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    Default Fluff - Single People Using the Family Changing Rooms/Bathrooms

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    The background:

    At my gym, we have 3 locker rooms: one for women, one for men, and one for families. The family locker room has an open room with lockers that anyone can see into, and then 4 individual little rooms with locking doors where families can go to change their clothes together. Each little room has a toilet, sink, shower, and small bench for changing.

    There are posted rules about who can use the women and men's changing rooms. Namely, the signs say that no boys over the age of 3 are allowed in the women's room, and no girls over the age of 3 are allowed in the men's room.

    As you might imagine, the family locker room is quite the popular destination around the time that swim lessons begin and end each day. It's great for anyone who has a "mixed sex" family that needs to get changed for swim lessons. By that I mean, moms with sons, or dads with daughters, or anyone who has sons and daughters.

    The scenario: Last night after swim lessons, there was a very long line to get into the 4 family changing rooms. While I was waiting, I could hear the showers and then the hair dryers going in several of them. While standing in line, I noted that at least two of them had been occupied by single women (I mean, they didn't have their families in there with them, they were by themselves) who had apparently showered and dried their hair while families waited in line with dripping wet children. Presumably, since they didn't have anyone else with them, these women chose to go in the family changing rooms for the privacy that they afford, rather than showering and changing in the women's changing room. FTR, the showers in the women's changing room aren't like huge communal showers or anything, they are individual stalls with curtains, so still somewhat private.

    The debate: There are no signs posted saying that single people can't use the family changing rooms, and certainly among families, they are first come first served. Do you think it's rude for single people to use the family changing areas, given that many families have no choice but to wait for one of the 4 changing rooms to open up (example: I can't go in the men's room, T is a bit too young IMO to send in by himself, and he's not allowed in the women's room) or do you think that single people have the same "first come, first served" rights as the rest of us? I'm not necessarily talking about "the rules", like should the gym ban singles from the family changing rooms, more just etiquette. Is it polite, or does polite even matter in that scenario?

    I was totally annoyed with those women, but I admit that could just be because I had to wait forever and I was tired and hungry and hormonal. LOL
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    Totally rude! I would probably say something directly to them and the management.

    I have to ask. . . is there any other reason that they could be there? Like the rest of their family was still using the gym/pool and their stuff was in a locker in there? I can see myself getting out of the pool, going back to the changing room I had started in with my family and finishing up there. I don't think I'd grab my stuff and head next door if that was the case, KWIM?

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    Makes me think of a friend who's son uses a wheelchair. She once told me that she wants to hug any parent who teaches their kid (obviously not talking about mom's w/kids in strollers or other people who legitimately have a reason) to not use the big red handicapped button to open doors. They do serve a very real purpose for her and they do break down.

    My kids completely understood that from 2.5 yrs and 4 yrs of age. It's there for a reason and we respect it.

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    It's rude. There is only one thing that makes sense why a single person is using one of those rooms verses the open changing room, She is a not complete tranny. Think about it: If you had the face and tits of a woman but the lower portion of a man would you use an open womens changing room? No, you wouldn't.
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    My only question: is it possible that they were initially in there with families, got the kids ready, and sent them out?
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    Quote Originally Posted by freddieflounder101 View Post
    My only question: is it possible that they were initially in there with families, got the kids ready, and sent them out?
    bunnyfufu and Laurie, I admit I don't know the whole story for either one of the women I saw, I only saw them leave, I did not see them when they went in. So, it's possible they had kids with them that they then sent ahead. I guess my only thought on that is, if your (opposite sex) kids are old enough to send ahead, are you still changing with them? (Presumably if these women came in with daughters, they could use the women's changing room.)
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    Quote Originally Posted by Alissa_Sal View Post
    bunnyfufu and Laurie, I admit I don't know the whole story for either one of the women I saw, I only saw them leave, I did not see them when they went in. So, it's possible they had kids with them that they then sent ahead. I guess my only thought on that is, if your (opposite sex) kids are old enough to send ahead, are you still changing with them? (Presumably if these women came in with daughters, they could use the women's changing room.)
    Nope.

    My sons are 10 and 15, i don't change with them but i would never give them permission to leave the area outside that dressing room.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alissa_Sal View Post
    bunnyfufu and Laurie, I admit I don't know the whole story for either one of the women I saw, I only saw them leave, I did not see them when they went in. So, it's possible they had kids with them that they then sent ahead. I guess my only thought on that is, if your (opposite sex) kids are old enough to send ahead, are you still changing with them? (Presumably if these women came in with daughters, they could use the women's changing room.)
    I hear ya.

    When my family goes to the Hot Springs, I will often get out first and leave him and the kids in the pool, go change and then go back to collect the kids and change them. They are never alone, meaning without one of us. Make sense?

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    So horrible, one of my big pet peeves! We have the same situation here, and I take my boys swimming.. Their lips used to turn blue while at swimming lessons, and some idiot would be in there! I took my two boys into the womens we walked where they were not changing, showered in the separate stalls, then went to a separate closed off area in the womens to change.. we got dirty looks but I didn't care at that point.. my boys were 7 and 8 I think.. If some idiot is going to take the family room I am not waiting more than 10 minutes with freezing kids! And I still even at 10years old to send them into the mens.
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    Yeah, I tend to think they were being selfish, but it's possible. Maybe the dad showed up & the kids were sent to him, or to a friend? I just think there might be a bigger story there. But maybe not!
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