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Birth Control (NAD)

What are we all doing about it these days? Don't answer if it's too personal.

I have Mirena. Got in in January. So far I hate it.

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Snip snip!

We're done.

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"KimPossible" wrote:

Snip snip!

We're done.

Did your DH moan and groan about it or was he like meh, no biggie? My DH is a wuss and has based his feelings about it on what one other wuss guy he knows said about it and how awful it was.

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Condoms, and we both hate them. I haven't taken hormonal birth control for a while for a few reasons, and can't/won't (both). I asked my OB just recently about a diaphram and she laughed at me and said she hasn't given one of those out since her first 2-3 years in practice. I didn't realize they were THAT outdated. I told her I'm just looking for ANYTHING other than condoms and she basically told me there is nothing else. So I guess we are stuck with that until we decide for sure if we are having any more (a decision I don't expect to be permanent for another couple of years) and then one of us gets snipped and tied up.

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I still take birth control pills. They work, they control my periods, it's fine. No unwanted side effects. And it's all covered by insurance so no crazy cost either.

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"ClairesMommy" wrote:

Did your DH moan and groan about it or was he like meh, no biggie? My DH is a wuss and has based his feelings about it on what one other wuss guy he knows said about it and how awful it was.

I'd say he was in between the two...more on the 'meh' side. He always seemed open to the idea, never told me he wouldn't do it. Didn't complain much ahead of time....but looked very uncomfortable for a few days after and while he wasn't a HUGE wuss about it, he didn't really hide his discomfort either. And really, I'm very certain he loves the freedom its provided us and finds it totally worth it because prior to that, we used condoms.

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I still take birth control pills. They work, they control my periods, it's fine. No unwanted side effects. And it's all covered by insurance so no crazy cost either.

I think I'm leaning towards going back to the pill. Periods were predictable, no major issues. With the Mirena I had a $200 co-pay!! Too bad I didn't know how it would affect me before I wasted my money. After Ben was born I had a paragard copper IUD inserted and it was awful. 12 day cycles that were really heavy, terrible back pain. I thought the Mirena would be better because of the hormones, but so far it's a dud.

I would just like to be off bc altogether. I should just give DH 3 months' warning that I'm going off birth control and then see how fast he gets himself booked for the snip.

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I take the BCP round the clock (like, no periods) because of a medical issue I have. No co pay, works awesome for us. We still may crank out one more kid, so this is a great option for us, taking my pill is like clockwork for me as my life is so scheduled.

The mirena was a (literal) nightmare for me ending in a surgical removal. After getting pregnant while exclusively breastfeeding and cosleeping and LAM and all that hippy crap after my first I was terrified to get pregnant after my second so went with it ~ endured almost a year of spotting and pain and kept telling myself to suck it up because I was afraid to have it removed and get pregnant (I skeeve condoms and was nursing/couldn't use the BCP)......wish so much I had had it removed before it went and implanted into my cervix Sad Listen to your body if that bugger is giving you issues, Lisa!

Tons of my friends husbands have vasectomies as they are done, very common around here. Tell him to man up! You gave birth twice for petes! Smile

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I am just lucky, I know some people have a hard time with the pill. I guess it likes me.

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I had my tubes tied with my last c-section. I figured why not while they were in there anyway. I had heard that some people had heavier periods after but thought they were just exaggerating until it happened to me. My periods are a lot heavier and closer together after I had my tubes tied.

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Oh and I also wear bikinis and get abortions for fun.

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Kidding! I do wear bikinis. Because I am loose and wanton and throw my genitals at passing strangers and teach my young daughter to do the same.

But I don't really get abortions for fun.

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I take the BCP round the clock (like, no periods) because of a medical issue I have. No co pay, works awesome for us. We still may crank out one more kid, so this is a great option for us, taking my pill is like clockwork for me as my life is so scheduled.

The mirena was a (literal) nightmare for me ending in a surgical removal. After getting pregnant while exclusively breastfeeding and cosleeping and LAM and all that hippy crap after my first I was terrified to get pregnant after my second so went with it ~ endured almost a year of spotting and pain and kept telling myself to suck it up because I was afraid to have it removed and get pregnant (I skeeve condoms and was nursing/couldn't use the BCP)......wish so much I had had it removed before it went and implanted into my cervix Sad Listen to your body if that bugger is giving you issues, Lisa!

