We just night weaned. It was a drastic cut back. I had another mental/emotional breakdown on Tuesday and DH blames it on lack of sleep and other breastfeeding related things (yes, he blames multiple wakings on her breastfeeding ).
Evie is 13 months old now and was still waking 5 times a night.
We both agree that physically speaking, subsistence was not needed, but she was waking for the comfort of nursing. So, I asked DH to take over night waking. He's a modified CIO kind of man. She hasn't really improved on the amount or frequency of her wakings, but she has improved on going back to sleep after waking. Since Tuesday, she has not nursed between 8pm and 5am. This is a big change from every 3 hours or so throughout the night.
We still nurse multiple times a day, but she's seeming a little less interested in it now.
I was hoping to continue our nursing relationship for a long time. She's having her lip tie surgery this coming Tuesday morning and I was hoping this would make nursing better for me (been nursing painfully for the past 13 months).
I'm just kinda down today. Perhaps it's because since Tuesday I've gotten LESS sleep because I'm no longer in control of her crying and, in fact, I have to endure it instead of soothe it.
Please.. has anyone else night weaned this late and still not completely weaned for several months?
I hadn't planned on nursing til 2, but I certainly didn't put a date on our relationship. I wanted to go longer than the next couple months, at least. But she seems to be getting more independent very suddenly (my guess as a result of the sleep training/night weaning).
Night weaning suddenly does affect them, but it's not the end of the world. It's common at this age to cut back feedings during the day (distraction, independence, unwillingness to settle period, etc), so if she's still nursing several times a day chances are she's getting more than enough for her age. We night weaned (not on purpose though) before a year and well he's still nursing. My son even went almost 3 weeks without nursing earlier in the summer and I thought for sure he had weaned. Well, he's back to nursing 5-6 days a week 1-3 sessions those days.
If the crying is bothering you, maybe take a look at The No Cry Sleep Solution. Maybe something in there will help you and your husband come to an agreement with nighttime parenting. It really helped me think clearly about our night routine and how I was handling night time wake ups (my son was getting up 13 times a night at one point). After 2 months of patience he started STTN! Turns out having any lights period in a room (light glow from street lamps outside and all of those tiny electronic lights in his room) really bothered him back then. And the changes we made to his routine before bed and while he woke up did take him time to adjust to (which is why NCSS has logs because you often don't notice the small improvements while they adjust).
Your nursing relationship is definitely not over just yet!
i don't know if this answers your question - but i only nurse once now right before bed. She was waking up all the time through out the night, and for the past 3 weeks, she's been sleeping 8p-730a...... she used to be up every 2 hrs..... it was hard to adjust,for me, since night time was 'our time', but i can't say i don't enjoy the sleep.... i def. need the sleep... I don't think your time with her is over yet.... and i agree, if you're not feeling good about CIO, then do something different that you're okay with. hang in there!
I've never been a fan of CIO. We bought The No Cry Sleep Solution when DS#2 wasn't STTN at 6 months old. We followed all the suggestions that were possible to try (can't sleep in the kids room, no room for another bed, etc). It did us no good as he still was waking 2 time each night til he was 2, and once a night till he was a little past 2.5. The night we came back from the hospital with Evie (he was 2 years, 8 months+) he woke us up more than she did. I haven't had a complete nights sleep since April 2008 (right before I got pregnant with DS#2).
Last night was a HUGE improvement, though. She only woke 2 times and both times she went back to sleep after only fussing for a couple of minutes. DH never had to go in (except for the second time cause it sounded like she hit her head on the crib and he wanted to make sure she was okay).
Tomorrow is her lip tie surgery and I've already set my alarm. I haven't had to set an alarm in over a year!