Baby or toddler having naked time without mom or parents

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Baby or toddler having naked time without mom or parents

Yesterday coming back from work I caught my 8 month boy naked playing with the nanny with the inflatable pool (she was in a bathing suit and he was butt naked).
Now, she is very affectionate with him whenever she bathes him and changes him, she tickles play-bites and kisses him on tummy and butt ... What bothered me was that she did not tell me out before and she did outdoors with an open fence

What do you think?
Shouldl I tell her something?
What would be your reaction in a similar situation?

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I wouldn't have any problem with my 8 month old being naked in an inflatable pool. Babies are allowed to be naked IMO.

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We have never let our girls go around without clothes, even when they were babies. There are just too many sicko's out there. Even in our own home nudity is kept to a minimum. If it makes you uncomfortable, I would defenatly ask her to stop.

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I would be OK as long as it is in my own fenced backyard, but not if it was where other people could observe them. I am with Bonita on the 'too many sicko's' comment. My husband is RCMP, and a few years ago they arrested a guy for filming naked babies and toddlers at the local outdoor swimming pool. He was parked in his van, filming them out the window. SICK!!!

I would also make sure that my sitter knows I dont want any naked pics taken. Not that she is using them for anything bad, but it is so easy now to snap a pic with a cell phone and send it out onto the net, because she wants to share how cute and wonderful your son is. And naked babies are cute and totally natural, but once that pic is out there it just skeeves me what it could be used for.

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I want to add that part of my opinion comes from one of my oldest daughters good friends. Here is this 9 year old girl that has been taken out of the home and put in foster care. Her father put in jail for the next 20 years at least. Her father and possibly older brother has been raping her for years. Beyond makes me sick. We knew this man well and had him over to our house without ever knowing what was happening. It has blown my trust in allowing people access to my girls. In a perfect world kids could go around naked, but we do not live in a perfect world.

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I wouldn't have an issue with a caregiver allowing naked time. If I trust them to change diapers/panties and bathe then I trust with naked time. DD loves to be naked! We allow it in house or backyard (privacy fence).

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I wouldn't have a problem with that. Our kids all went naked in the daycare's inflatable pool, outdoors with no fence, until they were old enough to put on their own bathing suits.

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"fuchsiasky" wrote:

I wouldn't have an issue with a caregiver allowing naked time. If I trust them to change diapers/panties and bathe then I trust with naked time. DD loves to be naked! We allow it in house or backyard (privacy fence).

This is what I was thinking. I know we don't live in a perfect world, but I honestly don't worry overmuch that a random sicko on the street is going to see my baby's butt and get a thrill. I don't actually think there are that many sickos in the world lurking in neighborhoods in hopes of catching the odd glimpse of a naked 8 month old. Obviously I wouldn't let my kid get naked with a stranger on the street, but if it was someone that I trusted to watch him, change his diaper, bathe him, et cetera, then him sitting naked in a baby pool wouldn't worry me.

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"Alissa_Sal" wrote:

This is what I was thinking. I know we don't live in a perfect world, but I honestly don't worry overmuch that a random sicko on the street is going to see my baby's butt and get a thrill. I don't actually think there are that many sickos in the world lurking in neighborhoods in hopes of catching the odd glimpse of a naked 8 month old. Obviously I wouldn't let my kid get naked with a stranger on the street, but if it was someone that I trusted to watch him, change his diaper, bathe him, et cetera, then him sitting naked in a baby pool wouldn't worry me.

Same here. I wouldn't have an issue with it at all.

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No problems here. Our nanny is a freak about getting him dressed. I had him in just a diaper one day a couple of weeks ago and forgot my hat and when I came back in from the car, she was dressing him. I wouldn't worry about our backyard either. While I don't like our next door neighbors (who the F cuts loops in the top of a privacy fence?), I don't think they're perverts and even if they are, I think she'd notice if they were staring let alone taking pictures. I even change his diaper in public (the waterpark only has one changing table and it's usually occupied so I just take him in the grass).

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I am not sure if your post uses the English used due to limitation or not, and if it is limitation it is of course perfectly fine. If it is not English limitation and use then i feel concerned about your feelings toward the person watching your baby. You seem extremely untrusting toward the person. If so maybe you should think about why and/or find another person but if you do trust then you need to make sure you see eye to eye according to your expectations and comfort level.

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"fuchsiasky" wrote:

I wouldn't have an issue with a caregiver allowing naked time. If I trust them to change diapers/panties and bathe then I trust with naked time. DD loves to be naked! We allow it in house or backyard (privacy fence).

Ditto here. Now that Weston is bigger we do try to insist on him wearing underpants, especially since we have a shared yard, but it doesn't always work. My naked outdoors rule is no sitting on the chairs if your fanny isn't covered.

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A naked baby in a pool is not a problem for me at all. In fact I did the naked potty training for my 2 youngest boys and it worked like a charm.

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This is interesting to me. I did not expect the responses (Nothing wrong with them, just surprised). In our house naked time is limited to taking a bath and getting dressed.

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"AlyssaEimers" wrote:

This is interesting to me. I did not expect the responses (Nothing wrong with them, just surprised). In our house naked time is limited to taking a bath and getting dressed.

We don't, like, encourage naked time (like "You should get naked now!") LOL But it's also not a big deal, especially if we're talking about a baby who could care less anyway. Now that T is older, I do talk to him about privacy, but with an 8 month old? Definitely not a big deal in our house.

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"Alissa_Sal" wrote:

We don't, like, encourage naked time (like "You should get naked now!") LOL But it's also not a big deal, especially if we're talking about a baby who could care less anyway. Now that T is older, I do talk to him about privacy, but with an 8 month old? Definitely not a big deal in our house.

Same here.

Streakers are a fairly common sight... They forget to bring their jammies into the bathroom at bath time or sprint to the dryer to look for a specific clothing item. My toddlers/infants always have enjoyed being naked and think it is funniest thing in the world to run around naked Smile

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"Alissa_Sal" wrote:

We don't, like, encourage naked time (like "You should get naked now!") LOL But it's also not a big deal, especially if we're talking about a baby who could care less anyway. Now that T is older, I do talk to him about privacy, but with an 8 month old? Definitely not a big deal in our house.

Same here. We don't encourage it, but we don't react negatively to it either. Some kids just like being naked! We do talk about privacy and when/where it is ok to be naked, but DD is three so it isn't really on her radar yet. Her best friend is also a nudist (she is 5) and if she is in a safe environment she will strip as soon as she uses the bathroom (it is her convenient excuse - cant pee with pants on - lol). At the moment it is our job to tell them when/where it is ok to be naked because they don't have the modesty to make that judgement call.

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My kids think being naked is hilarious! (It is.)