I agree with Kim. Yes the problem needs to be addressed, but not take the child away unless there are other problems. I know a mother that was nursing for the first time. The baby was not gaining any weight and was very sickly looking. CPS did become involved but the answer was not to ripe the baby away from the mother. They brought a nurse out every Friday for a few months and the nursed worked with the mother on breastfeeding and nutrition. A couple of years later the baby is a healthy happy little girl. The young mom just needed some education. She was not purposefully trying to starve her baby yet she would have died without intervention.
Well of course not, because thats a more serious issue than just malnutrition...this is deliberate torture.We would have no problem labelling the withholding of food as abuse,
Actually i think this is a very controversial topic...i'm not too keen on abuse in this situation either. I think its terrible and wrong, but I think it can be a result of again, being clueless, uneducated or something else along those lines. Not to mention its extremely hard I think to find a line between a 'really bad diet" and "bad enough to be abuse".or providing a diet of nothing but high fat, high sugar and high calories that leads to obesity as abuse.
I'm not saying there shouldn't be any recourse to help children who are the victim of inept or clueless parents, i just don't see it the same as abuse of other sorts. I think there needs to be a difference somehow.
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But Bonita, ignorance is not a defence for neglect or abuse. Saying "But I didn't know any better!" doesn't make it okay that it happened.
I think of wild children who aren't discipliend well. Their parents are doing a disservice to their kids too.
Thats what this sounds like to me...that this mother did not know how to deal with those 'battles of wills' that are so common with kids and parents. I dont' think you can scare someone into knowing how to deal with that better.
I can kind of see Kim's point because there are a lot of obese children who are that way because their parents allow them to eat nothing but junk. Those parents are not (I don't think) visited by CPS or accused of abuse, even though really, they are doing the same thing....just with potentially a wider array of junk food than JUST chicken nuggets 24/7. So I guess it could be a gray area, but I do think some serious intervention is needed.
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Like i said, i think there should be a method for dealing with this type of thing...but i guess i don't like it categorized as being equal to other more typical forms of abuse.
We don't treat all death at the hands of others equally...i guess i feel like it should be the same way for abuse.
Last edited by KimPossible; 07-11-2013 at 05:26 PM.
Severely obese children frequently have CPS involved, up to and including the removal of the child from the home.