No AF, how long can this go on?

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No AF, how long can this go on?

I never expected to be without AF for this long. I'm not really in a hurry to get her back. We don't plan to TTC #2 for at least another year. Still, I've been feeling like she's on the verge of returning for months now. I'll get crampy and then nothing. I'm so paranoid about waking up in a puddle of blood. I kinda wish I could just get it over with so I know when to expect it. DD still nurses a ton at night but I've stopped pumping during the day while I'm at work and that's a good 8-9 hours without nursing. I've heard 6 hours is the magic number. Apparently not for me. If its going to stay away until DD weans, fine. I just wish it wouldn't try to trick me every month!! Maybe I'm cycling without a period? I've got the Paragard IUD, so no worries there.

How long have you gone without AF?

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Mine always comes back about 6wks after starting solids, but my good friend never gets hers back until a month or so after she weans, at 1yr.. maybe you'll be one of those lucky ones, but I do get wanting to have it back rather than just wondering when she is going to surprise you. Wink

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oh, and with the iud many ppl get next to nothing for a period anyhow...

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I still haven't had it return either and have pretty much the same circumstances as you (although I would love to be TTC now it's just not possible). For me I am on no birth control so it can't be that delaying anything. I am also terrified because prior to being pregnant my only sign of AF coming was that I felt a bit sick on the first day, like I had a bit of a stomach bug so not knowing when it will turn up and not previously getting any pre warning signs scares me about ending up in a very embarrasasing situation.

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I don't know much about the copper IUD, but I'm going to guess the combo of the IUD and the BFing is keeping AF away. Maybe you'll be one of the lucky ones that never gets AF while BFing!

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"rachelrazzle" wrote:

oh, and with the iud many ppl get next to nothing for a period anyhow...

From what I've read, Paragard may cause my periods to be longer and heavier (at least at first). It's non-hormonal so I cycle naturally but it must do something to make them longer. Between that and the horror stories I've heard about the first PP AF, I'm petrified. Sad

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"TiggersMommy" wrote:

I never expected to be without AF for this long. I'm not really in a hurry to get her back. We don't plan to TTC #2 for at least another year. Still, I've been feeling like she's on the verge of returning for months now. I'll get crampy and then nothing. I'm so paranoid about waking up in a puddle of blood. I kinda wish I could just get it over with so I know when to expect it. DD still nurses a ton at night but I've stopped pumping during the day while I'm at work and that's a good 8-9 hours without nursing. I've heard 6 hours is the magic number. Apparently not for me. If its going to stay away until DD weans, fine. I just wish it wouldn't try to trick me every month!! Maybe I'm cycling without a period? I've got the Paragard IUD, so no worries there.

How long have you gone without AF?

I could have written your post...lol. I still haven't gotten AF back and I am not on any birth control. Morgan was a very heavy nurser and she just within the last 2 months started nursing just morning and night. She is 16 1/2 months old. I have been feeling like AF is coming for months now. I don't want it to come back, but it is very irritating to have these symptoms.

This is a quote from Kellymom.com breastfeeding site: "It is not uncommon for breastfeeding mothers to report cyclical cramping or PMS-type symptoms - symptoms of an oncoming period without the period - for weeks or even months before their period returns. When this happens, the body is probably "gearing up" for the return of menstruation, but breastfeeding is still delaying the return of fertility."

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I didn't get it back until the month after I weaned both my dd(15 months) and my ds (17 months) . I wasn't using any bc at the time either.

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"TiggersMommy" wrote:

From what I've read, Paragard may cause my periods to be longer and heavier (at least at first). It's non-hormonal so I cycle naturally but it must do something to make them longer. Between that and the horror stories I've heard about the first PP AF, I'm petrified. Sad

The first one may not be that bad. Both my first ones were light and easy. That 2nd one this time was brutal. It came back at 8 months once he started sleeping longer at night. I bet your body is totally gearing up with the cramping but maybe it won't happen for a while still. Being in that limbo though is kinda the pits since its no fun to be caught off guard.

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I finally got mine back when DD was 14 mos I think. I also noticed that it seemed like I was cycling for a while before that. Nothing changed for us when it finally started- she still nurses as much as ever, especially at night, even now.

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The witch finally showed just shy of 17 months pp :mad: It was about 2 months after cutting out the daytime feedings. It has not affected how Morgan nurses though. She still loves her middle of the night comfort.

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You're all so lucky! I get AF back 5 months PP. This happened with DS2 and DS3 despite EBF Sad I'd love to go so long without AF lol!

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With my youngest I got AF back 17 months PP. With my oldest, it never came back, I got pregnant before AF showed (around 14.5 months PP)

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I was really anxious to get mine back after a while too with all the preggo like BFing hormones raging in me.

In May I had some spotting and it seemed like things were starting, when they didn't I went to my OB freaked it was implantation bleeding and looking like a fool. ROFL

AF finally came back in late July, a couple of weeks before DD's first birthday. DD was still getting up quite a bit in the night to nurse and we haven't weaned at all. I had two 28 day cycles and two 35 day cycles. I have noticed they are a bit different (lots more PMS symptoms than pre-preg). I hope you get some relief soon. It's such a PITA to feel like you're going to get it back and then have nothing happen.