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Is there ever a time and a place? Or are they simply inappropriate no matter what.

While talking about them in general is fine with me...i'm more interested in talking about it in the context of post college adults. Only because we know that college kids do this frequently and often over indulge in alcohol on an extremely regular basis.

Like how about us, or other people our age(wide range, i know)? Or does age not matter. How about parents of children? Or does parental status not matter?

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For parents and non-parents I think it's fine as long as you don't have anything to do the next day that people need you to not be hungover for.

We haven't played any since having our child, but I don't judge anyone who does as long as they have a responsible caretaker for their children when they are drinking and the next day.

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I don't find them interesting or fun, so I would not partake in them as an adult. I think adults can drink alcohol because hopefully they are able to monitor thier drinking and not overindulge to where it becomes a problme. But if I am correct, drinking games are about over indulgence and getting people to drink to the point of drinkeness right? Well I hope they are not doing that in the company of children. Other then that I don;t relly care what other people do.

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Anytime anyone of legal drinking age is drinking, as long as they act responsibly, it matters not to me how they do it.

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Where I used to live drinking to excess and drinking games were an every weekend occurance for most of the people I worked with. I played a drinking game one weekend and it didn't hold much appeal, but then again the whole go out and get off your head drunk every weekend didn't appeal to me either, and I was one of the youngest. I say to each their own so long as they are hurting anyone.

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I'm not a fan. I prefer to drink alcohol on my own terms though.

But my DH will play beer pong with his buddies occasionally and I have no issue with it. It's just not my preference as to how to spend my time.

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"Emilys4Guppies" wrote:

I'm not a fan. I prefer to drink alcohol on my own terms though.

But my DH will play beer pong with his buddies occasionally and I have no issue with it. It's just not my preference as to how to spend my time.

I agree with this, although my husband doesn't play drinking games either...if he did it would be fine. I never liked drinking games, though, not at any time. Drink, don't drink, whatever, but I was always turned off by the games. It always felt kind of desperate to me.

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I didn't really know that these existed beyond college age or so. I would find it very strange to see my peers playing a drinking game.

I also don't think that people who drink alcohol need to hire caregivers for the night AND the next day to take care of their children. Most adults I know partake of alcohol socially (and responsibly) on a several time/week basis.

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I have too many 'fond' memories of drinking games from my early 20's. I'm all drinking game'd out.

I don't care what other parents (or people this age) do with their alcohol as long as no one gets hurt.

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No drinking games in my social circle...even the single friends aren't really doing that sort of thing. Pretty much everyone is holding down a job (luckily), whether it's a 9-5er or one wrangling little people. Getting smashed and then getting up early to function at work or to listen to a whining toddler just doesn't seem all that appealing. Like previously mentioned, it's mostly responsible social drinking.

If you are post college age and find that a little beer pong brings you happiness, more power to you, I guess. Parental status doesn't matter to me, so much as whether their is offspring involvement...that's the line that would make it seem inappropriate, IMO.

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Pretty much past the age of drinking games - not because of my age really, but because I just don't find them fun anymore. Don't care what others do so much, but I generally think it's a good idea if you have kids to have at least one parent who is capable of driving if you don't have a sitter.

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"Potter75" wrote:

I didn't really know that these existed beyond college age or so. I would find it very strange to see my peers playing a drinking game.

I also don't think that people who drink alcohol need to hire caregivers for the night AND the next day to take care of their children. Most adults I know partake of alcohol socially (and responsibly) on a several time/week basis.

This.

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I played my very first game of beer pong a couple weekends ago, it was fun...but not so fun that I would want to do it every weekend. I don't find it strange that adults would want to have fun while playing a game, it's not really my thing to do all the time but to each her own. As long as they are respondsible, I could careless what they do in their free time. What I do on the weekend does not impact my job and if it did, then there would be a reason for concern.

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I can't imagine playing a drinking game at this point in my life. I dunno, that just so seems like something you do in college and your early twenties and then move on.

Having said that, I don't really care how someone else does their drinking as long their responsibilities are taken care of. What I mean is, for example, if they have kids, they shouldn't be drinking to excess unless they have made other arrangements for their kids (like they are spending the night at grandma's.) Responsible social drinking while your kids are there is fine IMO, but if you are going to get totally smashed (isn't that like the point of a drinking game? Or at least a very likely potential outcome) then I think that's inappropriate to do in front of your kids, and I also think that your kids should have a responsible adult around to take care of them particularly when they are young (as mine is). So, get smashed if you will, but send kiddo to grandma's house if that's the plan.

