Two weeks ago, a 17 year old girl was killed in a traffic accident due to no seatbelt and suspected texting. Hours prior, she had been elected into the Homecoming Court at the local high school. A large portion of the high school has started a chain to elect her as Home Coming Queen. But many adults are protesting, mainly the adults of the other daughters that are also elected, saying she should be chosen as an honorary queen, if anything.
Do you think that she should be elected as queen? Thoughts on the adults protest?
My co-worker and I actually got a little heated about this. I think it's a fantastic thing that the students are all voting her as homecoming queen. She was highly popular, a straight-A student, involved in sports...and likely to get voted in. I really believe it's a great tribute to her, and one that the students are initiating.
I am actually taken aback by the parents that are making public outcry's (interviewing for the news even!). It doesn't really affect them...they should be proud that their daughters are also making tribute to the girl that was killed.
My co-worker thinks that it's silly to have someone that isn't able to accept the crown to be elected and that it's unfair to the other girls that were elected.
I agree with the co-worker. There is no guarantee she would have won and it's really unfair to the girls who will actually be able to enjoy the experience of homecoming queen. If the students vote her in, I can't imagine having the parents protesting, but I do think it's odd it was even suggested.
This is going to sound terrible, but I think it's kind of odd to do something like that especially since she was texting and not wearing her seatbelt. If she had killed someone else doing those irresponsible things, would they have still wanted her to be homecoming queen?
I disagree here, too. yes, she made a mistake and yes she may have had a hand in the accident that killed her. But death is not punishment or a sentence. There is no mistake that deserves death as a consequence. So the fact that she died because she was texting and not wearing a seatbelt makes no difference in the grief of the loss and the rightfor her memory to be honored in whatever way her family, friends, and classmates see fit. She obviously was a bright and talented and good person who made an impact at her school. That is what is being honored, not the way she died.This is going to sound terrible, but I think it's kind of odd to do something like that especially since she was texting and not wearing her seatbelt. If she had killed someone else doing those irresponsible things, would they have still wanted her to be homecoming queen?
And the last part - again, agree. Regardless of how the accident occured, it was still a very young loss of life. Why shouldn't she be remembered in a positive light?
I think it is a wonderful thing the students are doing. In fact the motivation and heart behind it is worth more than any damn crown.. the parents have their priorities messed up.
DH-Aug 30th 1997 Josiah - 6/3/02 Isaac 7/31/03
I would really be fine with it. It's a part of the grieving process for these kids - and maybe the young woman's parents too. I think it's kind and respectful during a time in life when so many things are confusing enough let alone losing a close friend.
I think they could also encorporate both view points though. It would be great to have the young lady who was killed be the honorary queen and have another young lady as the regular queen - co-queens if you will. Or something like that (because co-queens doesn't ring well in the ear). I just think there could be a compromise here for the students to have their way of grieving be respected while not losing site of all the living they still have left to do.
Christina + Rory = a grand total of:
Amelia, Anthony, Andon, Noah, Mason, & Trinity-woof
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZMm5JcaYgfU. Mark McGuinn wrote this song for the Remember Alex Brown Foundation. She was a 17 YO in TX who was killed in 2009 while texting and driving.
Now, to the debate question:
IME, high school students have a difficult time with death and want to honor their classmates as a way of dealing with the emotions they are feeling. I would let them have it. No protests, no "honorary" win. If they vote for her, she deserves it. Sometimes you just count your blessings and realize it might help her parents cope with such a tragedy.
Yep, I'm with Lana, Kris, ethanwinfield etc.
Also, homecoming queen is a stupid thing in general Though that is a total aside.