I know this is where this debate leads but without government do you abolish marriage? Who grants it? What does it mean? And don't say religious groups because that leaves out all the atheists who want to be married.
I get that you're already married and that when you got married you weren't thinking about those things.
But now you have it, and you recognize the benefits, and it is bizarre to me that the solution isn't to offer this to gay people but to take it away from the rest of us. It reminds me of the Kurt Vonnegut Jr. short story in which everyone who wasn't disabled was weighed down with weights or given some terrible deformity or something to equalize everybody. Same idea.
In our current world, there are three options:
1. Only get a government marriage (i.e. get a marriage license but not get married in a church.)
2. Only get a church marriage (i.e. get married in the church and not file a marriage license.)
3. Get a church marriage and a government marriage (i.e. get married in a church and file a marriage license.)
Your perfect world already exists, in that anyone who wants to can already opt for option 2. But you fully admit that if you had it to do over, you would still opt for option 3. So what are you saying, just that in your most perfect of worlds, you would take the choice away from the rest of us? Even though people already have the ability to choose option 2, and you yourself prefer option 3, you would still change it for the rest of us? It just does not make sense to me.
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Are all of you boycotting marriage because it is not offered to everyone? In your ideal world marriage would be different. So are you not going to get married because marriage is not perfect just the way it is?
I was only partially lost up till this point, but now I'm totally lost. I give up. I can't follow this thread anymore. No offence to anyone, but my brain is hurting.
What good? You would be MARRIED! Before god and man! Bound for life to the person you love - isn't THaT the point?
Im so confused. That's why I got married. Why did you get married?
P.S. If you take your husbands name a marriage certificate is required unless you go get a legal name change which is a much bigger hassle.
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