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    Do you think it was appropriate for this father to be arrested and punished for making his 8 year old son walk a mile home?

    KILAUEA, HI ? A father was arrested when he gave his son the ?old school? punishment of walking one-mile home from school to think about what he had done.

    Robert De Mond, 36, said that when he picked up his 8-year-old son from school, he refused to tell say what had earned him a punishment from teachers. The Star Adviser reported what happened next:

    ?I asked him, ?Why were you in time-out at A-Plus??? De Mond said. ?He told me, ?I don?t know.? I asked him again and he said, ?I don?t know.??

    He told his son: ?I don?t know is not an answer. You need to take responsibility for your actions. There has to be a reason that you were placed in time-out.?

    A mile from their house, he dropped his son off and asked him to ?please walk home. When you walk home, you will have an answer better than ?I don?t know.? And when you do come home you?ll have an answer,? he said.

    De Mond said the stretch of the two-lane roadway ? Kuhio Highway ? is in a safe, rural area with acre-size agricultural lots, and a wide shoulder, 10 to 25 feet wide, where it?s not uncommon to see people walking or riding their bikes.

    In many people?s lives, walking to get places isn?t a punishment, it is a daily reality; the norm; how one gets places. However in Police State USA, a parent who allows their son to walk somewhere is arrested.

    When a neighbor picked up the boy and called police, Mr. De Mond was arrested at his son?s school. He was charged with second-degree endangerment of the welfare of a minor. Mr. De Mond pleaded no contest.

    The judge, Kathleen Watanabe, ruled that the punishment was ?old-fashioned? and inappropriate. Walking was considered a punishment too severe to inflict on a child. Parents who discipline their children with walks risk criminal charges.

    ?These are different times,? Judge Kathleen Watanabe scolded, according to the Garden Island. ?It is understandable that you became upset with your son, but it is dangerous for children to walk along the highway, and there are predators out there.?

    Mr. De Mond was ordered to take parenting classes, pay the government $200. He is on probation for a year. If he is caught walking his son anywhere he risks jail time.

    ?It?s been pretty hard on the kids,? De Mond commented, adding that the family just wanted to put this behind them.
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    Argh no i don't think he should be arrested. I don't agree with his choice in punishment, but i don't think he should be arrested for it. People need to butt out.

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    I dont understand why that was considered a bad punishment? 1 mile is not long at all, and I am a big fan of giving kids and opportunity to think about their actions.
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    No I do not think the parent should be punished in any way for this punishment and I do think the judge should loose her job as she obviously should not be a judge.

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    I'm with the judge in this one. If you wouldn't leave an 8-year-old alone at home, which is against the law in many states but more importantly against common sense to most of us, then how is it different to make him (NOT "allow" him as the article says) walk alone down the side of the road? And a child who *is* old enough to be walking alone should be taught how to do it safely before being turned loose on the streets, and I doubt this dad did any safety prep talk beforehand. There are a lot of things that were OK when we were all kids that aren't OK any more. This dad was stupid, and he's lucky the kid didn't get hurt, and he's lucky that the person who stopped was a friend & not a pervert.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Spacers View Post
    I'm with the judge in this one.
    Was there not just a debate where many felt that students should be required to walk to school? How can it possibly be both ways?

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    In Texas if the school is within 2 miles the students are not allowed to ride the bus and have to either walk to school or the parents have to drive them. When I was a kid we walked home from school almost every day unless it was winter and it was a mile. Why are those things that were ok when we were kids not ok now? There are not any more abductions than happened then we just hear about them more.
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    Quote Originally Posted by AlyssaEimers View Post
    Was there not just a debate where many felt that students should be required to walk to school? How can it possibly be both ways?
    That debate was about children who were walking on safe routes, not along the edge of a highway, and who were accompanied by an adult. This boy wasn't even walking with a group of other children, which I would be OK with. He was left alone on the side of a road, and that, to me and to the judge, is not an acceptable thing to do to an unwilling 8-year-old.
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    If he had been with his son either in the car or walking with him, I would not have a problem with the punishment.
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    Here is one picture of the highway:

    Panoramio - Photo of Kuhio Highway (56) - 200804

    Here's another link to the road:
    Hawaii Highways - Road Photos - Kuhio Highway


    Totally inappropriate punishment to me. He's 8 years old, on a highway that looks super busy in some parts and mostly deserted in others.


    Bonita, the last discussion was walking with a group of children and at least 1 adult. This had NONE of that.
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