I think you would find that most people that get married in a church, do so for the same reasons that you do. To make a life long commitment before their friends and family. It happening in a church does not magically change it into something else. I know many people who are not religious at all, or do not practice religion regularly, but still get married in a church.
I also hope my tone is coming across ok. This topic is always is hard for me because I know so many people on both sides of the issue. This is the only solution that I can come up with that will solve the problem. It almost feels like a situation where two kids are fighting over the same toy, the parent has to come in a say, ok fine no one gets it. It is not an ideal situation, but I think it is the only fair option in this situation.
DH-Aug 30th 1997 Josiah - 6/3/02 Isaac 7/31/03
How could a judge marry people if there was no connection to government. What is the authority granting the marriage?
I have been to many church weddings. I just wouldn't ever get married in one. I do not like organized religion so it wouldn't be appropriate for me to get married in a church or synagogue.
Totally get your tone. Don't worry. I like that you will dig into the details. That's why we're debating!
My understanding is that any time someone gets married (either in a church or a courthouse or the great outdoors), you pay the person marrying you, and you pay for your marriage licence. You could still pay for a service rendered.
I am close to someone who has a fundamental disbelief in marriage. He has lived with the same person for at least 14 years and has 2 children with her. They are every bit as much a family as my DH and I. Why should he not be able to have the same rights as my DH? What about a widow that has been married for 40 years then her husband died?
Although, I don't think anyone of us is wrong. We're just on different paths.