Kyla, I agree.
ClairesMommy and Jessica, so sad about those kids
I do think it is important to bring more awareness to the problem of bullying. I think it's equally important to teach kids to stand up for themselves. They should know self-defense moves, and have so much confidence in who they are that they won't care what one person says about them (or even group of people).
Couldn't they teach some basic self-defense moves during P.E.? Or do you think too many parents would have a problem with that?
But it's not always physical self defense....I would be more mad that my school system was teaching SD and not addressing the attackers.
I just think it becomes similar to rape cases..."what was she doing out jogging at 10pm?" "why didn't she do something to protect herself?" I don't think I would agree to SD in school as a form to combat bullies.
Words do hurt regardless, yes. Good point.
I'm not saying that teaching kids to defend themselves would solve bullying in any way, and I am in no way saying that victims should have known better, or anything like that. Absolutely not. I just think it would just better prepare them (general them) for dealing with one IMO, that's all. It certainly couldn't hurt for kids to know self-defense, right? I think if anything it would cut down on physical bullying. And if kids can be taught properly how to mentally/verbally defend themselves, I think it would also cut down and/or discourage verbal bullying. Not in all cases, there are exceptions, of course... but for the majority of them, at least.
At the same time, we (parents, teachers, etc.) don't need to back down at all from dealing with the problem of bullying.
Last edited by FLSunshineMom; 03-27-2013 at 09:33 AM.
I agree with SunshineMom!
We need to address the bullying, but we also need to give kids the skills to cope with it, whether it's physical or verbal or psychological. You have to go at it from both sides.
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I would suggest that we also need to give kids and the Adults in the schools (or other groups) the skills to recognize a bully and bullying behavior. If a victim can look at what is going on and identify that they are being bullied, they will not only be able to get help, but it would help them to put the blame where it belongs, on the bully, instead of trying to find something wrong in themselves to blame. I also believe since, as I said, when it comes to the non physical bullying it is often part of a continuum, that often this type of bullying is overlooked by adults and this is where the child suffers the most..
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We also need to work on teaching kids to tell parents what is happening in schools, and parents how to watch for signs of it
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