The appeal of a nekkid man

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Alissa_Sal's picture
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The appeal of a nekkid man

Better or worse than a picture of a pile of folded laundry?

http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/listen-up-fellas-naked-man-parts-not-so-sexy/2011/06/01/AGMKSgGH_story.html

For some reason it's not letting me copy and paste, so you can click on the link to read. The gist is basically a tongue in cheek PSA to men, saying that women do not find pictures of their man parts sexy. It then goes on to quote women saying what they would find sexy - ideas include a picture of a pile of folded laundry in a wicker basket, a picture of a man rotating the yogurt in the fridge so that the expired stuff is up front, and a picture of a man who has alphabetized his book collection.

What do we think? Are pictures of naked men sexy?

Secondary - what are your thoughts on the implication (joking though it may be) that women find housework sexy?

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I think it has a lot to do with women not being as visually turned on as men. Are there hot guys out there, heck yeah! But, I've always been attracted to personality first, looks second.

I don't neccessarily think a man doing housework is sexy, but when I see my finacee clean the dishes, sweep the floor, or even just put his laundry in the laundry basket it somehow makes me love him more and want to be with him. I guess it is the helping out and making my list a teeny bit shorter that makes me find him more sexy.

I've explained this to him and I am still suprised he doesn't do more. You'd think that would motivate any guy. Wink

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Those "Porn for Women" books are hilarious. Not a turn-on per se, but if my DH helps out around the house and does those little things for me, it certainly makes me feels loved and appreciated, and that is a turn-on. Smile

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Hubby cleaned the windows a few weeks back. All of them, including my car and the garage door into the backyard. My toes curled then. I think it's the element that we like to know that they are doing something to please us as individuals and not just trying to be sexy. Like when a woman gets a bikini wax with her lover's initial or something that he is interested in. It's a turn on when you know someone cares enough to try to make you happy.

I don't care for naked ones, but the topless muscled, tanned, abs are something that just makes me happy. Biggrin Also, Marines jogging by at 6am knowing they are going to be doing the same thing at 4pm after an entire day of classes and exercising makes my toes curl too.

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Lillie - I think that is a good way to look at it. At first I was getting a little irritated at the article - it's hard to explain, but the idea that a pile of folded laundry would be seen as sexual to a woman just seemed kind of chauvinistic somehow - like this idea that women just loooove cleaning so much they want to marry it. Or in this case, do it. LOL

But I think you're absolutely right that when someone goes out of their way to do something nice for you and please you, that definitely IS sexy. Good point.

I think topless men can be very attractive, but I prefer them to wear knee length shorts unless it's go time. Lol

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"Alissa_Sal" wrote:

Lillie - I think that is a good way to look at it. At first I was getting a little irritated at the article - it's hard to explain, but the idea that a pile of folded laundry would be seen as sexual to a woman just seemed kind of chauvinistic somehow - like this idea that women just loooove cleaning so much they want to marry it. Or in this case, do it. LOL

But I think you're absolutely right that when someone goes out of their way to do something nice for you and please you, that definitely IS sexy. Good point.

I think topless men can be very attractive, but I prefer them to wear knee length shorts unless it's go time. Lol

I agree. I like eye candy/beautiful male bodies, even more so as I have hit my 30's or so. The idea that a pile of folded laundry may make me hot is a little demeaning to me. It seems to imply that we should all be so grateful for anything that any man ever does for us (even the expected duties of a human being, like laundry or vacuuming or whatever) that we immediately want to get it on for some sexy time. I know that the idea was to be funny, but the humor is too obvious and somehow chauvinistic to actually appeal to me, personally.

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http://www.colbertnation.com/the-colbert-report-videos/375209/february-23-2011/stephanie-coontz?xrs=share_copy

It's about 5 minutes into it, but the guest calls it chornography. The best predictor of a man's happiness in a marriage is how little criticism he gets and how much sex he gets. The best predictor of a woman's lack of criticism and sexual attractiveness for her husband is how much housework she does.

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"ethanwinfield" wrote:

http://www.colbertnation.com/the-colbert-report-videos/375209/february-23-2011/stephanie-coontz?xrs=share_copy

It's about 5 minutes into it, but the guest calls it chornography. The best predictor of a man's happiness in a marriage is how little criticism he gets and how much sex he gets. The best predictor of a woman's lack of criticism and sexual attractiveness for her husband is how much housework she does.

I've long suspected that my cleaning lady was fantastic for my marriage ROFL

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I would rather look at a man wearing undies or whatever that abso nothing. Let's face it, willies are UGLY! lol.

xx

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"Minx_Kristi" wrote:

I would rather look at a man wearing undies or whatever that abso nothing. Let's face it, willies are UGLY! lol.

xx

I know that I'd be offended if someone said that same about one of my body parts. I don't think that they are ugly.

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My fave parts of men are the ones I can see without them being nekkid - forearms, nape of neck/top of shoulders, hands. A nice a$$ is a nice a$$ in or out of jeans. I don't need to see the bare bottom to get an appreciation. In fact, I like something left to the imagination. Way sexier than a pile of folded laundry, although I understand the comparison.

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I may be an odd duck but I find my dh super sexy. I don't *need* naked man bits, but when I catch him in the shower (glass walled) after a softball game-- I have to admit it turns my head in a good way.

I sure appreciate folded laundry and a clean house-- but I find those are more kind than sexy. It isn't a rarity in my house to find that dh has done these things (he is at home with the kids while I work....) so I half expect him to do those things, kwim?

While I don't think a picture of excited bits in undies would do it for me, I do like me my naked man....he is really handsome.

Though I've had this convo with friends and they for sure reward their hubbies when they do chores....both bc they are so grateful for the household help and to incent "good" behavior. Not sure what I think about that-- but it works for them.

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Have any of you ever read the book "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. One of my all time favorite books. It talks about everyone having different ways that they feel and show love. I would guess if you feel loved through acts of service then folded laundry would be very appealing to you.

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I don't find random naked men to be sexy. Even if they are doing housework! I expect my husband to help with housework, it doesn't turn me on when he finally does fold laundry...more it's a relief that one less thing is left for me to do.

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I also don't find random naked men to be sexy. I get the housework thing....it's not that housework is sexy or that a man helping out is sexy. I expect help with the housework and so does he. But when he does something chore-like that shows an intimate (for lack of a better word) knowledge of specifically how I like something done, and how tired I am and how great it is to have help, it's kind of hot. It's not like "ooo, folded laundry is hot" but I know when he does his laundry (we do ours separately for sanity) he shoves it all in the basket in a pile, and sometimes he'll pop downstairs, see that mine is ready to go, and he'll fold my clothes from the dryer, match up all the socks, etc., and put my stuff from the washer into the dryer. . .well that's thoughtful in a way that shows that he knows me and wants to go that extra mile. And THAT is sexy to me. If he just grabbed it and threw it in the hamper and brought it upstairs, that would be thoughtful and nice but not sexy. Does that make sense?

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Folded laundry is not sexy. BUT, the less energy I have to expend doing laundry and housework.....the more energy I have for "other things". That is the lesson men need to learn.