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Fluff: Towel use

In your own home, assuming you have at least two adults who share a bathroom...

1. Do you use the same towel to dry off after a shower/bath more than once?

2. Do you assume you will be the only one to use this towel, or is it ok for your husband/SO/partner to also use the towel after a shower/bath?

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I would not mind sharing a towel with DH. We share lots of germs.

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I'll use the same towel more than once after a shower... but I won't share a towel with anybody else and I won't reuse *my* towel if someone else has taken it and used it. No real reason like germ-phobia or anything... just... because I guess LOL

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DH and I each have our own towels... Not because I'm worried about his germs, but because he showers before I do and I don't want a damp towel. We use them multiple times between washes.

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We each have our own. If I have to wash my hair, I try to shower after dh and sneak the use of his (damp) towel for my hair. They get hung up and reused. I was told once by someone asking about saving money tips that this was gross, but you are wiping water off of your clean body, so we will just save those pennies for something else. I also reuse my gym towels.

eta-dh gets completely grossed out if I accidentally use his toothbrush. He instigated a new house rule when we moved here and my toothbrush is on one side of the sink and his is on the other because I didn't pay close enough attention before.

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Yes, we hang up damp towels to dry so we can use them again. I wouldn't mind if DH or one of the kids used my towel, but I wouldn't share a towel with anybody else.

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eta-dh gets completely grossed out if I accidentally use his toothbrush. He instigated a new house rule when we moved here and my toothbrush is on one side of the sink and his is on the other because I didn't pay close enough attention before.

Ok, I have to agree with your DH on this one. Using somebody's toothbrush is akin to using somebody's used toilet paper to me. It is unfathomably disgusting. You're scraping tartar/plaque off of your dirty teeth with that implement. How on earth somebody else could put that in their mouth is beyond me. I don't share other people's used dental floss either. Yack!

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1. Do you use the same towel to dry off after a shower/bath more than once? Yes

2. Do you assume you will be the only one to use this towel, or is it ok for your husband/SO/partner to also use the towel after a shower/bath? No.

Either DH or I shower with our kids in our bathroom 90% of the time, it is just easiest and fastest, so I have no idea who used the towel before me, could have been DH, could have been the baby. Doesn't matter to me, as long as it is dry. I wash them all every three days.

I also use DH's deodorant, it just works better before a really long run. Oh, and sorry Bobbie, but I also use his toothbrush in a pinch (like a weekend at the beach and I forgot mine and don't feel like biking to the store to get a new one when I have a perfectly good one at home).......we have three kids together, clearly we have traded a lot more than teeth cooties Smile

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I honestly have to say I find it kind of fascinating... my DH called me OCD this morning for even KNOWING that he used my towel, instead of his own. Honestly, I don't understand why it's so hard to remember that you hung your towel on that rack, and I hung mine on this rack, so use the one you used before! I also don't understand at all, how someone could accidentally use someone else's toothbrush, unless you have exactly the same toothbrush (which of course is possible).

I don't know what it is about the towels... it's not like I really care about DH's germs- but I would just rather use my own towel, several times, and then get a new one. But DH acts as if remembering which towel is his is a near IMPOSSIBLE feat, even though we have all different towels (so they don't all look alike).

I blame his mother who would pick up his wet towel off the floor from where ever he left it after his shower (bedroom floor, bathroom floor, whatever) and always made sure he had a stack of dry towels ready to go.

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We all ahveour own towels and we try not to use each others. Not because of the germ thing (because I assume the person is clean when using the towel) but because of the wet towel thing. And yes, towels are reused.

The toothbrush thing is grossing me out though. The idea of someone using someone elses toothbrush makes me very queasy. We have a sonicare for DH and I and the kids have one, too. So there is no reason to share bristle heads. I would rather brush my teeth with my finger and use mouthwash if I was in a real pinch then use someone else's brush.

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I'm curious, do you guys kiss your husbands? Like, with tongue and all?

