From what I've read they are "moving" about the three million sad faces over the course of their 30's on when they get when they tell people they don't have kids. The whispers of "oh are they infertile?". The way that they have to explain or justify their choice. The constant "So how many kids do you have" assumption at cocktail parties. The strange obsession with over breeding a la dugger or kate gosselyn and TV fame. The strange obsession with faux parenting a la kardashians (Kim is the BEST Mom! Kanye is an AMAZING dad scream headlines on day three of North Wests life........and don't even get me started on the inanity of the celeb names....when one steps back and looks at it all objectively ~ and at how HUGE segments of American's are lapping it all up, glued to every celeb bump and name and royal baby.........its totally ridiculous and almost nauseating) ........ And as Lisa even mentioned......she immediately had assumptions or stereotypes leap to her mind about someone who chose to be childless. We can pretend that they don't exist (career obsessed, selfish, emotionally wounded, etc etc) but they do.
All of that crap, I bet.
I'm going to start a movement for people who don't know how to dress like grown-ups. Us jeans-and-sneaker-and-striped-t-shirt-wearing people need a movement! I'm tired of watching people compliment other people on their fashion choices while they ignore me!!!!!!!!
OMG, how did you know waht i was wearing today!?!? Can i join your movement.
Originally Posted by freddieflounder101
To be fair i had flip flops on, not sneakers. And i had a hoodie on over my striped t-shirt because its chilly out. Can i still join?
Okay, I agree that they probably get crap sometimes, and that gets annoying I'm sure. I absolutely agree that people can get all up in your business about stuff that shouldn't be any of their concern like your reproductive choices. Between when I had T and when I had Reid, I had a lot of people who didn't know me well asking "So when are you going to have another one?" with a big smile on their faces while I was dealing with losses and health problems and not knowing if I even could have another one. So I sympathize with the sentiment that we should all stay off each other's backs about things that aren't any of our business. I blame old ladies. :D Old ladies looooove to ask prying questions about your major life decisions "when are you getting married? when are you having kids? when are you having another kid?..." Stay off my back Old Ladies! LOL
Originally Posted by Potter75
But, really, is the occasional overly personal question that we all kind of get worth a whole movement?
Also, I have to say that when you choose a lifestyle that is outside of societal norms, you kind of have to just chin up and accept that you're most likely still going to encounter that norm as part of your day to day life. I say this as an atheist who hears people talking about religion and god all of the time. If got all pissy every time someone mentioned their church or said Happy Easter or whatever, I'd be pretty miserable. Having kids is the norm for most people, so people talk about it. It's not done to intentionally ice out the childfree (most of the time) any more than people who casually mention going to church when they talk about their weekend plans are intentionally trying to exclude me.
Haha, having typed all of that, I realized that atheism IS a movement, so...errr....well....someone has to stand up for the separation of state and church, dagnabit!!!! OUR movement is important....or something.
It's late in the afternoon and I haven't been sleeping well lately. It's tough being a moo. :D