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And how about being attracted to men in general? Gloria, are you equally attracted to women but you have just chosen to ignore that?

Since I'm pretty sure I know the answer to that one (although feel free to surprise me). . .do you think you could just switch and train yourself to be romantically and sexually attracted to women? And stop being attracted to men?

One day in the 1st grade I felt this instant attraction to a boy named Corrie. Wicked crush. I let him chase me around the playground. I hadn't been coached to like boys and had zero 'experience' with them before that. How is that explained? I was six years old. Furthermore, all this talk about choosing to be gay is nonsense. What person in their right mind would choose a life of social rejection, hatred, bigotry and family isolation? It is who.they.are.

Originally Posted by Jessica80

Well, I'm not flirting with him. Just took the package he had for me lol. Just kidding though. Although that is a good debate question as I don't think flirting is necessarily a harmful thing in a marriage either.

And I didn't learn to be attracted to different people it was just a part of me. I remember my first "crush" I was like 3 or 4 and it was my cousin's neighbor. I've consistently been attracted to similar looking guys my whole life. Tall guys, dark hair, dark eyes. Nobody told me that was the way to go. It wasn't experience as how much experience do you have as a preschooler or an elementary school kid.

That just proves my point. You associate dark hair, dark eyes with your cousins neighbor so that is what you find attractive. If the neighbor had been blonde who knows your life might have been different. It wasn't inborn in you to like men with dark hair.

Originally Posted by freddieflounder101

And how about being attracted to men in general? Gloria, are you equally attracted to women but you have just chosen to ignore that?

Since I'm pretty sure I know the answer to that one (although feel free to surprise me). . .do you think you could just switch and train yourself to be romantically and sexually attracted to women? And stop being attracted to men?

Yes I think we are all capable of changing our behavior. But that person has to really want to change, and I don't think that most gay people really want to change since they are happy the way they are.

Originally Posted by GloriaInTX

Yes I think we are all capable of changing our behavior. But that person has to really want to change, and I don't think that most gay people really want to change since they are happy the way they are.

Most gay people are happy the way they are?

This is news to me.

It takes YEARS for many gay people to get comfortable with being gay, especially when they live in places that are intolerant. Gay teens commit suicide because of it. People spend years trying to be "happy" in straight marriages/relationships before they finally give up and come out, with tremendous struggle and difficulty. Sometimes they lose their families, the support of their friends & neighbors because they just can't deny their true nature anymore. That's happiness?

Originally Posted by GloriaInTX

Yes I think we are all capable of changing our behavior. But that person has to really want to change, and I don't think that most gay people really want to change since they are happy the way they are.

Well, you know what they say about a leopard that can't change his spots.

Live and let live, I say.

And "being attracted" isn't a behavior. Acting on it is. To your point. You can change your behavior but not your very nature.

Originally Posted by Claire'sMommy

One day in the 1st grade I felt this instant attraction to a boy named Corrie. Wicked crush. I let him chase me around the playground. I hadn't been coached to like boys and had zero 'experience' with them before that. How is that explained? I was six years old. Furthermore, all this talk about choosing to be gay is nonsense. What person in their right mind would choose a life of social rejection, hatred, bigotry and family isolation? It is who.they.are.

So you never saw your parents or any other male/female relationships before that moment you got to school?

Originally Posted by GloriaInTX

Yes I think we are all capable of changing our behavior. But that person has to really want to change, and I don't think that most gay people really want to change since they are happy the way they are.

Then why should anyone else try take that away from them?

Originally Posted by ethanwinfield

Then why should anyone else try take that away from them?

Have I said anywhere that gays should be forced into some kind of treatment program to change? NO the whole topic is the opposite, that some people want to take away the option of a treatment program for gay people that DO want to change.