What do you think? Is it something you think might catch on, or just over the top and not really needed?
I don't think the way to deal with the negative aspects of gender roles is to get rid of gender.
I personally think it is very very sad. "Nearly all the children's books deal with homosexual couples, single parents or adopted children." What about the majority of the population that are Heterosexual families. If my child was in a homosexual family then this might be a perfect placec for them, but for children in heterosexual families then the preschools already out there would be more comfortable. I also place HIGH value on individuality.. to the point that GOD made us MALE and FEMALE.. and he said it was GOOD. The gender differences are good! It is not ok to make fun or think less of someone if they are more masculine or feminine.. this viewpoint is something we need to work on. HOWEVER, by erasing the gender all together we are saying it is wrong and worthless. Gender differences are OK, good. And we are called to different roles within the family dynamics.. this can still look like a mother at work and a father at home. It is the WAY the interaction happen that God outlines in the Bible.
DH-Aug 30th 1997 Josiah - 6/3/02 Isaac 7/31/03
I think it is just weird. There was an article in the Toronto Star a few months ago about a couple who refused to tell anyone the gender of their baby. They wanted the baby to not have the sterotypes attatched. There was a huge up roar from the community that this was some kind of creepy social experiment. I had to agree.
My DD is a girl and she knows she is a girl. My DD also plays with trucks and likes to get dirty but she also likes to play with dolls and color and read books. Genfer should not define a person or define what they can do, but I don't think it should be something that needs to be hidden.
I don't believe that the children from two family heterosexual homes are being marginalized.
"Different gender roles aren't problematic as long as they are equally valued,"
I agree with this from the article. Seems silly to me to want everyone to be the same. I embrace my feminity, but am not caged by it and have NEVER felt that way whether I wanted to play with a barbie or play catch.
My son is naturally a boy. I didn't push anything on him, but he is rough and tumble - all boy. I think a lot of gender stereotypes come from a place of truth initially because a majority in that gender have propensities towards different things. This isn't bad nor is it limiting, it is just statistically more common for certain traits to present in certain genders.
Weird. Just weird. Banning the hims and hers? Really?
I think the best way to break gender stereotypes is in the home. At our house, my oldest dd was SHOCKED when she went to kindy and learned that in some homes the dad goes to work and the mom stays home. She was flabbergasted, since at our house it is the opposite.....cracked dh and me up. We also have more than one set of gay friends and our kids know that love is what makes a family-- nothing else.
I think there is room for all types of families and am not worried about heterosexual families being marginalized...but this doesn't seem to be the way to solve the marginalization of homosexuals IMO.
DD 8.03, DD 6.05, DS 3.07, DD 5.09, and DS arrived 6.17.12
I find this to be going too far IMO. In my DD's preschool the blocks are next to the kitchen, not because someone planned it that way , but because that was a good place to fit them. There are no books with any kinds of families on the shelves most of the time because they are teaching about bugs and cars and careers etc, and not gender or family roles.
The problem with this preschool, as I see it, is that they are taking away ALL roles. If everyone can be the mom, then what are the moms roles? Why not suggest instead that a girl can play the Dad 'role', or that she be an aunt or other type of caregiver. If everyone is a 'Mom' and the kids only see one role for a 'mom' then there can only be confusion IMO. Maybe the article just didnt explain it well, Im sure it wasnt as in depth as it could have been. I see what they are trying to get at, I just see these kids being confused as they get older.
OK, I re-read, and just to clarify, even if you dont follow traditional roles, in families, jobs, life in general everyone has a 'role' that they play and things can get confusing if no one knows who does what. I am worried that that is what is missing for these kids.
Besides, if you want to break down gender roles, have a male preschool teacher, invite in a female mechanic, policeman, etc and a male nurse secretary etc and teach about careers. Dont hit these poor kids over the head with this.
Mom to Arianna (5), Conner (3) and Trent (my baby)