How is it different? I don't see how sticking your tongue in there is different than sticking your toothbrush in there? Not that I'm trying to talk you out of your feelings, I get skeeved by certain things too, this just isn't one so I'm trying to decide exactly what portion of it makes it gross to you. Smile

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I just want to add that if knowing which towel is mine makes me OCD, then I can own that.

Melissa, I can't really answer your question (I'm not sure I'm as grossed out by the use of DH's toothbrush, as just, I can't imagine being unaware enough to use his by accident. I think it's possible I've used it on purpose once before...but it's also highly likely I would have just used my finger instead...I'm no help.), but I know my step-dad is even more weird about this. He won't share a cup even with my mom. He says it's just different. He says, for the same reason he wouldn't want my mom just spitting into his hand, he also doesn't want to share a cup- because the act of kissing requires what it requires... but at other times, it's just not necessary. That what he says anyway.

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Ick, I can't stand the idea of sharing toothbrushes. I guess the difference for me is that toothbrushes are scrapey things that specifically are made to scrub crud off teeth so there's more ick than when I kiss my hubby, 'cause my tongue isn't particularly scrubby. I think I agree with Mara's step-dad's explanation, too.

Towels get washed every few days and we all have our own towels. I also really dislike sharing cups and other germy things. Yes, I know it's a little OCD and I'm totally okay with that. We'll share towels if we have to, but I can't even remember the last time that happened.

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We all ahveour own towels and we try not to use each others. Not because of the germ thing (because I assume the person is clean when using the towel) but because of the wet towel thing. And yes, towels are reused.

The toothbrush thing is grossing me out though. The idea of someone using someone elses toothbrush makes me very queasy. We have a sonicare for DH and I and the kids have one, too. So there is no reason to share bristle heads. I would rather brush my teeth with my finger and use mouthwash if I was in a real pinch then use someone else's brush.

All this. Also I am fussy about towels and no one else in my household cares, so no one touches mine! And yeah, I don't want a damp towel. The towels get washed once a week usually, the kids' towels twice, and I am the only one who uses the same set all the time (hair towel & body towel). I'm rather fussy about the shower in general...it's the only time in the whole day that's just for me and I like things to be perfect in that one area I can control.

Toothbrush sharing is disgusting. Ew. I kiss my husband but I don't scrape plaque off his teeth and eat it.

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Do you think of using your own toothbrush as eating your own plaque?

Because that makes me feel skeevy. Don't you guys rinse yours well?

I remember this debate about peeing in the shower. That one fascinated me. I remember people who check their own cervix or feel their own CM or who put raw egg whites inside them to TTC who were DISGUSTED that people pee down the drain in the shower. Love these debates, they fascinate me! Smile

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We all have separate hooks for our towels, but it's not a huge deal if they get swapped (usually just between the kids in the melee of a boisterous bath time) as long as they are dry. We wash them at least once a week and DH is usually showering on the way to the gym and not using his towel much anyway. As for sharing a toothbrush...it's not really my preference, but we have done it in a pinch. It's rinsed off between uses and I doubt many more germs (plaque, etc) enter your mouth that way than just from some involved kissing. I still feel it's a little too much sharing, but not a huge deal in a rare situation.

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I'd actually rather use my DH's than keep my toothbrush in the same room as the toilet. Because the studies on that are horrific. Flying poop particles are on the brush.

I'd so rather eat some plaque than some flying sh!th. Smile

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I'd actually rather use my DH's than keep my toothbrush in the same room as the toilet. Because the studies on that are horrific. Flying poop particles are on the brush.

I'd so rather eat some plaque than some flying sh!th. Smile

I am also more skeeved by people who don't wash their hands...like visibly dirty/snotty hands of children being used to eat food. *shudder* (And I am not an over-washer or hand sanitizer user by any means).

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We all start out with our own towel but then they get mixed up sometimes. Doesn't really bother me.

Sometimes the kids will use my bath towel as their hand towel and that bothers me a little bit more,but not enough for me to go chasing after them about it.

