Father picking up his child from school

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Father picking up his child from school

Father Arrested For Attempting To Pick Up His Kids From School!! [Watch] | Universal Free Press

Should the father been allowed to pick up his child? Did he deserve to be arrested?

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They can't pick them up on foot? That's insane. I would be going Bat* Crazy!

My child can walk alone but I can't hold her hand? Talk about huge liability if a child is ever injured!

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I suspect there is a lot more to this story, but all the articles I could find on it are essentially the same. At one point someone says to him that all kids walking home go out the bus door, so I suspect that he would have had no problem if he had just waited outside the school for his kids and taken them home. I also suspect that the rule is to try and prevent parents from coming into the school, and the release form is to allow the school to let the kids go outside into an unsupervised area for foot pick up.

He did not get arrested for trying to pick up his kids, he got arrested for going into the school and causing a scene, whether his voice was raised or not. Now, I agree with him that it seems like the rules need to change, but this was not the way to go about making those changes. But what an awesome way to embarrass your children in front of all their friends!

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From reading some of the comments I picked up that the Father didn't walk to the school to pick them up, he drove to the school and parked in the parking lot and walked in. Our school is the same way, they don't want people to do that, they make everyone wait in the line. That being said, I still think it is a stupid rule. It would still alleviate some of the traffic if they allowed parents to park in the parking lot and walk to pick them up instead of waiting in line. At our school they still let you pick up the child if you park and walk up, but they complain about it when it happens and tell you not to do it, so if you did it frequently I'm not sure what they would do. At a previous school I just put my kids down as walkers and just parked down the block and waited for them there.

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DH witnessed a similar situation a few years ago. He works in a school. The school was having a tornado warning and had all of the children huddled together in the hallway. It was not long after we had really bad tornadoes and the area is still scared. The parent wanted his child released to him. The school said no, he would have to wait until the danger was over.

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"ftmom" wrote:

He did not get arrested for trying to pick up his kids, he got arrested for going into the school and causing a scene, whether his voice was raised or not. Now, I agree with him that it seems like the rules need to change, but this was not the way to go about making those changes. But what an awesome way to embarrass your children in front of all their friends!

ITA with this. It sounds like the school is trying to make things safer for the kids by keeping the people who pick up their kids on one side of the school and kids walking home going out the other side. That sounds like a pretty good idea to me in theory, but if it's not working, then the rules need to be changed in the right manner. You don't just show up on the wrong side, demand your kids, and cause a scene that gets you arrested.

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We are not at that stage/age but I have heard my local school is the same way.

If I came up to get my kids and someone told me I couldn't have them, just those words alone would make me bat crazy. I understand rules, but I don't remember riots of kids and parents whenI was little and we certainly didn't have all these rules back then.

Honest question, what has changed SO much that the schools feel a need for this?

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"elleon17" wrote:

Honest question, what has changed SO much that the schools feel a need for this?

People don't watch where they are driving. They drive too fast. They talk on cell phones & text while sitting at lights or in lines. They drive big cars with huge blind spots. They think getting where they need to be is more important than anyone's else's need to be somewhere else. They don't go anywhere without a cup of coffee in hand, which only leaves one hand for driving. In my city, the rate of pedestrian accidents within a block of schools skyrocketed in the past decade. Nothing changed, and in fact many intersections are actually safer because they now have stop signs, better crosswalks, etc. It's that people just aren't paying attention to their driving the way they used to.

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Parents at Robbie's school can go in and wait for their kids, it is too cold not to and there is a no-idling zone in front of the school. Now once you are in the school you are expected to wait on the carpeted areas for your kids. They also ask that you take your boots off and carry them when walking through the school which I think is a reasonable request. Also, the only unlocked (from outside) door is the front one by the office so the school secretary sees everyone entering. The kids are to exit the school at the closest door to their classroom. There are only a couple of kids bused.

eta: and since our house backs on the the school's fields we only walk to drop off or pick up.

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"Spacers" wrote:

People don't watch where they are driving. They drive too fast. They talk on cell phones & text while sitting at lights or in lines. They drive big cars with huge blind spots. They think getting where they need to be is more important than anyone's else's need to be somewhere else. They don't go anywhere without a cup of coffee in hand, which only leaves one hand for driving. In my city, the rate of pedestrian accidents within a block of schools skyrocketed in the past decade. Nothing changed, and in fact many intersections are actually safer because they now have stop signs, better crosswalks, etc. It's that people just aren't paying attention to their driving the way they used to.

I dont think this is all of it. I think it also has to do with parents being worried about strangers having access to the school during times where they could potentially start shooting or take a kid that doesnt belong to them. Our school has REALLY strict pick up and drop off procedures that stem from a PTO that was very worried about those 2 things.

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"mom3girls" wrote:

I dont think this is all of it. I think it also has to do with parents being worried about strangers having access to the school during times where they could potentially start shooting or take a kid that doesnt belong to them. Our school has REALLY strict pick up and drop off procedures that stem from a PTO that was very worried about those 2 things.

Stranger abduction is incredibly rare and so are school shootings. Kids getting hit by cars within a block of their school, on the other hand, is an extremely common problem, and it's been getting to be a worse & worse problem all over the country for the reasons I stated. And *that* is the main reason why so many schools are setting up procedures to keep kids who walk separated from parking lots and drive-by-pick-up areas. This man wasn't protesting not being allowed to pick up his kids, he was protesting not being allowed to pick them up *where* he wanted to pick them up.

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At my daughter's school it's simply the layout of the school/roads.

The normal speed limit along the road is 45 mph. Way too high any time of day. The front side of the school dead ends with dirt fields in 2 directions. So there is really only one road that all parents have to use to pick up their children. The school changed its end time this year by 30 minutes and there are about 20% more parents because they are now off of work in time to go to the school to pick up their child.