Hot or Not?

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Hot or Not?

Excerpt taken from:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/vicki-larson/picking-the-wrong-mate_b_873044.html

"Attractive men don't make the best husbands, according to researchers. Guys who are rated as the most masculine -- a billboard for a man's good genes -- tend to have more testosterone, and men with higher testosterone levels are 43 percent more likely to get divorced than men with normal levels, 31 percent more likely to split because of marital problems and 38 percent more likely to cheat. In other words, they may be better cads than dads."

Do you agree? Do you think attractive men aren't the best husbands? Remember the old song about making an ugly woman your wife? Agree/disagree? Should attractiveness even matter when deciding about marriage?

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I am attracted to my husband, I think being attracted to a person certainly helps the relationship to thrive. There are too many variables to 'hot' or 'not', what one woman believes is attractive might not be to the next one. Interesting study, though. Not sure I believe a 'sexier' husband makes a bad husband, I know some very attractive husbands that are fantastic partners to their wives!

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"RebeccaA'07" wrote:

I am attracted to my husband, I think being attracted to a person certainly helps the relationship to thrive. There are too many variables to 'hot' or 'not', what one woman believes is attractive might not be to the next one. Interesting study, though. Not sure I believe a 'sexier' husband makes a bad husband, I know some very attractive husbands that are fantastic partners to their wives!

I agree with this. I think that attractiveness is such an objective idea, and I find that the more I like somebody, the better looking I find them. There have been people in my life that I remember I thought were not very good looking at all when I first met them, but then once I got to know and like them, I notice their pretty smiles and gorgeous eyes and beautiful hair and I realize that they are actually lovely, in my eyes anyway. And the opposite is true for some people that I have met that I initially thought were really "hot." So I think it's hard to say whether or not a "hot" husband would make a bad husband, because to me, I think that anyone I loved would be "hot". I think my DH is a straight up stone fox, and I'm sure part of that is just because I love him so much (the other part is just that he's a straight up stone fox. LOL)

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I would not be surprised if the study is correct. Having said that, it is only accounting for trends, not absolutes. It is a fact that relatively higher levels of testosterone make men physically appear more masculine. It is a fact that on average, women like more masculine looking men. That definitely doesn't mean that all women prefer that. On an individual basis it really affects very little and should definitely not be the basis for deciding who you should be with.

I do believe that men that have excess testosterone are going to have a harder time being in a successful relationship. Excess testosterone does increase the likelihood of agression and anger issues. It has nothing to do with how much women are into their partners, it is about the generic attractiveness of their partners. I totally agree that for many (hopefully most) women, their hubby is incredibly attractive to them but they are basing that off of so much more than just initital reaction to their appearance. I certainly think my hubby is incredibly attractive and I would pick him over any other guy regardless of how attractive the other guy is. That doesn't mean that DH is the most attractive man in the world generally speaking, but to me he is and I think that is a sign of a healthy relationship. The study isn't addressing how hot you think a man is, it is talking about people in general.

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I honestly don't think it matters. If someone is going to cheat, they're going to cheat whether or not they're ugly or good looking. Now, does someone who's extremely attractive get hit on more than ugly people? Yes... all day long. But again, this goes back to someone's character. I consider myself attractive and I get hit on, even by fellow employees... and they might as well be talking to a brick wall... as there's no way in hell I would ever cheat on my husband.