Thank you. That is one of the hardest things about losing Jenn. As a SAHM, I have a very limited amount of people I get to talk to. Daniel is great, but he talks to people all day. By the time he gets home he is ready for some quiet. By the time he gets home, I am dying to have someone to talk to. I used to talk to her every day. Sometimes two or three times a day.
I'm so sorry Bonita. I know how overwhelming the grief can be.
As for household chores, Dave is usually great. He's messy, but he also does 100% of the cooking, will go on any errand I need, etc.
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Baking Adventures In A Messy Kitchen (blog)
On the topic of household chores, Daniel is a perfectionist. He is much more likely to go behind me and reclean things. He is the type that one dirty dish in the sink will drive him crazy. I know if he was the one that was staying home, it would be spotless. Living with a neat freak though can be as irritating as living with a slob.
As an aside, I do remember the debate on recleaning things.
Bonita - ramble all you want! I wish for your sake that the family would let friend help. It can be really helpful to be able to do something other than just think about it.
My husband is a slob. He has not desire to clean anything. I cant complain to much though, he knows I like things clean so he will do it for me, plus he does so much other stuff (like all the grocery shopping)
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Rob is doing ok. ..but just ok. He is still in hospital as he can't move like he needs to yet. We found out today that the muscle connections that were removed were the ones for the muscle on the front of the thigh. And they aren't going to come back. So, although he should walk again, he will always have a limp. Because of course that is the muscle you use to bring your leg forward. But physio didn't seem to get that information. They have spent the past 3 days trying to get him to use that muscle! And he never will be able to. The communication at this hospital seems terrible. Did physio not read his chart? Did no one put that on? He is going to ask them about it. Cause in order for him to come home there are a few specific movements he needs to be able to do and if they are working with him wrong then that isn't going to happen. And he will have been in useless pain trying.
We still don't know about chemo. The pathology report isn't in till next week. I talked with a counsellor today who looked at his file and said they are pretty sure it is a low grade chondrosarcoma, but it also looked like something else and a higher grade. Which no one ever told us. So I don't know if it is the case. I am not telling Rob that though cause it won't help. And if his mom gets wind of that she will convince herself that they didn't get it all and it spread and he is dying (cause that is how she is). And that won't help anyone. And his doc never said any of that so it might not mean anything. So I am just holding onto that bit of info and worrying myself! sigh.
There is a chance that he will be home by friday. I really hope so. I miss him terribly. So does Kaiya. She just wants her daddy back. I haven't talked to my step kids in a few days but I am sure they are in the same state as me and Kai.
Look at me rambling too!
I went ahead and sent Jenn's half sister a message on FB asking her what the autopsy said. She said Jenn's aunt who has been labeled next of kin will not answer her phone or text to let anyone else know.
Side bar, does anyone know why an Aunt would be considered next of kin over half sisters? What is the order of relatives? The only blood relatives she has are three half sisters, two aunts, and a great aunt. (Cousins and nieces and nephews too I think)
Fuchsia~You have a lot on your plate right now. Hoping for quick physio and return home and quick answers!
Bonita~I always thought siblings came before aunts/uncles. Are they minors or not capable of making decisions in any way?
Here is a wiki listing:
Next of kin - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
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