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I have seen teenage girls with the attitude that has been demonstrated here on this board with the "I would not be caught dead in that" when girls are wearing clothes that are of lower quality. They dont even have to hear it, they know others are acting that way
Molly, Morgan, Mia and Carson
I wouldn't look down on someone who bought a 25 dollar dress that I don't like for their daughter as long as their daughter liked the dress too.
I'll admit, given the prices of dresses in general these days though, I might not understand why someone who could afford it wouldn't spring for a slightly more expensive dress if their daughter really loved it. 25 dollars just seems like a hardball limit.
Talking about not being able to afford something more expensive is different.
Thank you. I had been out of town this weekend and didn't even get online, so when I went to log in it was a surprise to not have an account (though I had lost my mind!). Luckily, I realized my mistake this time and was fortunate enough to be able to grab the same username.
Okay, I went to prom (or FORMAL, as we called it way back when up in my neck of the Canadian woods) in 1989 and 1990 and you couldn't by jack $hit for a dress for 25 bucks. My mom, the most amazing seamstress, made my prom dress from taffeta (yes, it was the late 80s) with a lace underlay and crinoline and all that stuff and it still must've cost $100 with the fabric, lace, notions, etc. Limo? Forget it! Nobody showed up in a limo, nobody had professional makeup. Yes, most of us went to have our hair done and maybe attend a pre-prom get together at a friend's house with our dates, etc. There might've even been a hotel room involved, but even with inflation there is no way we even came close to spending an amout comparable to what is being spent today. That amount of money is ridiculous. Seems to me to be a big competition not just between the students but the parents too. Whatever parents shell out for the biggest limo, the nicest hotel room, the most expensive dress, etc. win some kind of stupid award (and are probably the kind of moms who would post pics of their engagement rings on fb) for over-spending on one night in their kid's overindulged life.
eta - That said, if some families can afford the big ticket evening and they share the fun by allowing their kid to have a party for their friends, or pay for the limo for all of them then I think that's okay. If they really can't afford it but are doing it to look wealthy in the eyes of their kid's friends and their parents...well, that't just vain, egotistical and desperate, IMO.
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Gloria, I have to say that if I was a parent of one of those girls in the pictures, or one of the girls themselves, I would be not impressed that someone posted my or my kid's picture on a public forum without consent. Or, should I presume you got their permission?
Yes, I was taken aback by Rivergalleries comment. $25 is ~ well ~ it is a bit of a randomly small amount for a family to contribute, IMO. I would be more understanding of a family saying ~ Prom is not in our budget, you will have to get a job/babysit/provide for your own dress/things etc......or whatever. Many families do that. I understand that and support it. My family did that for many things in my life.
Its like saying:
"we plan to help our children with orthodontics, we will pay $68 and if they feel that they need fancier braces the rest is on them".
"We plan to help our children buy a car, we have budgeted $129 and if they want something fancier they can pay for it".
"If the kid needs something fancier than that $3 updo thats on them, that is what we have budgeted for them".
My point wasn't that you can't find a $25 dress. My point was that it seems a really low and arbitrary number for an entire evening (especially given RG's kids ages, we are talking about $25 like 10 years from now, don't forget). That wouldn't buy a corsage, I bet, in 10 years.
I find it very unfair and immature of you and Bonita to be taking my words about finding a dress ugly and twisting them into "Oh, Melissa looks down on girls who wear ugly dresses!". That is illogical debating and you know it. I also find miniature poodles ugly. I don't look down on miniature poodles OR their owners, nor am I mean to miniature poodles or their owners. I don't kick, abuse, or otherwise make miniature poodles feel shamed or less than. I simply find them ugly and their beastly little feet give me the creeps. That is the same way terrible synthetic fabrics make me feel. You can continue down this path of trying to paint me some overgrown prom snob if you want, but I wasn't the one in the $500 gown. I never took a limo. I never did any of that. Not me. Didn't care. Still don't. Simply made a truthful opinion about the quality/style of one $17 dress, another about how the links provided by Gloria were not fashionable/would not fly at our areas proms (and yes, like you, I would not want to send my daughter looking inappropriate/out of date), and how AS A PARENT I PERSONALLY would work to squirrel away some money or help my child by providing her with some more of a real world amount than $25 to get her started on her prom fund IF it was an important thing to her. Hey, maybe she would be cool like me and others on the board and would have a great perspective and prom wouldn't be a big deal to her where she had to be some princess for the night and waste a bunch of money on herself! That would be awesome!
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And I agree with Kim on the assumptions. Its OKAY to not all like the same dress. Its even OKAY to admit it. The only mean girling going on here is happening from those who then twist an honest comment into something it isn't, frankly.
Yeah, no kidding. Who on EARTH argued differently, Bonita? I don't think so either, and I'm 100% positive that not a single woman on this board does either.That said, I do not think someone should be looked down on because their dress only cost $25 or because it was used.
Lisa you say this:
And yes, I still maintain that there is NOT a way to fund a prom within that budget. A ticket is a requirement. If you have a daughter and her date is buying the ticket you still need to buy a dress and a boutineer. If there is any sort of after party she simply NEEDS a few bucks on hands, pure safety. Shoes. Dress. Maybe you can borrow everything and make the flowers. Maybe. But yeah, in general in a normal world it is nearly impossible to entirely "fund" a prom within a $25 budget. If you have a son it is impossible ~ ticket and tux blow that out of the water immediately. Corsage. I don't know why you call my simple pointing out of facts an "attitude". It isn't. I'm just putting real world numbers out there.This all started with Rivergallery saying what she would be willing to spend within her family budget, and people saying that there was not a way to fund a prom within that budget.