Morgan is now 18 months and I really don't mind nursing her morning and night, but lately she has been wanting to nurse at night ALL the time. We co-sleep for part of the night and I am her human pacifier. She was down to nursing only at bed and morning, but she got sick and that threw off our progress. If I am honest, I would wean her now to regain some of my sanity (I am soooo tired and have been for 18 months!) Although I am aware that she has a sleeping problem too which is a separate issue...lol Anyway, she absolutely freaks out if I don't nurse her. I tried a different bedtime routine and when she figured out that I wasn't wanting to nurse she started screaming. Same thing in the middle of the night...blood-curdling screams.
So, just wondering for those who have BTDT, when did your child wean on his/her own? I know each is different, but I am trying to get a sense of how long it could be before Morgan weans on her own....I am thinking it would be awhile
Also, any weaning tips for a baby this age would be appreciated. Happy Holidays Everyone
Have you read this?
It helped me when I was having a rough time with my daughter's sleeping. (my oldest)
I ended up trying it, but it didn't work for us. We didn't co-sleep though and she is just a crappy sleeper (she's almost 4 and still doesn't make it through the night most nights). I had to night wean her at 15 months for my sanity. I nursed her to sleep, but refused to nurse her until daytime. It took about 3 months, but eventually she was STTN (though she regressed eventually..she's just a crap sleeper)
She didn't wean until 33 months though. I never thought she would and one day she just didn't ask. I basically nursed her whenever she wanted as long as it was convenient. Anytime I really didn't want to or wanted her to be done I would count to 10 and then tell her "okay, all done, let's go do..." and she'd be fine with that. Towards the end I lessened the time until she was basically latching on and then I would tell her all done. Not every time, but she was still nursing like..5 times a day and I had her sister too so I was doing a lot of nursing.
Oh, and I felt like I HAD to night wean because I was a human pacifier too. But if I shifted even a little it would wake her up and she'd cry again. I couldn't lay her down or move or anything. She was waking up every 2 hours and wanting to nurse for an hour or more at a time. I wasn't getting any sleep and it was making me a bad person.
I co-slept with my second and she was awesome. She weaned at 13 months, but I was pregnant again. But she was never a rabid nurser like her sister. She also started STTN in her own crib around 9 months old and STTN in a bed with her sister now. I co-sleep with my new little one now and I hope he'll be like the middle child and sleep well.
I hope you find something that works for you and you start getting some sleep!
I've posted about it in a few other threads but I used the Jay Gordon method successfully. My goal wasn't to wean but to stop the ALL NIGHT nursing. Yes, it required one night of banshee like screaming for a good hour but I was there patting her back and comforting her so I didn't feel like it was CIO. I just let her let her anger out and eventually she passed out. She was mad but she got over it and now she whines for maybe a few minutes when I have to reinforce. Illnesses, teething, and developmental milestones throw us for a loop and I let her nurse more but then its back to letting me get some sleep. We haven't taken it beyond what he prescribes for the first few nights and I'm OK with that because I'm not entirely ready to night wean and I know DD isn't. We'll get there. I like his method because it keeps that closeness you get from co-sleeping and nursing but helps you work towards getting more sleep.
Another thing that helps a ton is wearing a shirt to bed that doesn't provide easy access.
I almost didn't 'recognize' you Erin b/c you changed your picture!
I'm glad to hear that your night nursing is going much better than it was. And I couldn't agree more about making them not as easy to access. DS and I did some cosleeping at night while we were at my parents for a couple of weeks. I took to wearing a comfortable sports bra. He couldn't get to them right away, but I could still manage to give him access to a boob when needed.
I weaned my second at 18mo, so I cut him off. My boys are almost two, and I think I am just going to have to cut them off in a month or so. My babes have all been so boob addicted I do not see them weaning themselves before I am ready to wean them. Good luck though.
Rachel, momma to 4
dd 9, ds 7, twin boys Dec 09
I nursed my twins for 2years and 2 weeks! A little sad to be all done now.
I did use Jay Gordon to get her down to just nursing at bed and in the early morning (around 5 or 6 am), but then she got sick and all progress was lost. After two nights of horrible sleep I took her to the ped and she has an ear infection so I am letting her nurse whenever she wants at night. I agree with you guys that I think I am going to have to wean her if I want her to wean. Maybe I will try Jay Gordon again when she is feeling better.