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    Unless you confiscate phones at all times within the house most teens will at some point have internet access within their rooms.

    None of this really surprises me. We plan on doing our best. We are about to turn our sunroom, right off the kitchen into a homework room for the kids with built in desks, so the computers (that they don't even have yet) will be front and center. Its an ever changing landscape and parents are doing their best. I'm glad that DH is in technology and that we are fairly computer savvy ~ we really work hard to keep open communication with our kids and we aren't the shaming sort, so hopefully that will work out for us, but who knows. Our kids are young. Fingers crossed.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Potter75 View Post
    Unless you confiscate phones at all times within the house most teens will at some point have internet access within their rooms.
    I know several parents of older kids that do not buy their kids phones with internet capabilities for this reason. Technology is changing so who knows what it will be when my girls are older, but I do not think I would allow my girls to have a smartphone until they are way older.
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    I suspect kids who really want them will buy them for themselves.

    I just think the only hope we have as parents is open dialogue vs. trying to keep up with technology & restricting access. There's no guarantee either way, but I think the better bet is lots of conversation and openness vs. trying to control something that so elusive.
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    Quote Originally Posted by freddieflounder101 View Post
    I suspect kids who really want them will buy them for themselves.
    And pay the monthly data access fee with what money? When my kids are old enough to have a job, they will be old enough to have a smart phone. They will also be old enough to have gained quite a bit of independence and start making their own decisions (to a point). Prior to that, I don't see myself providing them a smartphone...but as Bonita said, it really depends on what things are like then (for example, if they feel like at 12 years old they are the only kids on the planet that don't have a smartphone, then we'll discuss
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    I started babysitting at 12 and had a formal job from 14 on. I think that by the time our children are 16, 17 it would be very uncommon for your child to not have some sort of connectivity available to them in their room. But hey, pigs may fly! I'm just a realist on this one.

    I never had a TV or computer in my room, but I think that when I was 16 I got my own phone (land line) in my room. I can see my child wanting that. My oldest is 6.........10 years from now will phones even be available withOUT some sort of data plan? I doubt it. I'm just not willing to say "never" on things when I can't even envision where technology will be in 10 or 13 years when my kids are 16.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SID081108 View Post
    And pay the monthly data access fee with what money? When my kids are old enough to have a job, they will be old enough to have a smart phone. They will also be old enough to have gained quite a bit of independence and start making their own decisions (to a point). Prior to that, I don't see myself providing them a smartphone...but as Bonita said, it really depends on what things are like then (for example, if they feel like at 12 years old they are the only kids on the planet that don't have a smartphone, then we'll discuss
    At 15, I had a part time job. Getting the cheapest plan is certainly within reach. There are always ways around restrictive rules like that, trust me. The same kids who wear what their parents want them to wear and then change when they get to school into clothes they've stuffed into their backpacks will find a way to access the internet & social networks without their parents knowing.

    I'm only saying that keeping them away from phones is not, in my opinion, the most effective strategy, and it is likely to backfire.
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    Quote Originally Posted by freddieflounder101 View Post
    I suspect kids who really want them will buy them for themselves.
    Here you have to be 18 to have a cell signed up in your own name.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mom2robbie View Post
    Here you have to be 18 to have a cell signed up in your own name.
    I just think there are ways around everything. The drinking age is 21 but kids get alcohol. There are under age drinkers and smokers everywhere.

    We have gotten those pre-approved credit card forms in the mail addressed to my kids...they are 9 and 5.

    I'm not encouraging these things, but I'm saying that thinking you can prevent these problems by not buying smart phones for your children is naive.
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    Quote Originally Posted by freddieflounder101 View Post
    I just think there are ways around everything. The drinking age is 21 but kids get alcohol. There are under age drinkers and smokers everywhere.

    We have gotten those pre-approved credit card forms in the mail addressed to my kids...they are 9 and 5.

    I'm not encouraging these things, but I'm saying that thinking you can prevent these problems by not buying smart phones for your children is naive.
    There are ways but you do need photo id, social insurance number and a credit check - I have had credit checks come back underage when I was a manager of a cell store.

    I will restrict things as long as possible but my kid is already programming computers at almost 8 years, he will soon surpass my knowledge.
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    Quote Originally Posted by freddieflounder101 View Post
    I'm not encouraging these things, but I'm saying that thinking you can prevent these problems by not buying smart phones for your children is naive.
    As far as I can see, no one ever said they could prevent these problems by not buying smart phones...I most certainly didn't. I don't think there is anyway to "prevent these problems". I even said "I also agree with what others have said that kids WILL sneak around, and that I need to find a way to keep the conversation open. But yeah, thinking of my girls as teenagers is scary!!"

    What I don't see myself doing is handing my kids a smart phone at 12, letting them loose with it, and hoping they'll tell me what they're doing/looking at. Not gonna happen. As I said earlier (again), when a kid is old enough to get a job (which at some places is 14, at others 15 or 16), they can get a smartphone as far as I'm concerned. There will absolutely be rules about when they can use it (they won't be up all night texting/talking, etc) We already have an iPad and my daughter lays in her bed at night and reads books on it. When she gets old enough to start snooping around the internet we will have to figure out a reasonable way to manage that.

    And the whole example of kids putting clothes in their backpack and changing when they get to school (or putting on makeup, whatever) doesn't mean that you shouldn't set boundaries for your kids. Sure, any kid who wants to can find some way around rules...that's no excuse for me not to have rules and expect them to follow them or be disciplined in some way. That way of thinking just doesn't fly with me.
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