As for toothbrush sharing? I've done it by mistake a couple of time,...just grabbed the wrong one. And i think i've done it on purpose maybe once or twice in a pinch. Overall it doesn't appeal to me really. But i know its all psychological so i make myself overcome that if i need to for some reason or another.

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The accident aspect- In our last bathroom, they went in the medicine cabinet to protect them as much as possible from above mentioned flying poop so I'd just grab one. I'm short and the shelf was much higher than my viewpoint and didn't care enough if the first grab wasn't successful and I like green toothbrushes so a few times when dh grabbed "mine" and opened it first, then I'd grab his without thinking about the fact that he grabbed a purple or pink one for me (I stockpile them and he is usually the one to switch them out). Dh gets skeeved out by sharing cups and toothbrushes but kisses Jason on the lips which initially skeeved me out. I've adjusted but he has not.

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"Potter75" wrote:

I'd actually rather use my DH's than keep my toothbrush in the same room as the toilet. Because the studies on that are horrific. Flying poop particles are on the brush.

I'd so rather eat some plaque than some flying sh!th. Smile

Did you see that show "World's Dirtiest Man" on the Discovery Channel a while back? It was with Mike Rowe and he acted like a guinea pig for all those gross experiments, like e-coli flying out of the toilet when flushed and landing all over the counter, toothbrushes, towels, him, etc. Ew. After I saw that I make sure the seat's down before flushing.

We all have our own towels and use them several times before washing. I have used DH's towel on occasion, it doesn't gross me out. My teeth would have to be knitting a pretty impressive sweater before using his toothbrush though. I would if I had to, but definitely I'd be skeeved.

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"Potter75" wrote:

I'm curious, do you guys kiss your husbands? Like, with tongue and all?

How is it different? I don't see how sticking your tongue in there is different than sticking your toothbrush in there? Not that I'm trying to talk you out of your feelings, I get skeeved by certain things too, this just isn't one so I'm trying to decide exactly what portion of it makes it gross to you. Smile

To me, the difference is that when we're kissing, I'm not scraping the plaque off his teeth with my tongue. The toothbrush is a cleaning device, the same as toilet paper. We have sex, so our nether regions touch, but I would never use his soiled toilet paper and say "Oh well, we touch *things* all the time so this is ok too." Does that explain it better? The last time we had this debate I was so surprised by how many people would use someone else's toothbrush. So interesting!

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I'm not anal about towel swapping at all. I always shower in the morning, dh in the midday following his run.....so they are both "dry" when I go for one. I'm sure we swap them all of the time....I wash them weekly (half of my showers are at the gym.)

I only wash the kids' towels about every other week in the winter, maybe more like every 10 days or so-- mostly bc we only bathe them every other day or even every second day in the winter months....and we live in a very dry climate and they dry really quickly.

I've totally shared dh's toothbrush in a pinch. Not every day, but if we are traveling or on the road or something. Doesn't skeeve me out. Not my preference, but I'd totally take that over not brushing my own teeth. Not like we're swapping sh!t, but his mouth germies don't really bother me at all ( I suppose 15+ years together will do that?)

Peeing down the drain doesn't skeeve me out either. I don't do it, but it isn't *that* gross......

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How clean the toothbrush is matters. Mine is nice and clean... It looks new. DH's though? Gross. The little ridges on the handle get all cruddy. In between the bristles is covered in white-ish stuff. I thoroughly rinse mine and he barely passes it under the tap after brushing. Eww.

I'm not skeeved out by his mouth or plaque, it's all the ick that is growing on that thing!

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Very interesting responses. Towels go in the laundry every day, so I don't normally use the same towel as DH, but I would not mind as long as it was dry. DH would have a heart attack if I used his tooth brush. It is not even close to the same as kissing although I do think much of the love making process is gross (I obviously still do it). I do not think it is a big deal to pee in the shower as long as you are washing up afterwards.

