Unless you confiscate phones at all times within the house most teens will at some point have internet access within their rooms.
None of this really surprises me. We plan on doing our best. We are about to turn our sunroom, right off the kitchen into a homework room for the kids with built in desks, so the computers (that they don't even have yet) will be front and center. Its an ever changing landscape and parents are doing their best. I'm glad that DH is in technology and that we are fairly computer savvy ~ we really work hard to keep open communication with our kids and we aren't the shaming sort, so hopefully that will work out for us, but who knows. Our kids are young. Fingers crossed.
I suspect kids who really want them will buy them for themselves.
I just think the only hope we have as parents is open dialogue vs. trying to keep up with technology & restricting access. There's no guarantee either way, but I think the better bet is lots of conversation and openness vs. trying to control something that so elusive.
CARRIE and DH 7/14/07
I started babysitting at 12 and had a formal job from 14 on. I think that by the time our children are 16, 17 it would be very uncommon for your child to not have some sort of connectivity available to them in their room. But hey, pigs may fly! I'm just a realist on this one.
I never had a TV or computer in my room, but I think that when I was 16 I got my own phone (land line) in my room. I can see my child wanting that. My oldest is 6.........10 years from now will phones even be available withOUT some sort of data plan? I doubt it. I'm just not willing to say "never" on things when I can't even envision where technology will be in 10 or 13 years when my kids are 16.
I'm only saying that keeping them away from phones is not, in my opinion, the most effective strategy, and it is likely to backfire.
We have gotten those pre-approved credit card forms in the mail addressed to my kids...they are 9 and 5.
I'm not encouraging these things, but I'm saying that thinking you can prevent these problems by not buying smart phones for your children is naive.
I will restrict things as long as possible but my kid is already programming computers at almost 8 years, he will soon surpass my knowledge.
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"The soul always knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind." Caroline Myss
What I don't see myself doing is handing my kids a smart phone at 12, letting them loose with it, and hoping they'll tell me what they're doing/looking at. Not gonna happen. As I said earlier (again), when a kid is old enough to get a job (which at some places is 14, at others 15 or 16), they can get a smartphone as far as I'm concerned. There will absolutely be rules about when they can use it (they won't be up all night texting/talking, etc) We already have an iPad and my daughter lays in her bed at night and reads books on it. When she gets old enough to start snooping around the internet we will have to figure out a reasonable way to manage that.
And the whole example of kids putting clothes in their backpack and changing when they get to school (or putting on makeup, whatever) doesn't mean that you shouldn't set boundaries for your kids. Sure, any kid who wants to can find some way around rules...that's no excuse for me not to have rules and expect them to follow them or be disciplined in some way. That way of thinking just doesn't fly with me.
CARRIE and DH 7/14/07