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Laurie...I agree, it does have a desperate feel to it. LOL.

FWIW, the last time my DH played was when the kids and I were away...he played with his buddies when they come over for Poker & Beer Pong. Oy.

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In my group of friends/family, its still pretty common to play drinking games when we get together for adult time. Not every get together, more when the time feels right. It seems to be when a lot of the 'younger' (20's and 30's) relatives gather together. For example this weekend my MIL is hosting a bridal shower for Seamus' cousin and fiance..so a lot of the cousins will be in town. There is a planned after party at our house (next door) and pong is on the event list.

As a group, we enjoy drinking socially. Most of the time its simply having a couple of beers or cocktails over dinner. But once in a while we get into more of that less sophisticated party mode i guess.

I've noticed that the games of choice have changed though. They are typically competitive games that are kind of fun to play even if you aren't actually drinking, such as pong or flip cup. More of a team rivalry 'us against you' feel. Sometimes participants don't even drink alcohol. I remember a lot of the games in college were very focused on drinking as much as possible, or making others drink.

Most of us enjoy a good buzz once in a while...and competition...and so the environment usually produces an enjoyable outcome.

What spurred on my question was i went to Target yesterday with the three older kids and purchased ping pong balls, solo cups and baby wipes and admittedly felt a little foolish and immature. I'm pretty certain the young cashier knew the purposes of my purchase (sans baby wipes) It just made me wonder if thats actually frowned upon much. An adult mother planning a night of beer pong.

Even though we play...we are still responsible drinkers. Well, assuming people feel that getting an alcohol buzz is not being irresponsible.

I'm surprised I'm the only one so far who has responded who still does this on occasion? Well, except for Emily's husband....I"d challenge him if he weren't so far away Smile

ETA: I know i've turned it personal....so i won't get angry if anyone debates my specific scenario.

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"Emilys4Guppies" wrote:

Laurie...I agree, it does have a desperate feel to it. LOL.

FWIW, the last time my DH played was when the kids and I were away...he played with his buddies when they come over for Poker & Beer Pong. Oy.

The desperate thing is interesting. Desperate for what actually?

Maybe desperate to still feel young? I could see that Smile

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Kim, I can see someone my age or older still wanting to play a game like flip cup or beer pong that is more focused on competition than the actual drinking. I honestly see those more as "party games" more than "drinking games" if that makes sense because I think you can still play them and have fun even if you aren't drinking.

The games I was thinking of was more the type that you mentioned you remembered from college, where the whole point is to drink as much as possible and/or make others drink as much as possible. Those always seemed more about drinking for drinking's sake rather than an actual competition..

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Yeah, I'm not understanding what is "desperate" about it either...

As an aside, a few years back, at my good friend's 30th bday party, a game of flip cup got started and I got suckered into playing. It was SO fun. I had never played, even in college (wasn't much of a partier). No one got "smashed", it was just a fun thing to do with the 30+ guests who were there. On the rare occassion that I do drink, I stop when I start to feel that buzz. I always have. I don't enjoy the feeling of being uncontrollably drunk. The first and last time that happened was my 21st birthday, and the 2 day hangover that followed ensured that was the last time for me! Wink

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"daniellevmt" wrote:

Yeah, I'm not understanding what is "desperate" about it either...

As an aside, a few years back, at my good friend's 30th bday party, a game of flip cup got started and I got suckered into playing. It was SO fun. I had never played, even in college (wasn't much of a partier). No one got "smashed", it was just a fun thing to do with the 30+ guests who were there. On the rare occassion that I do drink, I stop when I start to feel that buzz. I always have. I don't enjoy the feeling of being uncontrollably drunk. The first and last time that happened was my 21st birthday, and the 2 day hangover that followed ensured that was the last time for me! Wink

Flip cup is tremendously fun. I like it better than Pong.

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It just seems like when I was a college student and everyone was h*ll bent on getting drunk. Desperate to be drunk so a game is made as an excuse to do so?

But I would totally play beer pong with you, Kim! It sounds like fun! I think that my views of alcohol come from never even having it in cough syrup, it was so taboo in our house. It's hard for me to figure on a happy 'normal'.

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Ok, now I'm curious. I've never heard of these games, pong and flip cup. Anyone willing to explain? The drinking games that I've known are for the sole intent of drinking and drinking to get drunk. That, to me sounds desperate in the need to get drunk as fast as you can. What you're describing, Kim, sounds no different than if you're playing board games or other physical games while you're drinking the beverage of your choice, which we definitely do within our circle.

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Kim, do you play pong with paddles/wooden blocks or just throw the ball???