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I don't like sharing towels, and typically I will only use one a couple times before I wash it. I don't like sharing towels because honestly, DH rubs his whole body (like everyone else) and I really don't want to wipe my face with the same towel that was just used to wipe some balls or his crack. No thanks!

For the toothbrush, we've shared before when neccessary. And I've grabbed his by accident. Unless one of us is sick, not a big deal overall but I would much rather use my own.

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"kris_w" wrote:

How clean the toothbrush is matters. Mine is nice and clean... It looks new. DH's though? Gross. The little ridges on the handle get all cruddy. In between the bristles is covered in white-ish stuff. I thoroughly rinse mine and he barely passes it under the tap after brushing. Eww.

I'm not skeeved out by his mouth or plaque, it's all the ick that is growing on that thing!

We have an Oral B rechargeable one and DH is freaking anal about cleaning that thing after use. It has to be rinsed for like 5 min under hot hot hot water, and every drop of water has to be wiped off before putting it back on the charger.

And washing towel? OMG, DH is forbidden to wash the towels because he uses so.much.fabric.softener! I think the towels he washed actually started repelling water there was so much buildup on them. Yuck.

DS had tonsillitis last xmas, really bad. I threw away his toothbrush and got him a new one like the dr. suggested, then I turn around and he's got DD's off the counter and is sucking on it. Yum. The kid is obsessed with brushing his teeth. Not necessarily bad; only when you're spreading your throat infection to big sis.

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"Potter75" wrote:

I'm curious, do you guys kiss your husbands? Like, with tongue and all?

How is it different? I don't see how sticking your tongue in there is different than sticking your toothbrush in there? Not that I'm trying to talk you out of your feelings, I get skeeved by certain things too, this just isn't one so I'm trying to decide exactly what portion of it makes it gross to you. Smile

Do I kiss my husband like with tongue? Absolutely. But not before he has brushed his teeth as I am sure he doesn;t want to kiss me in the morning before I have brushed mine.

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"Claire'sMommy" wrote:

We have an Oral B rechargeable one and DH is freaking anal about cleaning that thing after use. It has to be rinsed for like 5 min under hot hot hot water, and every drop of water has to be wiped off before putting it back on the charger.

And washing towel? OMG, DH is forbidden to wash the towels because he uses so.much.fabric.softener! I think the towels he washed actually started repelling water there was so much buildup on them. Yuck.

DS had tonsillitis last xmas, really bad. I threw away his toothbrush and got him a new one like the dr. suggested, then I turn around and he's got DD's off the counter and is sucking on it. Yum. The kid is obsessed with brushing his teeth. Not necessarily bad; only when you're spreading your throat infection to big sis.

You should buy him a sonic care witht eh UV cleaning compartment. Awesome!

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Do I kiss my husband like with tongue? Absolutely. But not before he has brushed his teeth as I am sure he doesn;t want to kiss me in the morning before I have brushed mine.

I just was trying not to use the term "make out" as it sounds so juvenile. Sorry for the valley girl, like.

Do you guys (not just you Lana, general question) also make the husbands shower before the sex?

I think I'm not easily skeeved, the more I read. I can't imagine not being willing to share my towel with the person I share my body, bed, and life with! That would be a completely bizarre boundary, to me.

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"Potter75" wrote:

I just was trying not to use the term "make out" as it sounds so juvenile. Sorry for the valley girl, like.

Do you guys (not just you Lana, general question) also make the husbands shower before the sex?

I think I'm not easily skeeved, the more I read. I can't imagine not being willing to share my towel with the person I share my body, bed, and life with! That would be a completely bizarre boundary, to me.

Nah. My DH smells pretty good most of the time, even at the end of the day. Depending on what's, um, involved, I might shower beforehand. I like to be really, really, really clean for certain 'activities', IYKWIM.

