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    Would you go to a shower if you weren't invited to a wedding or a reception for a destination wedding?

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    Sure, but only if it's someone I like rather than an obligation (parents' friends etc.)

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    Yeah i would...if i liked the person and all.

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    Nope. I am anti-wedding as it is and to me, to invite someone to a shower and not the wedding is just a way to get them to give you a gift but not have to shell out money for them to be a part of your "big day".

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    Quote Originally Posted by KimPossible View Post
    Yeah i would...if i liked the person and all.
    Yep.

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    Nope. You can invite people to the wedding that you didn't invite to the shower, but not vice versa. Super tacky. Gift grab. Anyone like a close friend or family member where I'd want to go to the shower, I'd expect to be invited to the wedding.
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    Yes, only if I really liked them though.

    In general I think it's poor form. Though I would only blame the host, not the bride or person for whom the party is being thrown.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JorgieGirl View Post
    Though I would only blame the host, not the bride or person for whom the party is being thrown.
    That makes no sense because the host should get the guest list from the bride. I would make an exception for a surprise shower, because then maybe the person putting together the shower guest list might not know who was invited to the wedding.
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    Quote Originally Posted by wlillie View Post
    Would you go to a shower if you weren't invited to a wedding or a reception for a destination wedding?
    Why not? An invitation to a shower doesn't mean one is necessarily invited to the wedding and vice versa. I honestly wouldn't think twice about it. Usually a shower is more of a local or specific group type of thing (ie fellow church members, coworkers, etc). I certainly wouldn't expect to get invited to a shower (unless I was maybe immediate family) for an out of town wedding I was attending. At the same time, I wouldn't expect to be invited to the wedding for every shower I'm invited to.

    Quote Originally Posted by Spacers
    That makes no sense because the host should get the guest list from the bride. I would make an exception for a surprise shower, because then maybe the person putting together the shower guest list might not know who was invited to the wedding.
    Maybe they do things differently in my neck of the woods but typically the bride/groom has no part in the planning of any shower I've ever been to/been involved in/heard of (other than here). The host will usually get in touch with the parents of the bride and groom to find out of there are certain individuals who should be invited but generally it does not follow the wedding guest list and even if the bride/groom know about it beforehand, they don't help plan it. I actually think it's more of a gift grab to invite people to both and expect them to spend money on two gifts.

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    I participate in showers for co-workers who have gotten married (or have had babies), even though I'm not really friends with them and wouldn't be invited to their wedding. I don't think I would participate in the shower for other circumstances, unless maybe they were having a destination wedding. If they were local, I'd hope I was a good enough friend to invite to the wedding, not just good enough for a shower and a gift. I suppose if they were having a local wedding with family only, I would do the shower.

    Okay, so I guess the short answer is, I would attend a shower only in a few specific circumstances. Otherwise, no. And, I'd think it was weird to be invited to a shower and not to the wedding.
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