I agree with you but when I went to homecoming I decided the day before to even go so a lot of dresses were on sale. I found a pretty dress at Macy*s for $10 if you can believe it! :)
My prom dress was almost $400, though, lol.
Oh and I don't feel like prom sends a bad message. It's a fun time for people to get dressed up and feel fabulous. Nothing wrong with feeling fabulous, boy or girl!
Melissa actually has a lot of friends outside of "super wealthy" people so I think that comment was uncalled for.
I definitely understand that a lot of people can't afford 100+ dresses. I do agree that there is a way to still fit your budget and not look tacky. Each area of the country also has a general sense of what they feel is in style. Short dresses vs. long. Sparkly vs. non sparkly. Bright colors vs. pastels etc. I would not feel comfortable sending a teenager (if I had one right now) in one of those dresses. I would seek out second hand stores that can have very expensive dresses from 1 season before that are cheap.
Around here, we also have lots of programs where truly in need people get to pick a free prom dress from donations. Dresses are GORGEOUS!
You know... I think there are huge differences between not liking a dress for its qualities and thinking no one can have fun unless they like the same dress you do.
So many assumptions going on.
My daughter just went to her junior prom on the 4th. She wore one of my dresses from 2007. It cost me $60
Her shoes were $30
Hair & nails $50
Corsage (gift from Grandpa)
I moved near the end of my junior year from a poor area to an affluent area. You would not believe the difference! Prom at my poor HS was $15/$20 couple for tickets. At the new HS $130/couple. I couldn't afford to go to the senior prom. There's just no way I could justify the cost as a senior or as a parent now.
My mom made my prom dress. The pattern itself wasn't that much but the fabric and all the other supplies can really add up. (funny thing-another girl at prom had the exact same dress!)
I wouldn't be against the idea of buying a dress on ebay, it's just that dress sizes are so different. I would have to try it on first. If I got one slightly too big my mom could alter it, but if it's too small, there is nothing I could do.
There's just something about pampering yourself and dressing elegant for a day. It can be done on a beer budget or champagne.
There's a group called Dresses for Jake's Dates that I follow on FB. Their son Jake died due to SIDS. His mom had been mulling around the idea of starting a dress donation group before he passed away. One of her friends suggested she start it up as a way to honor him. It's so wonderful to see pictures of the girls looking beautiful in the dress and accessories they get to pick out.