Tons of my friends husbands have vasectomies as they are done, very common around here. Tell him to man up! You gave birth twice for petes! Smile

I remember so clearly crawling into the doctor's office, begging her to take the paragard out, only to be told 'sorry, come back on day 3 of your next period and then we'll take it out'. Something about my cervix needing to be favourable for removal. I cried. No pain could have been worse than what I was experiencing. When I finally had it removed I felt instant relief. I went back on bcp and was okay. Then my OB suggested Mirena to help with endo pain, seeing as it would probably stop my periods. So far I'm passing clots and have this intense SI joint pain in my lower back - like i'm being impaled on a hot skewer or something. Just like with the paragard. I guess me and IUDs just don't mix. I'll give it another month or two, but I think my body just hates it and its gotsta go.

Though, all this time I just figured (don't know why) you were done having kids and then you go and drop that interesting little thing about maybe one more. Wink But like you're Fertile Myrtle so just stay on those bcp's until you decide!

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Ohhh, yes. I have adenomyosis, which is like endo's stepsister, and its very evil. Sounds exactly like you describe. Continuous BCP is totally controlling it, changed my life. It popped up out of no where after having easy breezy cycles my entire life, totally bizarre.

And who knows. The smart and easy thing to do would be done ~ I love our B/G/B set up and how close they are, so we are probably done. Then again it might be fun to be home with a snuggly baby when they are all off at school Smile Who knows. Probably done (after all I have a golf game to get back to!), but there is always that chance we do something impulsive Smile

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I have my tubes tied. I have had a TON of complications so I do not know if I would recommend that so someone else or if I am just unlucky. I know many people have it done without complications. When I was first married I was on OrthoTriCycline (Unsure of the spelling again). That did not go well either. I gained a lot of weight while on it and also got pg and miscarried while taking it. I had a lot of guilt from that experience and never wanted to take it again. After Brianna was born I went on the dipovera shot (sp) for 1 year. I pretty much had my period all the time and no sex drive. In the end I think there is no perfect BC option for us.

My OB wants to re-tie my tubes because I have been pg and miscarried since having my tubes tied but I do not think that is the answer. I am going to a different GYN (does not do babies) doctor on the 26th to see if we can find out what is wrong and what to do about it. (I consistently get faint positive pt and I am lactating even though my youngest is 3 1/2 and am for sure not pg.)

Best of luck finding what is right for you.

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Ohhh, yes. I have adenomyosis, which is like endo's stepsister, and its very evil. Sounds exactly like you describe. Continuous BCP is totally controlling it, changed my life. It popped up out of no where after having easy breezy cycles my entire life, totally bizarre.

And who knows. The smart and easy thing to do would be done ~ I love our B/G/B set up and how close they are, so we are probably done. Then again it might be fun to be home with a snuggly baby when they are all off at school Smile Who knows. Probably done (after all I have a golf game to get back to!), but there is always that chance we do something impulsive Smile

Have to agree. I must regain my title of 'Ladies Long Drive' winner. It's how I take out my frustrations. Golf. Nothing feels better than cracking that little ball so far I can't see it. Though I end up like Happy Gilmore lots of times. Just raging, and then my game just falls apart.

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I am on the mini pill right now as I am nursing. I love it cause for some reason my period stays away as long as I am on it. With the other two I switched to the regular pill at 6 months and got my period back, with this one I am still period free! Yay!

Usually I take the regular pill and have had no problems. In a few years DH will probably have the snip once we decide for sure we are done having babies. However we know a couple of men who have had crazy, painful complications from it, so........we will see.

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Had my tubes tied in Sept 2003. Don't recommend it to anyone! When they did it, i woke up as they were pulling the breathing tube out of my throat. The recovery was complete hell on me. I had less pain and aggravation when i had my breast reduction done and thats major surgery. My cycles used to be like clockwork, now they are so screwed up. I went 3 months at one point with no AF, they could never give me an answer why. The cramps are horrendous. I've already had one ovarian cyst that burst (i was at work at the time).

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Dh got snipped in Sept, in Dec they told him he still had swimmers, more swimmers in Jan, and then last week they said there were none left. I am so freaked out about getting pregnant again. I feel like with 3 kids we only visited crazy town sometimes. Now I feel like the mayor of crazy town. It is wild at our house most of the time

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Dh got snipped in Sept, in Dec they told him he still had swimmers, more swimmers in Jan, and then last week they said there were none left. I am so freaked out about getting pregnant again. I feel like with 3 kids we only visited crazy town sometimes. Now I feel like the mayor of crazy town. It is wild at our house most of the time

You're funny.

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I hate hormonal birth control and promised myself I would never go back on it, so when we're not knocked up/TTC, we just use condoms. Meh. It doesn't really bother me, and DH says he doesn't mind either, so whatever. We have talked about DH getting snipped after we have two though, so maybe he will pursue that sometime soon. It would be nice to not have to worry about condoms anymore, but I figure it's his body and he is the one that has to go through it, so that's 100% his decision, other than me saying that I'm for it if he wants it.

