I don't think that without even knowing her we can say for sure that the choice is "possibly traumatizing her a little" with an abortion or "absolutely traumatizing her a lot" with birth. I think that the topic of abortion (even for a mentally handicapped woman) is a lot more emotionally complicated than that.
And I still think that she (should have) some basic autonomy over her own body.
To give another example, if she had cancer and wanted to refuse chemo because it made her too sick, I would support that decision, even if it meant that she died. I think it's okay that we completely take medical decisions out of our actual children's hands because they are actually children and will grow up to take ownership of their bodies someday. I don't think it's the same thing with a mentally handicapped adult; I repeat, she's NOT a child, and I don't think it's right to treat her as if she were a perpetual child for the rest of her life. She's not a child, she's a mentally handicapped woman. They are different. I believe that as an adult she has the right to make as many decisions about herself and her life as is possible. It's probably not possible to allow her to make her own decisions about where she lives, things like that, but it *is* possible to let her make her own decision about this. I think we should respect her enough to respect that.
-Alissa, mom to Tristan (5) and Reid (the baby!)
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I was out of town for the weekend, so I have just really skimmed over all the new stuff. It sounds like the parents, while definitely not perfect, are dealing with a lot of red tape when trying to make choices for her. I cant say what I would have done now, it sounds like there is a lot of regulations on what needs to happen in that state.
Molly, Morgan, Mia and Carson