a phase (the nursing gymnastics) Evie is doing it too. I say just nurse when she wants it and don't worry about it. I discourage Evie from the nursing gymnastics by popping her off and telling her no pulling. Then she usually cries for a short while and then I ask her if she wants "nurses" again at which point she'll calm down and lift her arms up for me to pick her up. Then she usually is calm for the feed, or she'll repeat and so will I. Sometimes we don't complete that session and she'll run off to play. If she's messing around, then she's just snacking, IMO.
Janelle and Brad 8-25-01
Woot for nursing twins for 14 months! Whether or not you decide to continue is entirely up to you. I find that nursing my 25 month old has lots of benefits but can also be crazy annoying sometimes. Nursing one toddler has its challenges. I can only imagine nursing two! At around a year, I quit offering and just let my DD decide when to nurse unless we were having a weird day and I thought offering would help avoid a problematic situation. They're both old enough now to take it or leave it. I think it would be pretty hard to wean one and not the other. I'd either quit offering to your DD and just let things happen or wean them both.
Thanks for the advice ladies. I am loving nursing (minus the gymnastic nursing as janelle put it!) so I really don't want to wean. I took your advice and for the past two days have only been giving it to her when she asked for it. I'd feed brad and just wait for Kay. It seems within in about 1/2 half she came over looking for it. So I guess she still wants to nurse. I don't feel like I'm forcing the feeds on her. And even when I was getting ready to do their night feed she actually jumped up before brad and out ran him to get there first. I guess she's further from weaning then I thought!
Glad you figured out what will work for you!
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I swear I post this question and she decides to completely change. I think maybe me not offering it and her seeing her brother getting it has made her want to nurse more. I'm all of a sudden getting great, focused nurses. Maybe shes though with this phase.