I straight up don't believe anyone who says they want government to stay out of marriage but is legally married themselves. That is too much cognitive dissonance for me to wrap my head around, so I just assume they are either not being honest with me or not being honest with themselves.
But see, legal marriage is completely voluntary. There is no law that says you have to get legally married, and presumably your church would be fine with it if you got married in the church but didn't mail in the marriage license. Therefore, if you got legally married, it's because you wanted to (unless you were held at gunpoint.) You can't claim to want government out of marriage if you voluntarily invited the government into yours. I'm just not buying it. That would be like if you went around telling everyone "I'm against vaccines. Of course, I get vaccinations for myself and my family. I mean, we don't want to get any horrible diseases! But other people should develop their immune systems the good old fashioned way! Totally against vaccines." It just doesn't work. You can't be "against" something only when it comes to other people. If you're really against it, you won't do it yourself first and foremost.
ETA - What about living in a State that you do not agree with all of their political views. For example, Living in Texas but not being in support of many of the things Texas stands for?
I do not really care if you think I am lying or not, but I truly believe the best situation would be for the Government to be out of marriage completely. I am also legally married. I am just not willing to stand alone and take a stand against marriage. It just is not that important to me for all of the hassle that would be involved. That does not mean I am lying when I say ideally, marriage would be private and not Government.
Are there really no causes that you think ideally should be different, but you just do not care enough to fight for them to be different?
I thought the tax deduction for buying a house was a waste of government money. But I sure took it off on my taxes when I bought a house. There is no law that says I had to take the deduction.
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I never consider a difference of opinion in politics, in religion, in philosopy, as a cause for withdrawing from a friend. --Thomas Jefferson
(Not speaking from personal experience)
Gloria - if you are arguing that the government shouldn't be offering this tax deduction for everyone else, but you're willing to take it for yourself.....you see the problem there don't you?