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Sharing towels doesn't bother us at all. We have two bath towels hanging near the tub. The one closest to the tub is mine, the farther one is DH's. The kids usually use mine, I'll dry off Tiven & then she goes to get dressed while I dry off Weston, or I'll dry off Weston & then wrap him up in DH's towel while I dry off Tiven. Damp towels get hung back on the rack to dry, and they get tossed in the laundry whenever I get around to doing it, usually on a weekend. If they haven't dried out overnight, or if they start smelling, I'll change them.

Rebecca brought up an interesting point about butt cracks vs. faces. I've never really thought it about like that, but I never dry our faces with the bath towels, those are strictly body towels. I use the hand towel by the sink to dry faces.

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The toothbrush is a cleaning device, the same as toilet paper. We have sex, so our nether regions touch, but I would never use his soiled toilet paper and say "Oh well, we touch *things* all the time so this is ok too." Does that explain it better? The last time we had this debate I was so surprised by how many people would use someone else's toothbrush. So interesting!

I missed this. Does your DH (or you) use your OWN toilet paper over and over like you do a toothbrush? Because that is the only way that this analogy makes sense.

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I love these debates!

Yes, we share towels. And we have used each others toothbrushes in a pinch. I also use his deodorant now and then (mostly when I miss him when he's on shift).

If someone is drying their clean body with the towel it shouldn't be a den of germs. So, as long as it's dry enough, I don't care which towel I go for. Generally we wash our towels after 3-4 showers.

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I have picked hubbys towel up and used it so nope doesn't bother me. I have also used his toothbrush in a pinch, often when travelling and you reaslise one of us forgot to pack theirs or one of our toothbrushes needs replacing and we thought there were more in the cupboard. I would prefer to share thsn not brush teeth.

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"Potter75" wrote:

I just was trying not to use the term "make out" as it sounds so juvenile. Sorry for the valley girl, like.

Do you guys (not just you Lana, general question) also make the husbands shower before the sex?

I think I'm not easily skeeved, the more I read. I can't imagine not being willing to share my towel with the person I share my body, bed, and life with! That would be a completely bizarre boundary, to me.

My towel-sharing issue is only about always having a clean dry towel to use. If I didn't stake mine out, I would never have one.

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On the butt crack vs. face thing I'm torn...cause sure it's an arse, but once it's clean the worst that happens is a bit of sweat really, until one must 'take the kids to the pool'. However, the face...it always has some sort of fluid ready to leap out onto something that's being rubbed all over it. Eye gunk, snot, spit, etc. So, really, to me a butt isn't worse than a face.

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On the butt crack vs. face thing I'm torn...cause sure it's an arse, but once it's clean the worst that happens is a bit of sweat really, until one must 'take the kids to the pool'. However, the face...it always has some sort of fluid ready to leap out onto something that's being rubbed all over it. Eye gunk, snot, spit, etc. So, really, to me a butt isn't worse than a face.

See, I think of a butt crack as being no cleaner than the butt hole itself. I just don't think a butt hole could ever truly be clean no matter how much someone washes it. Kind of like those teeny bugs that live on your skin all.the.time.

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DH and I have had a running argument for the last 10 or so years about how often a towel should be washed. I contend that towels can be used 3-4 times before washing, while he wants a new one every shower.

Right now he is winning because my washing machine wont drain properly, so needs a hot wash every couple of days to keep it from smelling funky.

When we are not using new towels all the time, we have been know to use each others, when they are dry. I hate a wet towel.

Sharing toothbrushes is yucky. I could see there might be circumstances where we would (like stranded on a deserted island), and I have no good reason why, but it is just yucky:)

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"JorgieGirl" wrote:

On the butt crack vs. face thing I'm torn...cause sure it's an arse, but once it's clean the worst that happens is a bit of sweat really, until one must 'take the kids to the pool'. However, the face...it always has some sort of fluid ready to leap out onto something that's being rubbed all over it. Eye gunk, snot, spit, etc. So, really, to me a butt isn't worse than a face.

In my world, eye gunk, snot, and spit are still in a completely different category from poop. And all of that should have been washed off in the shower anyway.

