I think this is an area where balance is key. Every individual is going to have a different opinion on what is modest. Boys do need to learn to live in and deal with their environment. I love the idea of teaching them not to stare at all and to look into peoples eyes. That said, woman/girls do not need to dress like they are working the street either.
I'm not talking about being their friend and inviting them over and shoving a drink into their hands, I'm thinking of this the same way as a total stranger walking around in a summer outfit that shows her legs, her arms, her neck, a bit of cleavage, etc.
(Drug use is different as it's illegal and so is rarely done out in the open, except at concerts & such.)
-Alissa, mom to Tristan (5) and Reid (the baby!)
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NO, I absolutely don't think that they were trying to teach him respect for women by teaching him that he could not even look at women in natural, normal, heat appropriate clothing. I think that they were teaching him that those women were acting in shameful or sinful ways, which is untrue. To act as though these young girls were being temptresses is wrong and NOT respectful. And yes, I think that it is unlaudable to teach our girls that they are committing sins by dressing in tank tops and shorts.
I think it's icky. To me it's very original sin-ish, the female corrupts the male by tempting him with 'forbidden fruit' type thing. It's gross. Puts the onus on the female to curb a man's impure thoughts and that's just so....I can't even find the words.