I am all for breast feeding, but is it fair to call out Mother's who bottle feed?
From personal experience, I wanted to BF my DD but because I found it so hard to get her to latch on without help from my MW, I opted for bottles instead.
Was that wrong of me? Why?
Me - Kristi, 30
DD - Leia, July 5 2008
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No, it is never fair to call out mothers who bottle feed. IME, the majority of women who bottle feed desperately wanted to breastfeed wanted to but couldn't for various reasons. To add public mockery to that would be horrifying.
But people judge mothers for all sorts of reasons (and I do it too) so I don't expect this to change.
My opinion? Who cares. As long as you are feeding your child, I really don't give a flip if it's from the boob or bottle. It isn't wrong either way.
Yeah, no excuse. None at all.
I'm a breastfeeding advocate and I would never ever dream of judging a woman for formula feeding. I know first hand the difficulties that can come with breastfeeding. There are lots of reasons to choose formula.
No it's not fair. Why do people feel the need to judge mothers/fathers for everything they do? You get judged if you bottle feed, you get judged if you breastfeed past what age they think is "acceptable", you get judged for how you put them to bed, etc... As long as you aren't putting huring the baby, let parent's do what they feel is best for their family.
No. You will do what is best for your child. I know someone who tried desperately to BF her baby to the point that when obviously the baby was starving she still would not bottle feed. She did not switch until CPS told her she must to keep the baby. How is that doing what is best for your baby? DD1 was 6 weeks early. She was born without the ability to suck. DD3 was born 8 weeks early. She was also born without the ability to suck or swallow. Praise the Lord I live in a day and age where there are bottles to feed my baby.
No. There are many reasons why babies are formula fed, and as long as the baby is healthy and well fed, it's no one else's business.
I had a bit of trouble breastfeeding T when he was a newborn. Honestly, I am glad that I stuck it out, but I do wish that I hadn't allowed it to stress me out so much at the time. It felt so...life or death....to get nursing down, and it was a huge source of stress during those early days. I'm not at all sorry that I stuck with it, but I do wish that I would have kept a better perspective on it, like "Okay, even if we never get this down, my baby isn't going to die or starve to death. Formula is NOT the end of the world." If I had any advice to give a new mom that is struggling with bfing, I would encourage her to stick with it if she can, but also to relax and not beat herself up if she ends up bottle feeding, because at the end of the day, her baby will be completely fine either way.
-Alissa, mom to Tristan (5) and Reid (the baby!)
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Thing that really pi$$es me off about the whole debate is that no matter what you do as a mother, you're villified in some way by at least a few people. If you bf that's all well and good but don't dare try to do it in public. If you bottle feed you might as well be feeding your kid poison, or at least that's the opinion of a few radical bfing proponents. Everyone just needs to go about their business and be way less concerned with how mothers feed their children. Yes, we all know breast is best, but 'best' is a very subjective word and for some it just.doesn't.work.
So no, that would be silly. In fact, the fact that anyone would ever argue anything else is silly. Like Rebecca said, who cares? I'm too worried about feeding my baby to even think about how you feed yours.
ETA: I'd also like to say that anyone who ever gets outraged at this debate in general, or anyone else's opinion on how you feed your child really only has themselves to blame. If you know in your heart that what you are doing is right ~ For you, for your child, be it nursing or formula, why you would entertain the opinion of an outsider on what you are doing is beyond me. I have heard comments from relatives or strangers about how long I nurse my children for and I would never waste a second being upset about it. It isn't their body, it isn't their child, it isn't their life, so why do I care?
Last edited by Potter75; 06-21-2011 at 01:40 PM.