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    I agree with Gloria in that making an observation about someone's weight is an innocent observation. Being mean however, or refusing to play with someone solely based on their size, is a learned behavior.

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    I disagree. I've seen my young children lie, push and once bite. They did NOT learn that from observing me or their siblings. Many people believe in a sinful nature. Many people believe in animal instinct. As I demonstrated above even newborns have demonstrable preferences. To pin this all on parents is to ignore human nature.
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    Did I miss where they asked the children why they wouldn't consider the fat kid as a friend?



    For me it had nothing to do with weight but all about the smile. The face of the other 2 are identical; the one of the fat kid has a different nose, smile, and chin. Something about that just doesn't feel the same. If asked if he would be someone I would be friends with, I'm not sure what I would say. But a no answer has nothing to do with his size but his face. It just looks odd.

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    Oh wow...this makes me think of something that happened in our family. A few years ago, when Nathan was about 6, he came in from the bus in tears. I asked him why he was crying, and he said it was because Matt (8 at the time) yelled at him. Matt said the reason he yelled at him was because he told a boy on the bus that he was fat. Nathan said "well, he is!". Apparently, from what I heard from Matt, Nathan wasn't teasing the boy...just was pretty matter-of-fact. And this boy at the time was about 150-160 lbs at 9 years old. His parents don't let him play outside much at all, so I feel bad for the boy. But it was a good teaching moment - we talked about how everyone has different bodies, and it's what's inside that counts.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Potter75 View Post
    I disagree. I've seen my young children lie, push and once bite. They did NOT learn that from observing me or their siblings. Many people believe in a sinful nature. Many people believe in animal instinct. As I demonstrated above even newborns have demonstrable preferences. To pin this all on parents is to ignore human nature.
    I do not believe a child would think "Skinny Good, Fat Bad" unless someone taught them that behaviour. That is not to say that kids do not do anything instinctively, but I do not think that this is one of them. For example, in other cultures being big is considered beautiful and a good thing. I believe what we see as beautiful is shaped and learned from our culture.

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    Yes- I'm sure that if aids is the alternative fat is good. Not sure what the point of your link is. You may need to explain your thought more.

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    Well, I do think it's natural for people to gravitate towards like people, and we often resist what is different. Not that it's necessarily okay, but that "undoing" that to any degree is something that needs to be proactively taught. And culturally thinking, we do associate obesity with unhealthy-ness(and i think we should) and maybe that's all it takes to easily influence a child's opinion. Not necessarily deliberate mean behavior by adults.
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    My point is that beauty is a learned perceptive. In some cultures what is considered beautiful is being big. In other cultures what is considered beautiful is being thin. In my opinion, that would not be the case if you were born already believing that only being skinny is beautiful.
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    Quote Originally Posted by AlyssaEimers View Post
    My point is that beauty is a learned perceptive. In some cultures what is considered beautiful is being big. In other cultures what is considered beautiful is being thin. In my opinion, that would not be the case if you were born already believing that only being skinny is beautiful.
    I don't really think its about being beautiful at that age though, i think its more about being different.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KimPossible View Post
    Not necessarily deliberate mean behavior by adults.
    I do not think it is deliberate at all by most people. Not many people are going to teach their child "Fat people are bad" outright. That does not mean that it is not taught.

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