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    Default Bring back a specific Abortion Debate board?

    As you can read across many debates, this has become an issue.

    I am a weird outlier in the bunch of you as I am a pro-choice birthmother. I know that there are other birthmothers on here and they are way cooler than I am with being super-human like and well-adjusted and all. I am just an imperfect human being and an imperfect mom who is doing my best to keep her skills sharp.

    I really like you all and think that you have interesting and intelligent things to say. I want very much to be in the conversation. But I do not always want it to turn to abortion. I can go there with you sometimes, sure. And as Rivergallery so pointedly invited me to do so, "face it."

    But, sheesh. It is a bit overwhelming.

    Does anyone else wish that there was a specific board to hash out Abortion issues? I don't think it's a problem to have it come through conversation here. . . but the agenda is so heavy sometimes that it is beyond the pale.
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    This reply has nothing to do with the abortion debate but...

    It is cool that you are a birth mom. One of my nieces is a birth mom as well as the wife of one of my nephews. I am an adoptee (from back in the day of only closed adoptions). My birth mom recently passed away (we had been reunited since 1996) and so your mention of being a birth mom caught my eye.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mom2robbie View Post
    This reply has nothing to do with the abortion debate but...

    It is cool that you are a birth mom. One of my nieces is a birth mom as well as the wife of one of my nephews. I am an adoptee (from back in the day of only closed adoptions). My birth mom recently passed away (we had been reunited since 1996) and so your mention of being a birth mom caught my eye.
    Thanks for saying that. My birthdaughter is almost 21 and we have a good relationship. It was an open adoption and I am grateful daily.

    And I think I was a helpful voice on the old abortion debate board. I felt helpful in bridging the gap.

    It's just that when it is the constant foci, it becomes difficult. It simply is not that way in life. People, even deeply pro-life people walk around with some kind of mask of civility.

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    ETA: In thinking about it more, I don't know that it totally needs its own board ~ its the bringing it into every topic that is wearing *me* down and catching me off guard. The rules state that it should be labeled. Missy, I don't care if the *quick reply* feature does not allow a poster to label a totally unrelated post ~ that just means that on a post where a poster is interjecting an abortion rant to an unrelated subject they can't use the *quick reply* feature and has to label their rant appropriately. That doesn't seem like such a hardship to keep the peace or comply with the stated rules of the board, does it? When a debate topic is about abortion it should also be labeled as such.*edited to remove personal information that clearly does not matter ~ admin clearly does not care if this is hurtful to members so there is no point in sharing it. Sorry.
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    No we have been there and it doesn't work. No one bothers to even look at it so it is pointless to have a separate board for one topic. Melissa if I remember right wasn't it you who brought abortion into the gun thread in the first place?

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    Hey 15600 was a HUGE OMG number to you on the last debate. If 31000 in this one is no big sweat I get it. Double the number of actual people vs fetuses. Dead. But you don't care at all. That's cool. Anyway I'm celebrating the faux holiday of 5 may so I will have to catch you ttomorrow.
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    I am always up for an abortion debate. I don't think it needs its own board but I do think that since people are sensitive to the topic that either it's put up in the debate title or the post is started with it.

    I don't think this should be done with everything but I do think that people on both sides have trouble with this topic a lot so why not?
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    I don't want it to be its own board really, but I don't want anymore arguments of this sort:

    "Why do you care about this but don't care about aborted babies"

    To me, bringing up abortion if it contributes to the existing debate, is okay with me. To bring it up because you want to use the existing debate to convince other people to change their mind about the abortion debate is not okay. I think if one asks themselves before posting if it fits in the second category, then it will become obvious when you should refrain from saying what you are about to say.
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    Or another question you could ask is "am I using this debate to express my outrage that more people are not pro-life/pro-choice like me"

    If the answer is yes, then don't post it
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    Perhaps we can make a generic rule for this board about "topic obsession" we can use my questions above in the writing as an example of violation. Make the wording more generic
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    Quote Originally Posted by KimPossible View Post
    I don't want it to be its own board really, but I don't want anymore arguments of this sort:

    "Why do you care about this but don't care about aborted babies"
    I don't understand how this is any diffferent from the post quoted above which is essentially just the opposite.

    "Why do you care about aborted babies but don't care about this"

    Seems kind of hypocritical that it is ok if you bring abortion into the thread for that reason instead of the other way.
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