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I've voluntarily caught puke bare handed. After that a little clean a$s crack shower water potential off of the person whose body I adore is nada.

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I don't mind sharing towels unless I see weird stains or it's clearly dirty. I also pee in the shower, happily and comfortably.

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Can I just say I needed the light heartedness of this thread today Smile

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"Potter75" wrote:

I just was trying not to use the term "make out" as it sounds so juvenile. Sorry for the valley girl, like.

Do you guys (not just you Lana, general question) also make the husbands shower before the sex?

I think I'm not easily skeeved, the more I read. I can't imagine not being willing to share my towel with the person I share my body, bed, and life with! That would be a completely bizarre boundary, to me.

"freddieflounder101" wrote:

My towel-sharing issue is only about always having a clean dry towel to use. If I didn't stake mine out, I would never have one.

I honestly think that for me it's like for Laurie, more about just having my clean dry towel, there where I left it than it is about germs.
But, as I mentioned before, DH also has a tendency to take the towel out of the bathroom and leave it on the floor- he'll re-use it the next day from the floor... where it is damp and whatnot. And then there I am left towel-less if I don't notice that he's taken my towel. DH and I did best when we had separate bathrooms to be honest. Smile In our last apt the master bath was mine and the hall bath was his. I still cleaned his bathroom as part of my housewife duties, but I didn't have to deal with his general mess on a daily basis, and it was good.

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Right. In my house, I have a place where I hang my towels (body and hair) to dry after the shower, and because I give my daughter her shower, I keep hers in a clean dry place as well. My husband dumps his wherever, and picks one up wherever, and has been known to take a shower without bringing a towel to the bathroom and then grabbing a hand towel to use. My son is like my husband, except he'll call out when he needs a towel and we try to find him one.

SO....I want a clean dry towel always available to me no matter what anybody else's habits are, so I bought a nice stripy one that stands out from the rest and it's MINE. I have two hair towels (that belonged to my husband's first wife, hah!) and those are mine to use exclusively as well.

I wouldn't care about him drying himself with it, but I'd care about it not being where I left it or not being dry and clean.

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"Potter75" wrote:

I just was trying not to use the term "make out" as it sounds so juvenile. Sorry for the valley girl, like.

Do you guys (not just you Lana, general question) also make the husbands shower before the sex?

I think I'm not easily skeeved, the more I read. I can't imagine not being willing to share my towel with the person I share my body, bed, and life with! That would be a completely bizarre boundary, to me.

Hahaha Valley girl. I added that like in their on my own. I didn't even realize you wrote "like". Hahahaha. LMAO. Now I have an urge to watch Heathers.

And no unless he is particularly dirty from yard work or something (though I am the one who does most fo the yard work) I don't require a shower before sex. But I consider my mouth in the morning to be way dirtier then my body on a regular day. That yucky plaque feel and that white stuff that you get, all dry and build up. Blech. Which is why I brush my teeth. To clean it. So why would I want to share the thing I clean dirty food particles and plaque and gunk off my teeth with? I don't think that is a bizarre boundry. You may not feel as strongly as I do about this issue, but honestly I think you are making it out to be more then it is.

And I am not easily skeeved. I ahve stuck my hand up a horses arse and cut the ballz off a pig. I would change my husbands diapers if need be one day and I have cleaned his vomit and blood. I have used his spoon and kiss him on the mouth (with tongue) and after being togetehr with him since I was 15, I am sure much more.

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I wouldn't care about him drying himself with it, but I'd care about it not being where I left it or not being dry and clean.

Exactly. My husband (look Laurie, I wrote out husband for you, lol) showers more then any other human in the world and takes longer in the bathroom then any other human in the world. So if he usedmy towel I would never have a dry towel. Ever. And my kids have a horrible time forgetting to hang up their towels so they either try and fail and the towel ends up ont he floor or I find them on the floor of their room.

