Melis, you're practically an empty nester
Kim, I just can't even think of a helpful thing to say. I'm totally that mama bear inside and it takes a lot for me to contain my feelings for the sake of my kids (esp DD - she picks up on my every emotion). I know this may sound kind of defeatist, but would it be detrimental to Aodhan, skill/development-wise, if he this summer played in a league that was slightly less competitive? I'm not against kids playing competitive sports, not at all, just maybe he needs one last season of playing in a league where he feels confident and happier. That is heart-breaking, and I just really have no good advice at all.
If his attitude about it all changes over this year or next i'd probably consider doing that. But I'm hesitant at this point to pull him.
Darla didn't make it. It was a really rough afternoon & evening. DH had a dr. appointment which he skipped to stay home with Weston. I picked up Tiven a bit early from a dance party at school and she wanted to go with me to the vet. The vet was really great with Tiven and used very age-appropriate language. She examined Darla carefully and determined that she had a tumor that had perforated her uterus and she was definitely dying. So we said goodbye, Tiven went to the waiting room, and I held Darla while they put the gas mask on her and she went right to sleep. I didn't stay for the shot as the vet said it can be kind of traumatic for onlookers since it has to go into her heart. I saw that once in Pulp Fiction, I don't need to see it again. At dinner we lit three candles: a white one to represent light & life, a black one to represent darkness & loss, and a red one to represent the special occasion which was our saying goodbye to Darla. I would have never thought I'd willingly have a rodent living in my home, but Darla sure was a sweet one and we're all going to miss her.
70% of the U.S. population now lives in a state where same-sex marriage is legal. At 36 and counting!
Oh Stacie, I am so sorry your kids are hurting. Losing a pet can be so hard. My DDs were 2 and 4 when we lost our St. Bernard. They were a mess for a week. The oldest still talks about that dog.
Molly, Morgan, Mia and Carson
Tonight there was an after hours night at the zoo for members only. I went with the girls (DH was working). It was a lot of fun. The had camel rides as well as other events. We got to see some of the new exhibits that are not open yet. We also got to see the baby cougars for the first time. They have been out for a few weeks, but we have not seen them yet. The baby snow leopard was also fun. He kept jumping up at the glass right in front of us.
Much to catch up on and I'm going to miss some. Kim --- I am sorry you're struggling so much with the sports thing. It's not a world I have had to deal with but I can only imagine. Stacie, so sorry, losing a pet is so hard for kids. I remember every loss like that from my childhood and of course as an adult too, I had a cat for 15 years and held her in my arms when they had to euthanize her. Very traumatic.
Bonita, that sounds fun.
I know there is so much more! It's been a busy week.
Juliet was in the kindergarten play this morning, she was a potato! A french fry in a beret, to be exact. All the kids were vegetables and the costumes were fantastic and the kids were hilarious and adorable. A bunch of parents were on the train into Manhattan with me afterwards and we were all gushing about it. So cute.
I had a terrible day at work, ugh.
Tomorrow our company closes early but I didn't tell our sitter or the kids, I want a little time for myself in the city in the afternoon. Either that or I'll end up working all day anyway. We'll see. I have photography class at night so I can't come back too late anyway.
What's everyone up to this weekend? We have a lot going on.
Saturday -- my baking ratios class that I have been waiting for.
Sunday -- Dave's crazy sister's wedding at the Church of Scientology. Oy!
Monday - Memorial Day parade, it's right by our house and really fun.
Laurie, mom to:
Nathaniel ( 11 ) and Juliet ( 7 )
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I've actually asked a few other people for advice and several of them, including my co-worker who is also a coach, and my sister whos kids are heavily involved in sports and both of them felt it would be appropriate to approach the coach myself and tell him that Aodhan's confidence has been shaken (without explicitly blaming it on the coach) and say he needs some validation in some form or another. I still haven't decided if i want to go that route because I'm afraid it could backfire.
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Laurie, a wedding at a church of Scientology could be really interesting, cant wait to hear about that!
Molly, Morgan, Mia and Carson