I think that I would play pong sometime, if it ever was an option Smile I'm a fascist about the style though ~ I don't like the throwing version. Prefer hitting it like we did in college.

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"Emilys4Guppies" wrote:

It just seems like when I was a college student and everyone was h*ll bent on getting drunk. Desperate to be drunk so a game is made as an excuse to do so?

Yep, I think so. That and sort of desperate to have a good time because sitting with friends and drinking and laughing isn't enough.

Just the feeling I got when I was in college and saw people doing it.

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"Beertje" wrote:

Ok, now I'm curious. I've never heard of these games, pong and flip cup. Anyone willing to explain? The drinking games that I've known are for the sole intent of drinking and drinking to get drunk. That, to me sounds desperate in the need to get drunk as fast as you can. What you're describing, Kim, sounds no different than if you're playing board games or other physical games while you're drinking the beverage of your choice, which we definitely do within our circle.

Me too. Because I don't drink I don't know what any of these games are.

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"KimPossible" wrote:

I'm surprised I'm the only one so far who has responded who still does this on occasion? Well, except for Emily's husband....I"d challenge him if he weren't so far away Smile

I don't really have any friends nearby where I live and can't go out of town to visit friends either because I have to pick my husband up from work each night. I also don't have a babysitter for DS which tends to limit oppurtunities for any drinking whatsoever, but if these factors weren't in play one day for whatever reason and my friends and I did catch up it is possible we would have some silly drinking game played for a hens night or something. I think it's more having the right feel and mood for a drinking game as you get older and more for the fun, whereas when you are younger it's all about how much you can drink quickly.

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In general, drinking games are so stupid. Why not just grab your drink and drink and talk amongst each other without having to wait for your turn, throw a dirty ball into the cup, let the beer get flat and warm, etc etc etc. So so dumb.

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"mommytoMR.FACE" wrote:

In general, drinking games are so stupid. Why not just grab your drink and drink and talk amongst each other without having to wait for your turn, throw a dirty ball into the cup, let the beer get flat and warm, etc etc etc. So so dumb.

You haven't played with the right people, darling! Good times!

Again, not something I'd make a habit out of, but with a big bunch of friends, playing a competitve game like flip cup can be a blast!

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I was a huge binge drinker in college and a master at drinking games. Now, getting sloppy drunk on purpose isn't something that would bring me a lot of joy. I DO enjoy playing games while drinking (ie Trivial Pursuit, Euchre, etc). I just don't enjoy games that come with a caveat (if you miss the question/lose the round, you must drink).
At the same time, if that is what you enjoy and you have provided care for your children, then I wouldn't judge. To each her own!

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"Beertje" wrote:

Ok, now I'm curious. I've never heard of these games, pong and flip cup. Anyone willing to explain? The drinking games that I've known are for the sole intent of drinking and drinking to get drunk. That, to me sounds desperate in the need to get drunk as fast as you can. What you're describing, Kim, sounds no different than if you're playing board games or other physical games while you're drinking the beverage of your choice, which we definitely do within our circle.

Its sort of in between. If you play strictly by the rules, you will end up drinking over the course of the night, certainly enough to get drunk if you don't stop. But there is also a competitive aspect of both games too, which can be fun even if you choose not to drink.

Simple gist of each game:
Pong: Two teams on either side of a long table (usually ply wood or a door) each team lines up solo cups in the shape of a pyramid(flat pyramid, on the table, not stacked up) at each end of the table. Pour a little beer into each cup, not a lot. Taking turns, the goal is to throw ping pong balls into your opponents cups. Each time you get one in the cup, your opponent should drink the beer in the cup..and then remove it from the table. First team to clear the opponents cups wins. There are lots of other rules that go along with it, but thats the basics. It is a germaphobes nightmare.

Flip cup is for larger groups:
Split into two teams, line up each team on one side of a table. Each team member gets a cup and places it in front of them. Pour beer in each cup, we usually only put a couple of gulps i each cup. The two team members at the end of the table start. The goal is to drink the beer in your cup, place it on the edge of the table and use your finger to flip it upside down. It should land on the table with the mouth side down. If it doesn't, reset and try again until you succeed. Once you succeed, the next person in line does the same. The first team to have all their team member finish wins.

You will find variations of both games from group to group. Slightly different rules, etc.

While neither may sounds particularly interesting on paper, they are a lot of fun to play...especially if you are competitive in nature.

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"Potter75" wrote:

Kim, do you play pong with paddles/wooden blocks or just throw the ball???

