I think I'm ready. I think DD is going to HATE it, but I hope she gets over it fairly quickly.
I have to do this on my own (without help from DH) because he just needs his sleep to work- and since he's the breadwinner for us, I respect his need for sleep.
I think I'll ask DH to go sleep in the guest bedroom while we do this, instead of us going in the guest bedroom. I want to be able to keep putting DD back in her own toddler bed- which is in our room.
So, favorite method? I know I saw that one article...who was it... Jay Gordon?
Should I at this point (DD will be 21 mos next week), expect her to cope with no milk from bedtime til morning get up time (essentially between 7-8pm and 7-8am) or should I try the 7 hour thing- like no milk between 11 and 6?
Help. I feel like I need my hand held. This is a big deal. But I'm done with sitting there with her awake in the middle of the night, not wanting to nurse her, but eventually giving in to it.
And what did you do instead of nursing. Last night, and a couple times on vacation DD did a weird thing where she would refuse to DRINK the water I was offering her (she obviously wants to NURSE, not drink- big difference!), but, when I would try to put it away, she would act like I was cutting off her limb. So she would fall asleep clutching her sippy cup or my camelbak. So silly...but, I'm willing to let her sleep with a bottle of water if that's what it takes!
Mara & Joel, 2009
Jay Gordon: http://drjaygordon.com/attachment/sleeppattern.html (which I think you have)
I'm not much help, sorry. When we were trying to get DS to sleep longer at night (he was getting up as much as 13 times a night at one point) we went to the "send Daddy" method (thankfully DH was in a brief break from military training). I wasn't trying to night wean, but that's what ended up happening when he started STTN. I started off aiming to just nurse him every other waking (the times I wasn't nursing DH went). Eventually over the course of a 6 weeks he went to STTN. My husband's job requires him to get a certain amount of sleep or he's not allowed to do his job, but once his break in training for his job hit he was "tagged in" (he was still going in to work, but the sleep requirement wasn't there temporally).
Best of luck to you! I would start with the 11-6 method first and then stretch it out from there if I were in your shoes. I know Erin is going to attempt that herself once sickness has left her house.
Feel free to rant/post away during this process. As I've been told before, "Kids aren't easy, so there's no easy solution."
I have no helpful advice sorry but am interested to hear methods as I am going to need to do this at some point. DS still wakes anywhere up to 5 times a night, and I only count after I got to bed around 9/10pm. I work full time and a night of sleep would be heaven. No help from hubby either because he needs his sleep as he also works full time. Right now the quickest and easiest way is boob. I have 2 weeks of in June so am likely to try night weaning then
Thanks for linking that article again... I sent it to my husband, and I think that is mostly what we're going to do! I'll let you know how it goes!
But any other advice is welcome!
Mara & Joel, 2009
With Violet we did the Jay Gordon method and it worked amazingly. Didn't even take as long as he has planned out. I thought she was going to be a nightmare to nightwean, since by that point we were up every hour nursing in the night. She was 13 months.
I'm in that boat again, with Fiona now. But it's different cause she's in a crib in her own room. I have no idea how to approach it this time.
So, decided to go ahead and start tonight. She went down easy, and right now it's 10:51 and I've seen her stir on the monitor, but she hasn't woken... so on night #1 she is sleeping through her last chances for a real nurse.
I feel like the hardest part of this is going to be waking myself up enough when she wakes to make sure I don't just nurse her before 6! It's been 21 mos of me just rolling over and getting out a boob... hard habit to break!
Jordan, you don't feel like you can use the same program just because she's in the crib?
Mara & Joel, 2009
Keep us posted. I am ready to night-wean too. Morgan is up 2-3 per night. She has gone to bed two nights without nursing so I am starting there and getting her used to that first. I also try saying "no" in the middle of the night and always give in because she FREAKS OUT! I will probably used Jay's method when I am ready to totally wean her.
Forgot to mention. It is also hard because the few times I have refused to nurse her she will scream and go back to sleep after about 5-10 minutes but then get up 1/2 hour later and the process starts over again. If I nurse her she at least sleeps a couple hours before waking again. Not sure if you are experiencing this. It is going to be a rough few nights when I do wean her.
Those are such hard feeds to cut out. With my older two I don't even remember what I did, beyond maybe dh taking over, but I don't think he did that often. With my twins (still waking even at 2, at least one of them is. lol). I give them a sippy cup. Probably not the best solution, but for now it works.
Rachel, momma to 4
dd 9, ds 7, twin boys Dec 09
I nursed my twins for 2years and 2 weeks! A little sad to be all done now.
Corinne, that is EXACTLY what Beni has done the times I have gotten her back to sleep without nursing!
So, here is how phase 1, night 1 went:
She went down around 7:30. I nursed her for a while, sang the song, popped her off, and had her fall asleep next to me NOT nursing. She slept until 2am!!!!! IN HER OWN BED! I kept waiting for her to wake somewhere before 11 so I could nurse her one more time, but she didn't. At 2am I did a 10 second nurse, which she took and didn't protest. She rolled over and went back to sleep. At 4am she awoke again, and was far more awake. She's teething right now, and was crying a lot at that time, so I gave her some more ibuprofen, and another 10 second nurse. She fell asleep, but then woke up again 1/2 hour later. I moved her back to her own bed, and did another 10 second nurse, and she popped off, turned her head the other way, and fell asleep. She slept then til 6:30, at which point I told her, "Look, the sun is up! Now you can nurse all you want!" We still slept til 8am, with her I guess nursing most of that time. But mostly, I would say it was a good night. That 4am hour seems to be the trouble spot- it has been other nights too. I think this first phase, where we're still doing the 10 second nurses will be ok. But phase two, when we cut out ALL nursing, is going to be the hard part. I'm expecting a lot more crying then.
Mara & Joel, 2009