I believe what she is trying to say is that you could still pursue a marriage in church but there would be no non religious marriage. Why take marriage away from all because you don't want to give it to 1 group? That makes no sense.
If there is no legality to it..there really isn't marriage though is there? What would actual make it a marriage...the ceremony? Can I just say..hey I marry you? I committed to my husband when we were dating. We were together but our wedding ceremony was completely different...I felt different. That "piece of paper" meant that I declared to the world that I was entering into a union with him. To be a family with him. We did get married at church so it was recognized there but outside of our friends and family and the Catholic church....how else was I to say we were married?
I love the distinction. I love that he isn't just my boyfriend. I'm having a caffeine crash finally and I'm hoping I'm making sense.
In my opinion, yes, when you stand before your friends and family and commit yourselves together, that is what makes you married. Not the piece of paper. Each time I type this, I think of the Little House on the Prairie times. There was no "Legal" around for miles. Where they not still "married"? IMO, they were just as married as I am today. It was the services and commitment that made them married, not the paper.
ETA - I do have a deep belief in God, but I do not believe you need to have that do get married.
What do you mean by services? Non religious people have their marriage performed by a judge or JP what happens then?
So you basically want to keep all people who can perform marriages be able to perform them, you don't want any licenses or certificates to say that it happened, and no tax benefits?
And yes..what Laurie said...it was the church. I was religiously and legally married by the Priest. He has rights to legally perform our ceremony and he filed our certificate.