I was reading an article (I'm not going to link it because I'm a little ashamed I read it) that had a paragraph in it where a woman thought her 3.5 year old was "emotionally gifted" because she had empathy for animals and could understand when her younger brother was upset.
Do you define "gifted" as academics, talent, and emotions or do you have a narrower view?
I know that there are different kinds of intelligence, and emotional intelligence is one of them, but I do tend to limit the word "gifted" to mean successful at something a bit more tangible like academics or even sports or music or art. "Emotionally gifted" seems a bit....subjective to me.
I'm with Alyssa.
I usually would call it good at something... good at music, a certain school subject, a certain sport or art, etc.
(shouldn't we concerned if they don't have empathy for their pets and siblings?)
I think its possible to be exceptionally good at something other than academics....something that warrant more recognition than saying 'They are very good at xyz' Much like we think of 'gifted' as being more than just 'very good' at academics.
I don't know if there is a universal term for that kind of thing though...but that doesn't mean it doesn't exist
I've never heard of "emotionally gifted." If that's her definition, then Tiven was that at age two when she started stepping over ants on the sidewalk and asking me to carry spiders outside. She sounds to me like someone who wants to think her child is super-special when she's really just a normal kid.
My definition of "gifted" is someone who routinely scores at or above 90% academically (and not necessarily standardized tests, but overall classroom work) or who has a particularly good talent for something artistic. I could play the piano pretty well, but I had to practice each piece a lot before I could play it without too many mistakes; a kid who could sit down & sight-read a new piece with few mistakes, I would call gifted.
Gifted to me indicates that someone is exceptional at something. I would use it for academics or the arts or something tangible. Emotionally gifted? No. We have a friend who's daughter is very connected to her emotions (for example, she was sad for the thanksgiving turkey). We would say that she is sensitive or emotionally connected, but not gifted. I honestly don't see it as a gift sometimes. She would have it easier sometimes if she wasn't so connected to her emotions. She might have even tasted the turkey. She would certainly have had a less sad thanksgiving.
I agree that it sounds like the mom is looking for a way to make their child "special".
I think we all want to think our kids are the best, but I would think it was normal to have compassion at that age. My youngest is a new 3yo. She has been able to tell when her sisters are upset for a long time.
If I had a dollar for every parent that tells me their kids were gifted at something, I would be able to retire.
I do not think a child can be gifted "emotionally' I think 3.5 is not an unusual age for empathy. Kids develop at different rates, my niece (who is actually gifted) had NO empathy at that age. She didnt develop that until much later. "Gifted" is a word that gets over used these days.
Agreed! My SIL told me once that 25% of the kids at her child's school are in GATE. This is not a magnet school, not an arts charter, there is nothing special about it that should attract a larger percentage of supposedly gifted kids, but they'd managed to classify a quarter of the kids as such. :rolleyes:
Originally Posted by mom3girls
A lot of schools use the phrase, "Gifted and Talented" for describing their children. Giftedness is used for many types of intelligence. It is not exclusively for academics. I don't know how overused the term is as I've never had to deal with parents.
Gifted children are very often more sensitive and sensitivities are manifested in a variety of ways, but non gifted children can be more sensitive as well and not be gifted. There isn't one single trait that indicates giftedness, rather it's the complete child exhibiting many signs of giftedness as well as scoring in certain percentiles and being observed by a Psychologist especially trained for identifying giftedness.
Stacy, the schools here who have a GATE program ID children who score in a certain percentile rather than IQ. Some feel too much emphasis is placed on IQ and some feel otherwise. Some GATE programs accept students with an IQ of 120, which isn't a 'gifted' IQ. Usually the identification of giftedness by Psychologists begin around 130+. So for this reason a lot of students can get in to GATE programs. Most bright kids would be able to get into GATE programs. I am not sure parents really understand that.