I also wanted to add, that my thinking that the Government should stay out of marriage, is not making it happen. I am not actively trying to stop Gay marriage. I would not vote, or not vote for someone based on this issue.
Bonita...I'm so confused. You want marriage to be a declaration in front of family and friends (which is a very common thing now for marriage. Many people at least bring 1 or 2 witnesses although some are just by themselves) and you want paperwork to be filed so that you can pair up with anyone as a beneficiary....the question still remains as to who is processing the paperwork? Someone of authority has to say...hey you are paired up with so and so...right?
So basically we have what we know as marriage today (a ceremony followed by paperwork filing) but the only difference is you can file with another person of your choosing with or without the ceremony. Seems kind of silly to me to do all this in order to circumvent gay people getting the right to marry legally.
Why don't we keep it as: 2 consenting adults can commit for life in front of their friends and family (if they choose), file for a certificate and live happily ever after. They get to decide if they want their property, kids, etc to go to certain parties by legal paperwork so people know what they wanted. If I decide to buy property with my brother someday we can file it without committing to each other for life. If I want my children to go to close friends, I write up a will designating that and I don't have to "married" to either one of them.
I wanted to go back and say the example about minimum wage was to compare believing in something that was not realistic or going to happen, not to compare minimum wage with marriage. You can still believe something would be the ideal situation, even if you understand it probably will not happen. Another example would be that you could hope that guns would be banned and that no one would ever own a gun, but at the same time understand that is probably never going to happen, or even that you would vote that way. That does not mean you are not allowed to think that would be the best solution.
Totally off topic, but my husband and I are playing 'Mass Effect 3' and I think it is really cool that there is a male character who talks freely about his husband. It is great that this is becoming more and more mainstream.
BTW, I am in Canada, and Gay marriage has not changed my marriage in any way. Any way at all. The only thing it has changed is that now when my son says he wants to marry his male friend, I can tell him 'maybe someday', instead of trying to explain to him why thats not possible......and I like that.