I think that I would play pong sometime, if it ever was an option Smile I'm a fascist about the style though ~ I don't like the throwing version. Prefer hitting it like we did in college.

Never used a paddle for pong. I don't know if i could do that! If I come down your way, i'll use a paddle. If you come up here, you'll have to throw Wink

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"mommytoMR.FACE" wrote:

In general, drinking games are so stupid. Why not just grab your drink and drink and talk amongst each other without having to wait for your turn, throw a dirty ball into the cup, let the beer get flat and warm, etc etc etc. So so dumb.

Beer doesn't get flat and warm. At least not when we play. We play because the game is fun...and if we are going to drink socially anyway why would it matter if we do it playing a game or just chatting?

Maybe you just don't like the game. Maybe if it was a game you enjoyed you might think differently.

We sit around and talk all the time....often over alcohol so we certainly enjoy that too. We do this far more often than we do play pong or flip cup. Its just an alternative for when we are feeling a little more rowdy and there are more people than usual around.

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We still play drinking games. We have a select group of friends that we occasionally partake in this stuff with and we usually are the hosts. We don't do flip cup because we don't get that many people but we do beer pong and a few others. It happens roughly every other month so not frequently. With the exception of one time in the last year, it didn't result in sloppy drunkeness by anyone in the game. Tipsy yes, but nothing crazy. We play for the fun of the games and the social drinking but not to get wasted. We have a couple of friends in this group who don't drink and they are always welcome to play with Mt Dew or water. While it's true that they have an advantage by not drinking alcohol, it is more about having fun so no one minds.

Almost all of our get togethers are more typical. We have wine tastings and beer tastings at times. We have had margarita nights, cocktail parties and BBQs with frozen daquiris and beers. No one is an alcoholic, these events happen twice a month or so, sometimes 3. I think that everyone in our circle has a healthy relationship with alcohol. I haven't seen someone throw up or black out since college. Everyone is responsible over designated drivers. Nothing gets broken, no one is too loud, we just have fun.

We often host because we are one of the few with children. The kids are home. I admit I rarely have more than a couple of drinks myself because I'm mindful of them. On the off chance that I do partake more than usual, there are always people who haven't had any alcohol that I trust with my children. I am also lucky that I have NEVER had a hangover. I don't know why, even back in college when I would get rather drunk sometimes I never felt it the next morning so the day after stuff doesn't concern me.

I have never heard of playing beer pong with a paddle. Interesting, might have to try it sometime.

"mommytoMR.FACE" wrote:

In general, drinking games are so stupid. Why not just grab your drink and drink and talk amongst each other without having to wait for your turn, throw a dirty ball into the cup, let the beer get flat and warm, etc etc etc. So so dumb.

It is a fun social activity that includes competition. It isn't just about the drinking.

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"Andy1784" wrote:

We still play drinking games. We have a select group of friends that we occasionally partake in this stuff with and we usually are the hosts. We don't do flip cup because we don't get that many people but we do beer pong and a few others. It happens roughly every other month so not frequently. With the exception of one time in the last year, it didn't result in sloppy drunkeness by anyone in the game. Tipsy yes, but nothing crazy. We play for the fun of the games and the social drinking but not to get wasted. We have a couple of friends in this group who don't drink and they are always welcome to play with Mt Dew or water. While it's true that they have an advantage by not drinking alcohol, it is more about having fun so no one minds.

Almost all of our get togethers are more typical. We have wine tastings and beer tastings at times. We have had margarita nights, cocktail parties and BBQs with frozen daquiris and beers. No one is an alcoholic, these events happen twice a month or so, sometimes 3. I think that everyone in our circle has a healthy relationship with alcohol. I haven't seen someone throw up or black out since college. Everyone is responsible over designated drivers. Nothing gets broken, no one is too loud, we just have fun.

We often host because we are one of the few with children. The kids are home. I admit I rarely have more than a couple of drinks myself because I'm mindful of them. On the off chance that I do partake more than usual, there are always people who haven't had any alcohol that I trust with my children. I am also lucky that I have NEVER had a hangover. I don't know why, even back in college when I would get rather drunk sometimes I never felt it the next morning so the day after stuff doesn't concern me.

I have never heard of playing beer pong with a paddle. Interesting, might have to try it sometime.

It is a fun social activity that includes competition. It isn't just about the drinking.

I wanna come to one of your parties! FUN!!

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Kim, it sounds like games that I would be open to playing as well. Thanks for explaining them!

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I think they're OK in the privacy of someone's home, as long as someone is responsible, sober, and making sure no one drives home drunk.