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I hate hormonal birth control and promised myself I would never go back on it, so when we're not knocked up/TTC, we just use condoms. Meh. It doesn't really bother me, and DH says he doesn't mind either, so whatever. We have talked about DH getting snipped after we have two though, so maybe he will pursue that sometime soon. It would be nice to not have to worry about condoms anymore, but I figure it's his body and he is the one that has to go through it, so that's 100% his decision, other than me saying that I'm for it if he wants it.

I was waiting for you to post. Pregnancy does not count as a form of bc, Alissa. Wink Sorry. That was offside.

In all seriousness, I hate condoms for the simple reason that they, um, for lack of a better phrase, dry me up. We could use all the lube in the world and it wouldn't matter.

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I have the Paragard (non hormonal copper IUD). So far my period sucks big donkey balls ever since I had it put in but I read that the 1st year is the roughest and it gets better eventually.

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For those of you that dont like hormonal BC and dont like condoms, we used a get called Ortho options very effectively for most of our marriage.

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Dh fixed Wink I wasn't going to do bc pills again for birth control.

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We are done. He got snipped. Yay.

I hated the pills. They made me mean and killed my sex drive. Kinda defeated the point. The IUD moved and caused horrendous complications. And we both hate condoms. Really his getting snipped was the only option. Besides, I had the c-section, he got to have the vasectomy. Smile

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"ClairesMommy" wrote:

Did your DH moan and groan about it or was he like meh, no biggie? My DH is a wuss and has based his feelings about it on what one other wuss guy he knows said about it and how awful it was.

Rob did pretty well. He had a couple of days on the couch with a bag of frozen peas and he was good.

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"mom3girls" wrote:

For those of you that dont like hormonal BC and dont like condoms, we used a get called Ortho options very effectively for most of our marriage.

I am trying to figure out what this means??

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I am trying to figure out what this means??

I googled it. It's a gel you insert before sex.

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Oh okay thanks

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I use the estrogen only pill and it works great. 96% effective vs. 98% with the combo pill, but I have no mood effects at all. The combo pill messed me up!

I am afraid to get an implant and my insurance wouldn't pay for it anyway, yet they do pay for the pill. Hubs will not get a V.

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Snip snip here. And so far I love it!

Dh happily signed up to get it and really didn't complain about it at all. Totally manageable. I will say that I was surprised at the amount of swelling post-snip, but that really only lasted a few days and then he was fine. He was back to running 7 days post-snip, had no stitches and drove himself to and fro the appointment. And his fish no longer swim. Woot!

GL with your decision.

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You guys seem to have hubbies who have had pretty good snip snip experiences. My brother had it done and he said he sat on a bag of peas for a day and was fine to go back to work after that, and he's a fireman.

When I go to my dr appt today I'm going to tell him how I feel about the Mirena. I had this weird (TMI) clotty spotting for a couple days and then it turned into what I thought was a real period, then it went away for a day, and now it's back. Like, let's get on with it for pete's sake. If this is the way it's going to be, then I don't want any part of it. I want a predictable period that lasts for 5 days and then stops. This back and forth $hit is driving me mental. Not enough for a tampon, but then I'm wearing liners every.single.day, just in case. That sucks.

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Lisa, everyone of my friends that have tried Mirena have had the same experience you are having. They all hated it.
My Dhs vas. was a breeze for him, but I was surprised by the swelling and the bruising, it looked really bad. Aside from the fact that he had swimmers for 2 months longer then they anticipated it went great.

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Lisa, everyone of my friends that have tried Mirena have had the same experience you are having. They all hated it.
My Dhs vas. was a breeze for him, but I was surprised by the swelling and the bruising, it looked really bad. Aside from the fact that he had swimmers for 2 months longer then they anticipated it went great.

well, it's good to know i'm not alone. i've read lots of stuff on the web lately about those same symptoms. dh did say last night he's going to have to "grow an extra ball" :rolleyes: and get it done. Hopefully he'll be okay with the recoup and that the bruising isn't too bad. But hey, I had huge purple varicose veins in my va-jay-jay for 5 months with Ben. I took the mirror down there, oh yes I did. I wish I didn't. It was shocking and sad.

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My oldest sister has a boy that is 6 months older then my oldest, she made me swear I wouldnt look down there until Molly was at least 1! I took her advice, and I am so glad I did

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**MC mentioned ahead**

Right now I'm waiting for my period to return. I was AF free from February of 2011 to October of 2012, with a pregnancy and BF. I only had two periods and got pregnant (we weren't using any BC). At 10 weeks along, I had a miscariage (so just seven weeks ago) and have yet to get a period again. I have the pill on standby, as I don't want to get PG again anytime soon (we weren't trying with the one that we lost and not sure if we want any more children). Anyone know how long after a MC it takes to get your period again?

