Nursing a talking child

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Nursing a talking child

Is a whole new experience for me. lol. Smile I weaned my older two at 14mo and 18mo, so not very verbal. My twins will be 2 in a little over a month. Abram is the more verbal of the two, and he will start to nurse and then pull off and say, "miwk gone!". He says it a few times each nursing session (naptime and bedtime, and sometimes middle of the night when they wake). I had no idea my supply was getting less, because when I hand express to see, there is always lots there. lol. Then sometimes I feel that letdown and hear more swallowing, and he'll pull off and point and say, "miwk!" in the most excited voice. So funny. They both LOVE to nurse, its actually their motivation to get them into bed. I need to work on that, because I really do want to wean them when they turn 2. Sad But they both say excitedly and run to their room when I say its time, "nuwse!" Smile

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I think that is the cutest thing. Smile BFing is such a strong bond and, at least for me, it's hard to break when the child doesn't want to. My first son self weened too, but little Seth still nurses at night, or when his teeth/gums hurt. What will you do to ween them?

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My wee nursling isn't verbal quite yet. I've noticed that she's less interested in getting every last drop unless she's nursing to sleep. So, perhaps there's still milk but they don't see it as worth the effort?

I'm curious to hear how you plan to wean as well. I have a feeling I'll be in your shoes 10 months from now. There's only so long I can put up with all the night nursing.

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Ugh, I am in a quandry. I am trying to change our bedtime and naptime routines, as suggested by some great ladies here. Smile

So whereas before our bedtime routine has been, shut door, turn off light, turn on fishy music aquarium, and then sit in the thinking chair to nurse....

now the new attempted routine is shut door, nurse, read 5-10min of books, turn on fishy music, turn off light, and get in bed.

My hope is that we can do this for another month and then eventually just go straight to reading books and into bed and skip the nursing session. But I don't know how well it will go, because we haven't done anything but bedtime naptime sessions for at least a few months and they still ask for it at least once or twice a week, and get very upset when I say no. Sad

But if all else fails, we'll do what we did with the other two, daddy takes over bedtime for a few weeks of crying and then its done. lol. Of course, then I have to do naptime too, and we are getting them toddler beds for Christmas (they are still sharing a crib).. so maybe a little after they are two. lol

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I have three boys, but this is my first time nursing a verbal child, too! He calls it "Bee" and it's kind of embarrassing when we're in public and he starts demanding, "BEE!" and reaching down my shirt or trying to lift it up. I have not had a lot of success in trying to teach nursing manners. LOL

I agree that there are definitely precious moments when they can express their feelings about it. When he's tired and we lie down together at naptime, he says, "Beeeeeee....!" and laughs like it's the most delightful thing ever. And sometimes when he's finished, he says "The end!" like when we finish a book, and pulls my shirt down. It's so cute!

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Kari, that is adorable! I love that he says "the end"!

I think because I have cut down their nursing to only sleepy time, we have really cut down on the reaching down my shirt in public stuff. It was getting to be too often for me. lol. And once one started reaching down, the other would as well. ha ha!

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Thanks, Rachel!

We had an awful time last night, with him up for several hours, wanting to nurse the entire time. It's just easier to give in, you know? But I fear I'm never going to get him nighttime weaned at the rate we're going! LOL

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"mamamuse" wrote:

Thanks, Rachel!

We had an awful time last night, with him up for several hours, wanting to nurse the entire time. It's just easier to give in, you know? But I fear I'm never going to get him nighttime weaned at the rate we're going! LOL

I love how he says "the end!". Too cute! I would have a hard time saying "no," too.

My nursling is a little younger (16 months), but it seems like he is getting MORE attached to nighttime nursing rather than LESS. This is my first LO and I just kind of assumed that after a year he would ease up. Silly me. Guess I should have read ahead a few chapters about extended nursing!

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Congrats on nursing for so long! LOs just get cuter and cuter as they communicate more.
"The end." I would die! Biggrin

I have been trying to get DD to stop using nursing to fall to sleep. Having a good nighttime routine is a big help, but naps are far harder for us. No matter how much I try to make her naps (and pre nap time) routine, it's often a struggle. ETA: Last night for instance, she stopped nursing herself, rolled away from me and I rubbed her back until she was asleep, but when I put her in her crib, she woke right up. I blame the teething but ugh how frustrating. Beee

Have you heard of Pantley's Gentle Removal Plan? It essentially is that you let them nurse to where they're almost asleep, pop them off and if they root, gently put your finger to their chin to encourage them to close their mouth. If that doesn't work and they still want to nurse, let them and try again in a minute or two. This has worked well for us, although when she's teething hard things go out the window.

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Yes, it is hard to not give in in the middle of the night! My boys are having shorter and shorter before sleep time nursing sessions, but if they wake in the middle of the night (maybe 5 times a week these days, or less) the nursing sessions are longer. I think I could cut them off sooner, but I'm tired too, so I think less and just go into a daze. lol. I think if we were cosleeping they would nurse tons more, but with two we just could not cosleep comfortably this time.