Isn't it funny how...

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Isn't it funny how...

I think if a toddler could get their own sippy cup/bottle full of milk they would be called so resourceful and smart to know where to get it, etc. But because my babies know where their milk is located and how to get it, I'm told it must be time to wean. lol

My boys love to reach down my shirt when they are really hungry, well one of them does. I do not encourage this behavior, but ya know, they are only 1.5 yrs. But whenever I tell ppl I am still breastfeeding I always get the "how long ARE you going to breastfeed?" question. And then I always get the comments about how, "If they can lift up your shirt and ask for it, then they are too old." It never bothered me that much before, but it does these days. If a toddler asks for a bottle/sippy we don't say they are too old, we give it to them and are glad they can communicate, but with the breast, not so much. Hate the double standard.

How do you deal with EB naysayers?

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Sorry! Sad I just tell people what my plan is, and let them know what I did with my older son and that I was totally happy with our plan. Usually nobody says anything to me after that, I think they can sense that I feel strongly about it. My dad did tease me today about nursing until Katie is ten years old, but I take it with a grain of salt. He knows that both my brother and I nursed between 16-24 months, so even though it's not what my step-sister chooses for her kids, it's not strange to him.

Sorry you're taking some flack for it! If you want stats to back you up here's a link. (It depends who I'm talking to... if I think they're just ignorant but open to listening, I might throw a few facts out there. If I think they're set in their ways and not going to listen, I just let them know I know what's right for me and my child and leave it at that.)
http://www.kellymom.com/bf/bfextended/ebf-benefits.html

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I was getting this before my dd was even a year old. Now that she is 15 months not many people even talk to me about it anymore. Not sure if they just think i weaned or they just dont ask anymore. I never understand why people care. Its your boobs not theirs anyway. I would just say to people that we will wean sometime before she goes to high school and leave it at that...lol

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I'm not quite at extended bfing yet, but my DS has started putting his hand down my top in public when hungry. My Mum also thinks because I am not cutting him off from the boobie on his fisrt birthday he will never wean.

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"rachelrazzle" wrote:

I think if a toddler could get their own sippy cup/bottle full of milk they would be called so resourceful and smart to know where to get it, etc. But because my babies know where their milk is located and how to get it, I'm told it must be time to wean lol?

LurkeR .... So true!!!!

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i have a 2.5 yr old who is still nursing, and i will say that i have enforced a certain amount of ettiquite, she is not allowed to reach up or down my shirt, that is not acceptable in public, but she DOES ask, crawl onto my lap, and sit there like a little bird with her mouth open LOL.

and she has a very hard time when i tell her no or later, but she will throw a fit, not try to get into my shirt.

but at this point if i tell anyone we're still nursing they have NOTHING to say anymore! unless of course its someone saying NICE things Smile with a 1-2 yr old people feel the need to share their veiws... but after 2 people don't seem to think that what they have to say will make a difference. and they shut up.

i have taken a cue from our local LLL leader who says that the world average for weaning is 2, if you take the US out, its 4. which means there are just as many kids weaned at 1 yr old as there are at SEVEN years old.

and i do like to say that my husband likes them so much, why can't the kids like them too? its not the kids who are making them sexual organs, its the idiots judging you who are doing that.

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"gypsy86" wrote:

but after 2 people don't seem to think that what they have to say will make a difference. and they shut up.

and i do like to say that my husband likes them so much, why can't the kids like them too? its not the kids who are making them sexual organs, its the idiots judging you who are doing that.

Hilarious and oh so true!
I find myself getting more and more bold and volunteering that I am still nursing, but I have always enjoyed shock value. Smile I was talking with someone at church recently and nursing came up, and she was surprised I was still nursing, and I put in that I nursed my older ds for 18mo and her response was, "so thats just how you roll?" Kind of annoying, but oh well. lol

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Yeah I am getting SO annoyed at the "you're still bf'ing" comments. Its not like she's 5!!!! My baby, my boobs, my decision (or my decision until she's 2 and then it will be her decision)
And I often quote the WHO which recommends bf'ing until age 2.

I actually posted on my fb page:
AVA is 17 months old
YES she is still breastfeeding
YES it a mutually satisfying relationship for both of us
NO I don not plan on weaning her any time soon
FEEL free to copy and paste to all friends, family, and strangers- then I won't have to tell them myself!

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That is awesome. I think when I do wean I am going to have a post about ending our nursing relationship regardless of other ppl thinking I should have done it sooner. Smile

I am also bringing some info to my ped tomorrow. Its my daughter 9yr check up and at their 18mo check up (1mo late) a few weeks ago she said, "They are STILL breastfeeding? At the BREAST?" I just said, "The WHO says at least 2yrs, and they will be done at 2yrs." in a tone that said, "this is not up for discussion". Of course the more I thought of it, the more it has bothered me, so I am going to bring her some info on extended breastfeeding. Wink

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Hi Rachel Smile

Not only would a toddler getting their own sippy cup be resourceful, what about all the adults that get their own drinks and/or food...are they too old to eat and/drink because they can get it themselves? Or how about going out to eat? Are they too old for that too because they're old enough to ask for it? I can't stand that anti-EBFing logic.

Xander thinks it's ok to reach down my shirt and pull my boob out over the top of my shirt and help himself...he did that in Target the one day and he did it so quick I didn't really have the chance to stop him (he's heavy and I was carrying him with both arms) so I went down an empty aisle quick (I was really exposed and not happy), let him nurse and told him that he can't do that- he has to ASK first and I'll find a place to sit down so he can nurse from the BOTTOM of my shirt. He just grinned at me and went about his business.

Most people I know don't even question me anymore because I'm pretty sure they all think I'm a whack job and have given up on me LOL! Oh well, I'm gonna nurse my Xan man until he says he's done Smile

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I was at a friend's daughter's 1st birthday yesterday and she handled an onlookers comment so beautifully I thought I'd share. Her daughter pretty much just reached down and helped herself. The onlooker asked if perhaps she needed a cover or something (not the most malignant comment I've ever heard bit still) as she was pretty exposed (if you were all up in her business that is). My friend simply said, "Its my house." Blum 3

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hehe, I've said that too- if it's my house, I make it abundantly clear that I am not going to sacrifice our comfort for someone else's- I mean THEY can leave if they're not happy Smile

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With DD my standard response was that the "WHO recommends nursing for at least 2 years" Most people i've meet won't argue after that if they do then a joke will usually shut them up.. something like I'm sure he/she will be done by college/graduation/wedding etc. I'm also one who doesn't really tell anyone that they bf unless asked.. DH likes to tell everyone but he doesn't realize that we're not in a very BFing friendly area or that it isn't really the norm.. but dh is a bit clueless when it comes to birth/babies and everything that goes with it.

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DD has started pulling my shirt down to get to the goodies quite frequently. I usually just stop what I'm doing if I can and let her nurse. Sometimes its not possible (like in line at the store). At what age can I hope for her to understand that she has to actually ask first instead of just diving in? Is it something I can hope for soon or are we talking age 3 or 4?

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my dd asks, by tugging gently on my shirt and looking up at me with her question face. We don't nurse during the day anymore so she doesn't really ask then unless she's tired.

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"TiggersMommy" wrote:

DD has started pulling my shirt down to get to the goodies quite frequently. I usually just stop what I'm doing if I can and let her nurse. Sometimes its not possible (like in line at the store). At what age can I hope for her to understand that she has to actually ask first instead of just diving in? Is it something I can hope for soon or are we talking age 3 or 4?

Maybe teach her the sign for milk? DD2 signs when she wants to nurse.