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    Apparently it is hurtful and insensitive to make a prank pregnancy announcement on April Fools day. It is offensive and hurtful to any and everyone who may have lost a pregnancy or suffered from infertility.

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    Is it a cute (if very overdone) harmless little April fools joke? Or is it a mean calloused slap in the face to millions of women?

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    I might be a mean and insensitive person because while i feel bad for people who have gone through any sort of difficulty, i think its wrong for those individuals to start expecting everyone to tailor their behavior due to those bad experiences. I would feel its inappropriate to target those individuals specifically for such a prank, but if someone does it on their facebook page or something like that? I don't know...i think its just one of those things that you might just have to deal with if you go through such a loss or trial in life. Its really hard to take into consideration everyone's life experiences and how what you say might hurt this person or that one.

    Overall if you have been through something difficult, you still have to live in the same world you lived in prior to that experience. If your hope is to alter the universe so that you never feel unnecessary pain....I think its a futile effort. Its better to learn to cope with reality.
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    I was going to post, but I wisely waited for Kim to come say what I wanted to say in a better way than I would say it. I'm glad I waited!
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    As someone who has had several miscarriages this is something I have thought of before. There was a time when I was sensitive to all things pregnancy. I could not stand it when someone complained about their pregnancy. Then when I did become pregnant with a sticky pregnancy I learned, you rob someone's joy in their pregnancy when you make them guard everything they say about being pregnant. The fact of the matter is that there are some unfun parts to being pregnant. It is ok to talk about them. I believe the same would go with this. People who currently are not suffering a loss, do not mean ill will to someone when they play this kind of joke. If you know that you are sensitive to this issue, than it would not be a good day to get on FB. FB is also full (At least mine is) of pictures of new babies, pg announcements, and other baby things. It is just part of dealing with loss. That there will seem as though there are babies everywhere. If you are going through a time when things are especially difficult, then that would be a good day to avoid FB.

    OT funny story - Brianna was born on April Fools day 6 years ago. That day was full of Daniel playing jokes on people telling them I was in labor. I was 5 weeks early, so there was no reason to think I could be in labor. I woke up on feeling the best so I stayed home from church. Daniel had fun telling everyone at church I was in labor and then saying "April Fools" (Like he would have been at church if I was in labor). He called his mom and told her I was in labor. She believed him. (That I thought was mean), so thinking he deserved a bit of his own medicine, later that day we were taking a nap. I woke up thinking I felt a little damp. Never in the world thinking my water broke I told Daniel that my water had broken. He woke up out of bed in a panic. I laughed and told him April Fools. He did NOT think it was funny and went back to sleep. Shortly after I realised my water had broken. Not a gush, but a drip. I went to wake him up again and he said Yeah Right and rolled back over to go to sleep. Brianna was born less than 4 hours later and NO ONE believed us. My one friend hung up on Daniel when he called to tell her. I tell everyone that it was April Fools on me.

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    I agree with Kim. As someone who has had fertility struggles and an early loss I know the pain of both and I just don't quite get this and it never occurred to me that it could be painful. I was often pained of learning about someone else getting pregnant when I waited so long for it but I never tried to take away from their joy this would have probably been the same and then either relief that another person wasn't pregnant or mild irritation that they were joking with it.

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    I don't really see the humor in it even ignoring the impact on people with infertility. My FB is a mixture of people who I'm really close to and people who I really only contact via FB. If someone who I was close to told me they were pregnant (or any real big news) via FB only, I would be kind of hurt.

    I know that you have to live in the world but I also know that when we were TTC or after my m/c it felt like everyone was asking me when we were going to have kids and it drove me nuts. If one of my friends did this, i wouldn't shun them or stop being friends with them though
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    I think it is ridiculous for anyone to celebrate April Fools day and since it started out as a Pagan Holiday it is just another day to bash us Christians bigots.

    However, I believe it’s only fair to set the record straight. April Fools’ Day is a Pagan holiday and by precedent, has been associated with some of the most vile and sadistic behavior in human history. My conscience simply doesn’t allow me to take part in a holiday where innocent people were bludgeoned to death all in the name of good fun.

    Now I should reiterate that the term Pagan means, to Christians, any holiday or custom or government that Jesus personally disapproves of. It’s a major misconception that we believe Pagan means “a polytheistic or pre-Christian religion.” No, Pagan simply means that we measure the entity of discussion against the “What Would Jesus Do” principle.
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    April Fools!





    I don't think they are purposely trying to offend someone and we are entirely too sensitive these days about being politically correct and hurting someone's feelings.
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    Well played. I'm almost embarrassed to admit that you got me and i actually thought you were serious!....but only for a second. LOL

    Quote Originally Posted by GloriaInTX View Post
    April Fools!
    I don't think they are purposely trying to offend someone and we are entirely too sensitive these days about being politically correct and hurting someone's feelings.
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    I had someone on my FB friend's list post this just a day or two ago. I happen to know that she very recently had a miscarriage, so for that reason I would respect that something like that would bother her, since I know about it, and I wouldn't personally do it. But in general I completely agree with Kim...people who have fertility issues can have that pain stirred up by so many things (real baby announcements, baby pics, etc), and you can't tiptoe around all of that all the time. In my case, where I know one of my friends would be pained by it, I would feel like a real jerk to do it anyway.
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