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    Maybe it's just because all four of us have summer birthdays, but it seems that pretty much every year, we are on vacation for at least one person's birthday. And every year, it seems that other people I mention this to, have a big problem with it. It's not that I plan it, it's just when you want to go camping at a particular place for 4 or 5 nights, your choices are often limited. We do always recognize the family member's birthday with a cake & a small gift, and for the kids the promise of more gifts when we return home. And, just like if we were celebrating at home, the birthday person gets to pick dinner, although the options when camping are more limited. Even so, every year I get flak from at least one person about how I'm not making the birthday special enough because it's coinciding with the specialness of being on vacation.

    If you were planning a vacation, and the best option coincided with a family member's birthday, would you book it without a second thought, or try to find another option to avoid celebrating a birthday while on vacation?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Spacers View Post
    Maybe it's just because all four of us have summer birthdays, but it seems that pretty much every year, we are on vacation for at least one person's birthday. And every year, it seems that other people I mention this to, have a big problem with it. It's not that I plan it, it's just when you want to go camping at a particular place for 4 or 5 nights, your choices are often limited. We do always recognize the family member's birthday with a cake & a small gift, and for the kids the promise of more gifts when we return home. And, just like if we were celebrating at home, the birthday person gets to pick dinner, although the options when camping are more limited. Even so, every year I get flak from at least one person about how I'm not making the birthday special enough because it's coinciding with the specialness of being on vacation.

    If you were planning a vacation, and the best option coincided with a family member's birthday, would you book it without a second thought, or try to find another option to avoid celebrating a birthday while on vacation?
    Every year DH's family has a family vacation. We rent a big beach house and divide the cost between the families. This is his parents and brothers and sisters. Two years ago the family vacation landed on our 10 year wedding anniversary. We decided to go away for a few days before our anniversary and still go on the vacation. A break down in communication, I assumed we would still go out to eat (unlimited babysitting), go for a walk on the beach, and still spend time the two of us. Needless to say that it did not work out that way. I still really struggle with the feelings of that day. Yes, I know it is just a day, but it was our 10 year wedding anniversary. From DH's point of view, he thought because we had gone away before hand and he was with his family that he does not get to see very often that it was better to spend the time with his family. It did not go over very well.

    On the other side of it, if it was one of my kids birthdays, I do not think they would mind if we did something fun like camping over their birthday. So all of that to say it depends on the situation. I would not mind (would enjoy) spending time with my family (Me, DH, and Kids), but if it was an extended family vacation then I am not sure what I would do.

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    We almost always go camping for my birthday, but that is where I want to be so I dont think of it as a negative thing. If the birthday person likes to be on vacation then I dont see an issue
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    I'd book it without a second thought. Doesn't concern me in the least.
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    We often celebrate birthdays on a day other than the actual day. Sometimes it just doesn't fall at a convenient time, that is just life. I see no problem with working around it.
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    We have been away for Juliet's birthday a few times, I think her 4th and her 5th. We just celebrated where we were. We were lucky; for the 4th we were with my Mom, and I'm so grateful. We have lovely memories of my Mom baking Juliet a cake and we got to be with her on the day and have a special dinner. The next year we were at my Dad's and that was fun too.

    I wouldn't give it a second thought, you can make birthdays special wherever you are. (And I LOVE birthdays...I like to make a big fuss and celebrate the person.)

    One year, my brother & his family started their road trip to NY on my niece's birthday. When they arrived we had made her treats, bought her presents, and decorated with balloons. She was SO sad about spending her birthday in the car but thrilled when she arrived.

    We were traveling once for my husband's birthday, years ago (before the kids), so I had my family all send birthday faxes to our hotel. He loved it.

    But I would want to spend my 10th anniversary alone with my husband, at least for dinner or something. And I would want it to be on that day.
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    Quote Originally Posted by GloriaInTX View Post
    We often celebrate birthdays on a day other than the actual day. Sometimes it just doesn't fall at a convenient time, that is just life. I see no problem with working around it.
    Oh, that is not so cool with me. Birthdays, like the actual birth DAY, might not be convenient but real life is sometimes inconvenient and birthdays are not always a perfectly-planned calendared event. Birthdays are important enough to warrant doing something on the actual day IMHO. We might have the big party with friends on Saturday afternoon, but we always celebrate the day together as a family on THE day no matter what.
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    Yeah, I'm really big on doing something special on the actual birthday, even if the main thing (like a birthday party for one of the kids) is on a different day. There is always something special ON that day.

    My mom was big on our birthdays and I have carried that tradition on....and I do something special for myself on my own birthday too!
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    We're almost always gone on either Thomas or Nathan's birthday. We still celebrate it just as we would at home, with a cake, presents, and maybe dinner out. One year we were in DC for Nathan's birthday....he was really hoping he'd get to have cake in the White House
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