Fun harmless holiday tradition......or the ultimate in lying to your children, creating fear (the whole little elf watching you all day thing), and behavior manipulation?
We actually don't do Santa or the Tooth Fairy. I don't like lying.
I'm not opposed to behavior manipulation. Isn't that what we all try to do? Manipulate them into kind, well behaved, little people.
I don't do the whole Santa thing is evil though. Falls into my "each to their own" category.
Oh, I did read a blog once about some kids reaction to the Elf on the Shelf. Funniest thing I ever read.
oops. Double post.
Last edited by kris_w; 11-30-2011 at 09:17 PM.
I've never heard of Elf on the Shelf before. We obviously don't do it. We do have Santa, though. If a child is misbehaving, I have said in the past with my older kids that I'll call Santa (or the Easter Bunny) to discuss them being naughty. My sister and I devised a "Parent Handbook" where only parents can see the phone numbers and addresses to fictional characters as needed. I just may make a new one.
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I ahve never heard of such a thing. It sounds weird to me. Not the lying thing (I am all for lying to children to help my parenting go smoothly) but the idea that some little statue is watching you. Freaky. And I still have an issue with Santa just because it's not something I am used to so I let Dh take over that one.
This just seems a little too far. Atelast you don't see Santa or the Tooth Fairy. But having a statue on your shelf all the time that is supposed to watch your every move just take sit to whole other level that is creepy. If your child needs a constant warning figure to remind them to behave then maybe one should think about thier parenting skills.
I think it's a great tradition, I wanted to get one this year but didn't think a two year old would even begin to understand the actual concept. The story behind the elf that you read to your children is cute. I'll get it one day!
I really don't think it's any worse then saying, "Santa's watching" or "You better be good so Santa will bring you presents" which I hear parents say all.of.the.time.
So... I'm going to go with a fun, harmless holiday tradition.
We don't do Santa/Tooth Fairy/etc... well, we do in the "my kids know the truth and that it's just for fun/make believe" sense but I really don't see the difference between having an elf "watching" or Santa "watching".
We've never told our kids that Santa is watching them, or that they'd better be good or they won't get any presents. For us, Santa brings presents to all kids. So the elf on a shelf thing wouldn't really work for us. I certainly don't think it is evil though. Everyone has their own holiday traditions to make the season a little more magical.
I'm just saying, kids can be freaked out by things we adults don;t even think twice about. We don't do the tooth under the pillow thing at my house because my 7 yo got freaked out by the idea of something coming into his room at night. So we put the tooth under a pillow outside, lol. However, he didn't tell us it bothered him until one day he reused to hand over his tooth. Or like when I was in elementary I remeber vividly a teacher putting a broken camera in the bathroom and telling us she could see who was throwing spit wads on the cieling. Most kids thought it was stupid but I refused to pee all day long until my mother figured out what was going on. To this day I still have issues with public bathrooms.
To one kid it might not be an issue,but to another it might be creepy. I'm just saying I can see the creep factor in it and the idea of a little statue watching me just weirds me out.
LOVE it. I didn't want to do Santa, but dh (and his family) insisted so I told them in for a penny in for a pound. It's so much fun. Jason did get upset that Ichabod got dirty by making snow angels in corn flour yesterday, but when he woke up this morning and he was snuggling with Jason's puppy in a "towel" watching Jason's brand new movie, he was happy again. Tonight Ichabod will decorate his Christmas tree with his underwear and socks. Tomorrow night he'll bring the stuff to make homemade cookies for Jason's teachers next week. It's soooo much fun.
You could do the Elf thing without the watching part of the story.