So the best way around that is for each person to have their own towel. When you ahve 4 people showering (and they all use the master bathroom because our shower is kick a$$. It fits 6 people in it huge, and has 3 shower heads--my favorite part of this house) there would never be a dry towel if we shared. And it is freezing hear so drying yourself with a damp cold towel sucks. Not to mention a damp towel that never dries gets musty quick and smells.

Why would it be a germ issue to share towels though? Aren't you drying a clean body? Now washclothes are a whole other thing. They are just gross period, lol.

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It also is a trick I learned from growing up in a large family! No way could you count on having a clean fresh towel without hoarding one.

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So why would I want to share the thing I clean dirty food particles and plaque and gunk off my teeth with? I don't think that is a bizarre boundry. You may not feel as strongly as I do about this issue, but honestly I think you are making it out to be more then it is.

I said not wanting or being willing to share a towel with ones own husband is a bizarre boundary, not a toothbrush. I maintain that. I get why one might say no to sharing a toothbrush, even if I don't really agree. Maybe we are just really clean with our toothbrushes or something.

THOUGH, I do think that those of you in this debate who used words like "eating plaque" or likened it to using feces encrusted toilet paper in reference to using ones spouses toothbrush in a pinch are really weird.......unless you use single use toothbrushes or unless you actually enjoy eating your own plaque. Using used toilet paper is not like using a spouses toothbrush, unless Bobbie routinely uses her own toilet paper over and over, like most people do with toothbrushes. And if using your husbands toothbrush is like eating his plaque, using your own toothbrush is eating your own plaque. Thats gross.

ETA, I also find it interesting that no one has fessed up to keeping their toothbrush in the same room as their sh!tter. That is statistically impossible. I don't believe that this group could possibly all have toilet rooms or keep their brushes in a different bathroom....

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Fecal bacteria is found on everything. Everything.

Also, I "fess up" to having my toothbrushes in the bathroom. We keep the lid down on the toilet (especially before it's flushed, but in general because I am not a fan of looking inside the toilet) and the toothbrushes are on the other side of the bathroom in one of those electric toothbrush head holders that have a lid on top...they are in the bathroom though! Smile But again, I was also one to say I would share a toothbrush on a rare occasion.

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"Potter75" wrote:

I said not wanting or being willing to share a towel with ones own husband is a bizarre boundary, not a toothbrush. I maintain that. I get why one might say no to sharing a toothbrush, even if I don't really agree. Maybe we are just really clean with our toothbrushes or something.

THOUGH, I do think that those of you in this debate who used words like "eating plaque" or likened it to using feces encrusted toilet paper in reference to using ones spouses toothbrush in a pinch are really weird.......unless you use single use toothbrushes or unless you actually enjoy eating your own plaque. Using used toilet paper is not like using a spouses toothbrush, unless Bobbie routinely uses her own toilet paper over and over, like most people do with toothbrushes. And if using your husbands toothbrush is like eating his plaque, using your own toothbrush is eating your own plaque. Thats gross.

ETA, I also find it interesting that no one has fessed up to keeping their toothbrush in the same room as their sh!tter. That is statistically impossible. I don't believe that this group could possibly all have toilet rooms or keep their brushes in a different bathroom....

To the bolded, Ah I misunderstood. I guess I can agree that if someone where completely against sharing a towel with their husband in the same way I am against using his toothbrush, I mgiht think it was weird.

And I do have a toilet room. However, when we lived in a house were we didn't we kept the toothbrushes in the medicine cabinet. But Iam not a germaphobe as far as freaking out about germs or dirt particles. You can't really control that. But I can control everyone having their own toothbrush. And I can control not puposely using someone else toothbrush. I just don;t see a reason for it. It;s not sanitary, has a bit of a gross factor IMO, and something I can control. So I do.

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We have a toilet room in the master and in our girls' jack n jill bathroom. My son's suite has the sink/shower/toilet in the same space....so we keep his toothbrush in a drawer. Smile

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