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**MC mentioned ahead**

Right now I'm waiting for my period to return. I was AF free from February of 2011 to October of 2012, with a pregnancy and BF. I only had two periods and got pregnant (we weren't using any BC). At 10 weeks along, I had a miscariage (so just seven weeks ago) and have yet to get a period again. I have the pill on standby, as I don't want to get PG again anytime soon (we weren't trying with the one that we lost and not sure if we want any more children). Anyone know how long after a MC it takes to get your period again?

I am sorry for your loss. :bigarmhug:

It varies from MC to MC on how long it will take to get AF back. It can act like the first day of a normal AF with your next AF being 28 days later (Or whatever is normal for you), or it can take months and months for things to get back to normal. The TTCAL board is full of wonderful ladies that would love to be there for you. You are also welcome to PM me with any questions you might have.

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**MC mentioned ahead**

Right now I'm waiting for my period to return. I was AF free from February of 2011 to October of 2012, with a pregnancy and BF. I only had two periods and got pregnant (we weren't using any BC). At 10 weeks along, I had a miscariage (so just seven weeks ago) and have yet to get a period again. I have the pill on standby, as I don't want to get PG again anytime soon (we weren't trying with the one that we lost and not sure if we want any more children). Anyone know how long after a MC it takes to get your period again?

I just wanted to say I'm sorry.

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I have a Mirena and I love it -- or should I say, I love it now. I really didn't like it at the beginning, I spotted for five freaking months, not enough to want it out but enough to be annoying. Once that stopped, I haven't had any bleeding or spotting for close to two years now. I didn't like that I could feel the strings so I had my OB trim them shorter and that made a huge difference. Also they soften up after a while & kind of curl up around your cervix so they do become not-as-noticable, but if they bug you, definitely ask to have them trimmed down. You should not have any pain, that indicates that it might be out of place & your OB should take a peek with ultrasound to make sure it's still where it belongs. If it's just the spotting that bothers you, I've heard of some women taking an extra dose of BCP every day for a week to get it stopped. Of course, I heard about that *after* my own spotting had stopped so I don't know if it really works but I'd say it's worth a try before giving up on Mirena.

Before Mirena, I was a BCP addict. I loved them, never had a problem with them, didn't have a problem remembering to take them but I did carry an extra pack in my purse JIC I forgot one which I only rarely had to take. And I love skipping periods as often as possible so BCP were a great method for me. But I'm getting older and the risks start getting higher & higher, and after 25 years on them I was ready to be forgetful for a change. So Mirena is happily in place until I'm in menopause, or longer. It's now being used as a form of hormone replacement therapy for post-menopausal women, apparently with very good results. I might keep it until I die! Blum 3

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"Starryblue702" wrote:

**MC mentioned ahead**

Right now I'm waiting for my period to return. I was AF free from February of 2011 to October of 2012, with a pregnancy and BF. I only had two periods and got pregnant (we weren't using any BC). At 10 weeks along, I had a miscariage (so just seven weeks ago) and have yet to get a period again. I have the pill on standby, as I don't want to get PG again anytime soon (we weren't trying with the one that we lost and not sure if we want any more children). Anyone know how long after a MC it takes to get your period again?

:bighug: I would think 7 weeks should be long enough. I've never heard of having to wait for another period after a miscarriage before starting birth control. I'd take a test to make sure I wasn't pregnant again, and then start my next pack of pills on Sunday with or without AF showing up.

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Several people that I know with Mirena, who all love it now, have said that they spotted quite a bit for the first several month. I think you have to get through that part and then it's good (for most people, at least).

As for Paraguard, my OB just told me at my last appointment that it tends to give people horrendous periods.

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:bighug: I would think 7 weeks should be long enough. I've never heard of having to wait for another period after a miscarriage before starting birth control. I'd take a test to make sure I wasn't pregnant again, and then start my next pack of pills on Sunday with or without AF showing up.

Thankfully I finally started my period Friday. It was sad of course, because instead of being 18 weeks pregnant with my sweet baby, I got a period. Oh well... I'm just glad that I can finally start to feel normal again. Still not sure if I'm going to want another baby, but at least I was finally able to start my BC pills!

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We use nothing. Right now I am TTC so of course nothing is used, between DS and TTc starting a year ago I found abstinence to be a great form of birth control. Seriously breastfeeding tanked what little drive I have so it just didn't happen. I have told hubby I don't expect him to get the snip when we are done and he also doesn't expect me to get anything permanent done and the pill is so freaking expensive and it takes me awhile to find one that doesn't make me nutty, suicidal or homicidal, and at the cost of them I can't afford to trial one for a couple of months then go back to the doctor and trial another one.