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    Maybe it's the different culture. Everyone I know that is married, purposely waited to do it until they had enough money for an extravagant occasion. That is our tradition.

    There are obviously people who don't want the fuss. However the main reasons for people having the ceremony only would be because of one - life threatening circumstances or two, they'd been married a number of times before.

    It's sad really but also reality here.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Minx_Kristi View Post
    Maybe it's the different culture. Everyone I know that is married, purposely waited to do it until they had enough money for an extravagant occasion. That is our tradition.

    There are obviously people who don't want the fuss. However the main reasons for people having the ceremony only would be because of one - life threatening circumstances or two, they'd been married a number of times before.

    It's sad really but also reality here.

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    I get that, lots of people wait and save up to have the wedding they want. But deciding not to get married because you can't afford a big splashy wedding seems to me like marriage isn't the important thing. Maybe it is cultural, I don' t know. It just seems very strange to me to opt out of marriage to the person you love because of the money needed for a celebration.

    I confess I don't understand this part of your post.

    However the main reasons for people having the ceremony only would be because of one - life threatening circumstances or two, they'd been married a number of times before.
    I'm sorry -- can you explain?
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    I think Kristi means: the only reasons people in her area might have a marriage ceremony only, and not a big flashy wedding celebration, are if one of them has a life-threatening condition (and thus want to make it legal quickly) or if one of them had already been married a number of times (with the implication that they've BTDT on the big flashy wedding part.)
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    I do not really think it is anyone else's business why someone wants to get married. If someone wants to get married because they want a big flashy party or they want to wait until they can afford a big splashy party then that is up to them.
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    Quote Originally Posted by AlyssaEimers View Post
    I do not really think it is anyone else's business why someone wants to get married. If someone wants to get married because they want a big flashy party or they want to wait until they can afford a big splashy party then that is up to them.
    Of course it is. All I'm saying is that if the cost of a party is stopping you from EVER getting married, then maybe getting married isn't really that important to you. Then again, I am not part of a culture that requires such a thing.
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    Quote Originally Posted by AlyssaEimers View Post
    I do not really think it is anyone else's business why someone wants to get married. If someone wants to get married because they want a big flashy party or they want to wait until they can afford a big splashy party then that is up to them.
    Agreed, but I still don't think the overall decline of "traditional marriage" is due to people not being able to afford a wedding. That's probably only a thin sliver of the pie.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Spacers View Post
    Agreed, but I still don't think the overall decline of "traditional marriage" is due to people not being able to afford a wedding. That's probably only a thin sliver of the pie.
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    I have never really heard of anyone waiting to get married because they can afford the big party
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    Quote Originally Posted by mom3girls View Post
    I have never really heard of anyone waiting to get married because they can afford the big party
    You have never heard of a couple waiting until they are in a better financial situation to get married?

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    Quote Originally Posted by mom3girls View Post
    I have never really heard of anyone waiting to get married because they can afford the big party
    Here, people don't get married until at least 2 years after they have got engaged. Mainly because they're still saving for it.

    It's funny how different cultures are. I always thought that Americans got married way too young and too quickly - this is clearly how our cultures differ.

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