I held DS over the toilet from a young age and if he went he went. I saw when they started toilet training at daycare lots of the kids were scared of the toilet, so I worked on getting rid of that fear early. I live in a warm climate so during the early toilet training stages he did run around bottomless, and I had a spray bottle of disinfectant and paper towel handy at all times.
I also disagree with the notion that lots of 4 year olds in America are running around in diapers. My daughter was in underwear full time before 2 and my sons both by 2.5- I don't even know anyone whose kids were in diapers past 3 I don't believe.
My oldest is still trying to do it consistently but that's related to her communication issues.
My youngest is 3 and is training half heartedly and I know a lot of people in the same boat.
Mom to Elizabeth (6) and Corinne (4)
I'm just still wrapping my head around wanting bowls full of pee and/or poo around your home. Yes, diapers exist for the parents, and they're a wonderful invention. They exist for the parents who don't want a bowl of pee in the living room.
I remember a friend of mine kept their potty in the living room when they were toilet training their oldest. I didn't say anything as it was none of my business, but I couldn't imagine why you'd want to train your child to pee in the living room. That has zero appeal for me.
I just don't really understand it, though. For me, part of toilet training was teaching them that you poo and pee in the bathroom.
Although I am totally okay with whatever people do in their own home, there's a reason why public urination is illegal- it is dirty and spreads disease. Parents should not have a plan to get their kids to pee between two other people's cars.
My first goal of potty training was getting them comfortable sitting on their potty. They were most comfortable in the living room because that is where we spent time together as a family. Maybe my kids were just slow to catch on, but those first few days weren't extremely productive and I spent a lot of time pretending that the potty was this really neat thing that "big girls do".
To each their own.